#21 | Dads Anonymous | being a parent is hard!

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Hello and welcome to the lads. Anonymous. It's episode 21, a podcast about two best mates of over 20 years. Invite you to join their safe space where all manner of subjects will be discussed. We'll focus on a specific subject matter first and then answer your questions, dilemmas or need for advice or handled anonymous. Fucking motherfuck a ninja mate.

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To be fair. Sit back, relax and enjoy the podcast. To be fair, in 20 episodes, that's the only time you slipped up once. Yeah, I know. That is pretty good. Shit. And I know that is one of the words that I find really hard and don't really pronounce. There's another word as well. I can't quite remember what it is that I fucking.

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I can, I can never pronounce, but never mind. We move, we move. How are you doing, mate? As you know, a terrible thing. I'd done a terrible thing. You were in the room and I think back on it and I go, why did I do that? That's such a cruel thing to do. On our first ever live show, there was a there was a segment where I brought my dad up on stage and just gave him difficult his name.

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Pronounce right. That Russian footballer you used to play for Spurs? You know, replaced Berbatov. Yeah. Roman providing dunk changing. All right. Number one. And it's just 200 people looking in not being able to say words. What they're doing. Do you remember? Gosh I remember cause I remember oh so bad. I'm kind of see him. We're going out, get some lunch and do a bit of shopping.

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After this, I'm gonna apologize to him. I think you should. I think you should. I think you should record it as well. Record the audio, you apologize. And just to see his reaction of my dad is exactly the same. Like we'll be at the football and he'll be talking to me about a player and he'll pronounce it so badly, I have no idea what player he's to.

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It's fucking mental. I feel like I'm really having to work on not going that way. I can feel it coming in in the same way as you get. Oh, I can see it coming. Yeah, you can see it. Me? Yeah, yeah, yeah, I can get the, you know, in the same way as you get older, you become more conservative in your political leanings.

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Yeah everybody does. And if and if, if you are and it'd be some listening to this I'm sure almost certainly if you're in your like 50s and 60s and you haven't sort of nudged towards the center politically, you're a weirdo. Yeah. It doesn't understand the real world. No jokes aside, I, I can feel myself not being able to pronounce names, and I have to really work it by force myself to say Postecoglou.

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Postecoglou. Postecoglou, yes. Oh, my dad still can't say Postecoglou. Yeah, I think he's trying to press it isn't that doesn't matter. So he's speaking to me and I know what he means. Yeah. No you're right. Question do you dream the last three nights I've had three dreams. I never dream, really? Never? Never. No. Not normally. I dreamt you dream every night.

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Yeah, yeah. Bloody hell. I dreamt three days ago that my missus split up with me. That's a regular dream I have. And I wake up and I am fucking. I am just do you grab onto beside me? I wake up and grab on to her. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Nah, I don't do that. But, I like, I am.

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Why is that effeminate if you do, I no, no, no, I just wake up and I'm angry. Like she's actually cheated on me. Oh, she's actually left me, and I'm just like, she. And then I tell her about it and she's like. But that actually hasn't happened. You don't need to, but I feel it. You know what I mean?

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Yeah. And then I worry about it, I don't know. Oh, fuck man, what would you do? What would you do if you Mrs. Left you? Well, I would probably just live on my own for eternity, really, and see out my days like that. How would it feel? It would feel. It would feel bad. It feel very, very bad.

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Would it be like I'd have to come and sit with you? Bad and make sure you don't do anything silly. Bad? No no no no no no. None of that stuff. I'd be fine. And the the second dream I had, I was at a wedding. Ask me some. God, what? What am I asking? Well, how would you feel?

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How would you feel? I'd murder and I'd much. And then I'd murder me. That's the. Actually, that is the correct answer, is it? Yeah. Yeah, yeah. I mean, no one's ever. Yeah, exactly. Very dead. That's it. Take it all out. I don't know what to do, Ricky. I don't know what to do. I would kill me. Yeah, what if I.

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I don't really want to think about it. Even if even it even if she's in a bit of a mood, it breaks my heart. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Because I feel like that's wasted time. We could, we could, we could, we could be having a great time getting on right right now. But we're not. Because for some reason, we might be mildly irritated with each other.

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And that that breaks my heart. I don't want that. Yeah, I know, and the thing is, the thing also, the thing is that that breaks my heart. It's almost certainly my doing. I didn't I didn't I didn't hang the washing up when I said that fucking shit at them. You know, I should I really should have done. And it's 11:00 at night and now she's doing it and I'm not I I'll, I'll help out.

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It's too late, it's too late. Late. Yeah. Hey. No, no, I'm with a the, So yesterday. Rick, this this broke my heart a bit when she told me this. We went to see a house day before yesterday, and I loved it, I loved it, I really wanted, like, there was there was some issues with it. The weirdly, the garden to the house is at the front, across the road.

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So there's a road. How nice that is. But it was a private road. There wasn't cars, but there was a road in between. It's not like it was a busy road. There wasn't cars going up and down it or anything like that, but it was separate from the house and the house is amazing. It was well on the budget and I'm like up on it as soon as as soon as you get in the car, we put in an offering and she wasn't going, oh, whoa, whoa, wait, wait.

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Which, let's think about it anyway, I did. I said, okay, fair enough. She went to work and I'm like, takes me, takes me to tell me to make an offer. Anyway, I think she could feel that energy because she was really worried about telling me that she she didn't like it. She didn't want to put an offer in, but the thought of her having to go for that entire day feeling, anxious about telling me I was that I don't that's that's heartbreaking.

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That's fine. Fuck the house. I'm going to set fire to it. I've been bought already. Literally. On the day it went up, it was sold. It was that nice? Really? Yeah. Big back garden in the front is like. It's a bit much. My mum was weird. Was weird, was weird. It was weird. We, we had a voice note sent in this week, and yet we did.

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We did indeed. And it was a suggestion for a topic to talk about. Now anybody listening? You are free to send in what topics you would like flavonoid to discuss, and we would discuss them. And not just a single kind of, throwaway comment like I shit myself wants to talk about shitting yourselves. We cannot do an hour podcast of actually, you know what?

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We probably could, because I've done that a lot. Yeah, but you know what? You know, just something where we can put some meat on the bones for it. So send it in to lads and on pod at gmail.com. And you are now going to listen to the voice now. But. So this is the pod now. We're not doing what we planned.

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What do you mean? We're going to play this and talk about this for now. No, we're not just going to like referencing it with a player. Now.

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Can I let's band from Australia here. Been listening to you voice for a while. That's an old fan of the foreign cook and I know what I download. I just want to say keep up the good work. And I have an idea for a future episode. It's quite good listening to Flav get all giddy talking about sharks. And it also be good to hear Ricky talk about his individual passions as well.

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Possibly his home, rhinos and other skills, his land. Because obviously football clubs are a community. Except for those well, it's wankers. It'd just be good for you guys to talk about things that you personally feel passionate about and really enjoy on your own. Just want to say thanks. A look at please have a good one. Cheers! I love that every time you finish a sentence he goes up in that.

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That's how you do Ricky. Well, your interests is lovely. And he said, well it's wankers now, this isn't a football podcast. Yeah, there are no rivalries here. Yeah. And there are those scumbags listening to this podcast. Yeah. So let's just be nice to them. It's not their fault. Yeah, they're mentally disabled. It isn't that brutal. All right, so this is an all inclusive podcast.

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And anyone from any club, even that scummy little rotten club or a welcome welcome to listening to, dare me. So interests and hobbies. We we will put that in yet you start. Yeah. No, I'm not going to we're not going to do it now. But I'm just saying this is a topic that we can we can certainly pick up and use for a podcast.

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That's that's fantastic. So anybody else you don't even have to send the invoice note, just send it in an email and we will that we will do these topics. No voice note I like voice this voice notes nothing more. What more voice note how many do we need this week? Just that one, right? Just that. So there are thousands of people listen to this.

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And last week I said please send an invoice that no one's done it. They're just wandering around listening to this willy nilly. That's what they do. They're not paying in high enough. That's one way or one way. Always download or download. Leave reviews right and send invoice those. That's all we ask. Yeah.

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Do you go back on one of the, segments from last week, something I, you know, was a gentleman had said he'd use shampoo as a lubricant to masturbate. Right. And he said by doing that, it made his skin flaky. And it was just a very horrible experience. Now somebody has emailed in to say, just want to reach out after the section.

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Don't use shampoo. I just wanted to confirm this does happen. The story brought me back to my teens to something only I know myself. In my early teens, when I discovered masturbation, I also would use lubricants and anything I could lay my hands on. I just wanted to confirm if you do use shampoo as a lube, you really need to wash it off after as it indeed becomes very uncomfortable and the skin starts to flake and can even cause bleeding.

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So lads, if you're out there and you're looking for something, don't use shampoo. I don't know, like just a I don't know. I've got two things to say, Ricky. Right. Okay. One, we're completely ignoring the fact that he's masturbated 13 times in a day and that that could have played a factor. What? From last week? Last week.

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So this is a kid who had been masturbating all day. Yeah. And then he complained that the shampoo had made his balls break. So let's ignore it. At least acknowledge that there might have been other things afoot than the. Yeah, yeah. And then another thing is, we're not American. We don't usually recant over it. No we don't when there's nothing.

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It was just urine, in fact, isn't it? Bears have some friction, but there's no one better in the world at me, at the masturbating. No one. Really? Yeah. And I don't believe. I don't either, just just to just to clarify how this is such a commitment and and the clean up would just be. Just take the outcome. Yeah.

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What it takes essentially 90 to 100 seconds. Yeah. He's now taking like five minutes including cleanup. But no way I got time for that. I ain't got time for that. You're single. If you got time for that, your single, Before we jump into today's topic, the people just quit. He's done. It comes on one bender pilot. He said the same stuff before.

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And friend of the show and our friend. He said his wife is convinced that any time he's in the house and she can't see him, that he's masturbating. Wherever he is in the house, if she can't see him, she thinks he's masturbating. It's probably true now. Filthy. Disgusting. Yeah. Thank you to everybody who is tagging us on Instagram.

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We love seeing where in the world you're listening and the one that really caught my attention this week was this gentleman who was on his canal boat listening to lads, and his boat was on the lock. And, you know, you know, it floats up. And then they, you know, after maybe he was doing some of that. And I was like, this is fucking great.

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Love that. So should be more interesting pictures. Tag us in Instagram Stories. Lads anon pod. And we will feature them in our stories and on our grid. Now we're going to jump into today's topic, just which is is parenting. Oh, parenting. That being a dad. Yeah. That just quickly on that lock to interesting facts about locks.

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Yeah. Please do it where I live, a there's a locks or a series of locks called, Cairnhill locks. Yeah. And it's the longest world record for the most amount of locks in the smallest distance of canal. Oh, my God, I know that. I've seen pictures of it. The 27. It's, like, literally ten minutes from me. And you've never taken me.

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Well, I don't know who's into into that canal a lot. I will show you for sure. And you know why there's so many? Because there's a fucking hell. And it's the only way to get up a hill when you're on the canal. Boat is through locks. So there's, like, to get up this hill. It's 27 locks. It takes a day just to get up there.

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Oh fuck yeah. That would be a better. That would be agg doing that. What would you do if there's two canal boats coming in different ways. You just have to wait for each other. Yeah. You just fill up and you'll be in the same one and have to go up and down. But I don't avoid Cane Hill locks like the plague.

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If anybody. For sure. Right. You mentioned that you're going out with your dad later. Yeah. Got to have some food and shopping. What was your dad like when you were growing up? It was good. Good. Dad. You know, he was a working class English bloke from London, so. Yeah, he showed his affection. To, you know, how he showed his affection?

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Really? But. But he was there, and he was present and he provided and and he was kind. He had a temper. I was scared of him until I got to. Yeah. Yeah, when I was younger, I was scared. Yeah, yeah. You had a fucking. You had a temper. But I think you need the other support of having to say there needs to be.

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If your mum is soft, your dad needs to be hard. There needs to be a a balance will be gone. Okay, okay. Yeah, but that's so. So that's my dad provided that stun. You know, stun. There was a line that you wouldn't cross. And you learned a lot about line stepping in at home. And so, we've had a an amazing relationship for our entire lives.

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We've only once I've. I've ever lost my cool with him. And I don't think he's ever lost. He's cool with me at all. I'd never gave him cause to to, to be annoyed or to be angry with me. Legitimately angry? You're good boy. Yeah. I was afraid of getting in trouble when I was a kid. Big time.

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There was one time, Rick, when I, I when I didn't do anything wrong. Right? I didn't do anything wrong. To this day, I didn't I, I absolutely didn't do anything wrong. But there's a few things actually, that I've done that I've got in trouble with. But he wasn't like super annoyed. Never hit me or anything like that. But it was one time.

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I've never been so afraid in all my life. I went and played these, play football for my school, and there was a tournament after school in London Fields, now in my brain at that time, I didn't realize how far a London field was from where I. It's not that far, but when you're younger and it's dark and you haven't told your dad you're going to play football after school and you haven't come home and he doesn't know where you are and there's no mobile phones.

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Yeah, that was an angry dad. I remember I got home and he was driving. He drove a transit van. He's a plumber. And he went. He looked at me as he drove past to find a parking space down the street. And I'm waiting anyway. You are fucking dead, boy. And I, my ass fell out also on the road.

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But when he got in, I think he was so relieved that nothing that happened to me that I hadn't been swept off into some sort of pedophile ring. Yeah, that, he was fine. He wasn't angry with me. He just said, did you win? I went, no, we lost. Then I got sent off. For fuck's sake. My, mine's completely different to yours.

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So my parents split up when I was, like, 5 or 6, so. And when I grew up, it was mainly my my mum and my sister bringing me up. So it's a single parent household. And then the relationship was my dad, you know, I'd go to his house on the weekends and stuff, but it was a bit weird because where he lived, he, you know, he had a house to rent his rooms out to other people.

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So, like, walking around the house is a bit awkward. And then we would watch films in his room, and it was films that he wanted to pick, mainly old films that had Jean-Claude Van Damme. Well, yeah. Well, I, well, I, I to watch what said like Bloodsport. Yeah. Jeff Warren okay. Growing up, growing up in the 80s, if you weren't watching drunk or Van Damme movies that foreign, the, my all of it was call it a what was your favorite?

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Just quickly. What your favorite Van Damme movie? I don't know which one I was. There's one where the the the the main villain in it was called Sandman, and I think he picked him up by the throat and then pushes him against a pipe, and the pipe goes into the back of his head. I can't remember what that might be, therefore.

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And, maybe, that rings a bell. Actually, I laughed. All that shit, that action movie shit like Commando Predator. Yeah. Films are great. Back then. I think maybe it's because the nostalgia. But Bloodsport and Kickboxer are legitimately. And I will say this with my hand on my heart, stand up to this day as legitimately good action films.

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Yeah, I would say I had great double impact when I had a twinge. Remember that one? Yeah. Yeah, yeah. Yeah, man. Call it a. So, it's like growing up, I didn't have, like, a, a father figure around the house, you know what I mean? Yeah. Partying, the wisdom and this, that and the other,

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And it wasn't until I was about maybe 12 to 14 around those times where I was playing football for the school, and my dad would come and watch or rugby, and then we started going to the football together. And then as I kind of was a young adult, like teen, that's where our relationship really took off, because we used to go football and fishing and and all the other stuff.

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So that kind of authority side and with it being in my house, I would I don't really remember it and I don't have it. And I know my dad's going to be listening to this. So really, he will be listening. And I actually I did want to, preface this podcast that when I say that's right, this is the whole spectrum, right?

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Step dads, role models, you name it. Like if you if you see your nephews or your nieces and you know, you're bringing them up, all these lot are included. But I'm just going to leave it as dads just to be easy for this podcast. Do you parent not your dad? I don't think so. I think like, maybe the stubbornness, I think I feel like I'm strict.

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I think, like, maybe I'm too straight. Certainly with I don't know if I am. I think about this a lot, Rick. I'll say in your, relationship, is it good cop, bad cop? Are you the bad cop? Yeah. Right. Yeah, yeah yeah I yeah I am I not not, not only is, she's an amazing parent and she's an she's amazing mum, but she also has a line.

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Yeah. And if the kids push it, then she will definitely step in. So it isn't like it's not like, oh, it's not like that convincing thing where the mum lets them get away with murder and that and the. That's the one that sort of brings the cane down. It's not like that. She has to definitely has a line.

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And then I've seen a guy a couple of times where she, where one of them have just sort of pushed it, but not nothing major. But I, I often sit and think about whether or not I've been too harsh and, and what impact that has. And do they like me and and it's not easy sometimes to like a stepdad who is, who is trying to lay down the law, and legitimately coming from a place of love, obviously, because you want them to be able to operate in the world and, and get on and understand, you know, consequences and actions for, you know, consequences from actions.

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And so you but, but and so I feel like in the time I'm doing the right thing but it's not it's horrible man, I, I absolutely hate it. I hate discipline and yeah, especially right. Well I just hate it. But it has to be done because yeah, I, I remember when my mum had partners when I was younger and they were like living in the, you know, normal relationship.

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But as a kid I always knew that my mum would stick up for me. So I would purposely be a dick knowing I was going to come out of this situation the better one, and my mum would have a word with her partner. I even I knew I was being a prick. You know what I mean? Really? Yeah, I remember like, well, give me an example.

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One of them a fucking absolutely loved Star Trek, a fucking hated it. We had one telly in our house. I'm not sitting down to watch Star Trek every time. I would just have the remote next to me and not just keep turning it off and you turn it back on again. I turn it off. And then one time he fucking stormed over to the TV.

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He picked up, ripped out the wall and like, went to kind of like throw it in the back garden and then I looked at my mom just to say, okay, we see you see what you got there, is that when you walk around this house, do you or the. Well, I because I was young and I was a teenager and I was just pushing boundaries and I don't even like him now.

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I didn't want him there. And and I was just like, you know, just being a knob, really. So I get, like, although your kids won't, wouldn't have been, like that, you know, you've raised them since, like. No, look, I've got I've been there. I haven't raised them there. Fathers there as well. He's he's a part of their life and that that I, I haven't I've helped them and I've been there for them and I always be there for them.

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I said the same in my wedding speech and I, I do, if you remember. But I wanted to make it clear that, you know, I get a lot of praise for people say nice things about, it's really nice that you've, you've taken like, you've got into a, relationship and, you know, there's two kids and you, you know, you've treated them like your own kids and stuff, but I don't, I don't that makes me feel uncomfortable because I've benefited so much more than I have from from being in that house and being with them.

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And it isn't a case of, it's a hardship. And it was never a hardship. It was. It was never it is difficult. It is challenging at times. But a reward from knowing them and being in their lives is so much greater than, than the difficult periods where you're having to tell them off for your having to just ask where to put your school shirt on for about a 15 time every morning, right?

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All those things are tiny moments, and they were frustrating at the time to lose my cool sometimes. But I benefit so much right? So that sort of made it clear. And also that they have a dad as well. And that said, that said dad. All right. So it's important to always acknowledge that, so yeah, I mean, I don't know what I was saying.

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I can't remember what I'm saying now. What was it? Well, what we kind of, veered from the good cop, bad cop, and I most definitely the the bad cop. Oh, yeah. In the house. Yeah. Yeah. So only they could go. Yeah, they all good girls. But like you were saying, man, I don't want to fucking find five wet towels down the bottom of a bed or, like this, that and the other lights on and stuff like, I'm so, so, so so, so.

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Because you don't you don't blow it the first time. No. Right. The first time you see a light on you might half turn it off. What does is it build up for the day. And then and then what happens when you you're like, well I've had enough. Yeah. I grabbed the wet towels while she was in bed and from her head and said, what are these?

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And she is like, I'm sorry, dad, I forgot. And I was like, you forgot. There's wet towels everywhere, man. Like, how can you get you can't just you can't walk around these house willy nilly, you know, just leaving stuff everywhere for mum and dad to pick up. We're not like your servants and stuff like, come on, man, you got a pool.

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You wait, you're 12 years old. You're going to be 13 next, mum. But no, no 12 year old does that though. Do they know? They don't. But you got to try it. You've got to try. You have to have a go. No no no you have to have to keep going a record. This is what I think. You have to keep going because eventually they'll get it and then it will become second nature.

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And then that's something that they've rounded off and it's fine. I don't know if they will back in me and they'll just like, look at me like, see, I'm a fucking no. It's just an uphill battle. Just not free women against me. Do you feel like you're fighting that battle on your own? Then? Yeah. Oh, for sure, for sure.

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And I will do the bad cop and I'll do a bit of a raised voice, not shouting, but raised voice. And then I hear my missus get out from wherever she is in the house, just scuttle into their room to kind of put them at ease, to say, oh, like, don't worry, should you should have picked up that wet towel.

00:28:34:22 – 00:29:00:04
But it happens to everyone. We all, we all forget where it's at. And I'm like, I can hear what you're saying. I can hear what you're fucking saying. So, so, so she comes in to make them feel better because she's feel sorry for them. They've been told off. Yeah, that's not bad, but that's exactly, Yeah. And and so there were times like you were just saying about your wife that there is a line and that she will, if that line is crossed, that she will blow it.

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And my Mrs.. Never, ever blows a lid. Ever. But there are occasions. And when she blows a lid, me and the girls run into another room and we giggle because mum is really fucked off, red. And there's nothing any of us can do. Which is why they're laughing. Which is. Which is quite funny. With the good cop, bad cop.

00:29:22:20 – 00:29:56:00
Is there anything that you do? Because I'm speaking from from personal experience here. And the good cop, bad cop that you do to try and grab their attention to do stuff. Now, like you were just saying, I have done things and not done things, but said things where I know it will get their attention because it's mean. And I know that emotionally it will be a pull on their heartstrings or something like that.

00:29:56:01 – 00:30:20:15
Now I recognize that I'm doing it and that I've done it, and then after I've done it, I will go in, I apologize, what is it? I kind of like like my my youngest, she absolutely hates being called a baby. Oh, stop being a baby. Yeah, like acting like a baby. You're acting like your little niece, man. Your niece is four years old.

00:30:20:17 – 00:30:37:12
Sorry. My niece is four years old. You're acting like your cousin. Like you're ten years old. You need to grow up. You need to, you know, that kind of stuff. And she gets so sad. I'm not a baby that you are. You. You're acting like. And then I'm just like. Rick. Like you've had this done to yourself before.

00:30:37:13 – 00:30:46:01
Yeah. You know how it feels, man. It's crushing. Yeah. Why are you fucking doing this? And then I catch myself.

00:30:46:03 – 00:31:12:08
Calm down and go in and try and explain why I acted in that way. But it's so fucking crushing, man, because I didn't mean to hurt her feelings in that way, but. But once you know, like you're saying about, will the 15th time of the year and it gets to that 15th time and you're like, I don't know what else to do, I'm going to throw a fucking baby out there, see how you like them apples.

00:31:12:08 – 00:31:34:24
And then I'm like, God, why did I do that? And I why, Ricky man. Yeah. You sit, don't you? You sit. And when you're on your own after it's happened and you ruminate. Yeah, yeah. Exactly that. And the same with my eldest as well. Like, I know that she would, she hates anything where she feels that I, she would have done something on purpose to hurt my feelings.

00:31:35:01 – 00:31:50:22
Very emotional. Go. And I would have been like, oh, oh, I see you said that to your mum. You didn't say that to your dad. Well, thanks for that. And walk down the stairs. And I know that I've landed a blow there. Yeah. And she'll come down and she'll be like, dad, I didn't mean it like. And I'm not.

00:31:50:22 – 00:32:15:00
Why have I done that? Why, why like I again I have lived through through that with parents and stuff like that. And like I try and be as everyone does, try and be a better parent or learn from their parents or whatever. But yet there are those times where I fucking blow my fuze and I use, I weaponize these different emotions and I, I shouldn't do it.

00:32:15:00 – 00:32:30:11
And I like throughout the years and I'm fucking way calmed down and I and I don't do that and I haven't done it for years, but it does stick with me that when they were younger that I did say that and I did do that, and I just hope that they don't remember any of it. Yeah, they remember the good times.

00:32:30:11 – 00:32:55:09
I think they will. They definitely will remember it. But it's not. It's fine because you're human and it's normal. It's a normal process to sometimes not deal with a situation that. Or you could have dealt with a situation better, but your emotional human being like anyone. And so it's really difficult to be measured, when, when, when you're frustrated or you need something to be done.

00:32:55:11 – 00:33:19:11
So you will often say stuff that you like. There was I mean, there's I can't pinpoint any time where I've sort of was on the line, but I'm definitely up. Like I definitely said, stuff that's upset the and most of the discipline this stuff is from is towards will because Chloe's very relatively then she's she's, she's she's like the first child.

00:33:19:13 – 00:33:49:22
And I always tend to be a little bit more like calmer. And yeah. And they kind of do is it's hold and they get themselves up. They don't have to be woken up for 3 or 4 times to be told to get up at. Yeah, all that sort of stuff. So a lot of it. But there is I often things I wish I hadn't because essentially my words and my actions have made them feel negative, even if the, the point of it was is it was come from a place of love and wanting them to, to to try to teach them a lesson.

00:33:49:24 – 00:34:13:09
It's still sometimes impulse in the wrong way. But I did had a bit of a breakthrough. The other day is so so so I'm also the challenges. When they were tiny is ever evolving. Is never this, never this point where you think, oh, I've completed it, they're perfect. They're done because it's like, oh, as they get older, you like, oh, there's a new challenge here that I didn't anticipate.

00:34:13:11 – 00:34:38:13
And one of the ones was when Kids are I think I saw this on TikTok. So take it with a pinch of salt. But the teenagers brain, in their early part of years, find it very difficult to empathize and understand and accept responsibility. It's only when they get to a certain age, or the brain develops in a certain way, where they start to understand consequences for actions so they can stop themselves from doing something.

00:34:38:15 – 00:35:00:06
Yeah, because they are aware of the consequences of that action right up to a certain point. They're not really able to do it. So they understand consequences when it comes to them. But is it their door but they aren't able to foresee into the future and go, I shouldn't do this because this is going to happen eventually. They get it right and what they do is they'll do damage prevention.

00:35:00:08 – 00:35:19:05
So they'll tell you half truths, give you something, but not the whole truth. World does this all the time. It's fucking makes you laugh. I can't laugh it in there, but it will get, like, attention at school. And I'll get for the story. So much so that I know now when he's not telling me what.

00:35:19:07 – 00:35:34:03
Because all he's trying to do is preserve. He doesn't want to be told off. He doesn't want to, you know, lose his PlayStation for the night or whatever it might be. Yeah. So just give me a little bit and then. Oh, like, does that really happen? Yeah. I'm going to call to school. They're going to tell me everything.

00:35:34:04 – 00:35:54:08
Called him a couple of times. It has just been that like flicked his mate with a towel. He got a fucking isolation. It's been a day in isolation for flicking his mate of a towel a day out of learning in a room by himself for a bit of hijinx. And I've called the school because I was like, this is fucking mad.

00:35:54:12 – 00:36:12:10
This can't be true. Yeah. He's not. He's not telling me the truth because no way they're putting him in a room for a day. If this is if that's all it is. So he must have done more. He must have got into a fight. He must have done something else. And they fucking they. It's what he did. That's all he did, Rick.

00:36:12:10 – 00:36:32:17
And they separated him. And he had a day out of his learning because of that. This school is super strict. It is super strict. But you know and he's not it doesn't work that well in that system. He's not a naughty boy at all. He's in fact, he's a lovely, lovely kid. I'm so proud to to, you know, be a part of his life and being part of raising him.

00:36:32:19 – 00:36:49:02
And he's just a lovely, lovely, lovely boy. But he does get detentions every now and then. But the stuff he gets is that you would have you would have been expelled from the school, Rick. That's the that's how. Yeah. How strict they are. The, the my missus always says tells the girl is about the stuff I used to do at school.

00:36:49:02 – 00:37:14:09
And I'm like this, I know, and this ain't helping anyone because it was ridiculous. I yeah, I definitely should have expelled. What are the tricks, right. That I have I'd say recently done within the last few years when there is this kind of match, not a slanging match, but you know where I'm telling the girls to do something they won't do it, or we're having an argument.

00:37:14:11 – 00:37:39:04
Whatever it might be is to is to hear them. Now, what I mean by that is not doing that. I'm your dad. I tell you what to do. I tell you where to go. My, you know, my house, my rules. You do this. But to sit down and to actually listen to their side, to make sure that they're heard.

00:37:39:06 – 00:38:12:22
So all they want to do is be heard and given their version, their story. So. And that's worked well. And like with, with my youngest, like I say and previously I have resorted to, you know, dirty tactics saying stop being a baby and stuff like that. I've learned this kind of method of to sit down and just chat with a about about it and then let her have her say without me jumping down her throat about it or getting angry about it.

00:38:12:24 – 00:38:39:08
And that's worked really well. I'm still working on it. They still will be, a baby thrown. Actually, you know, I haven't said that in in years now, but but there are ways to kind of I found that with my oldest. I'll tell her to do it once you'll do it. My youngest. Not so much. The other day, actually, she she said, dad, can you, that can you give me a minute?

00:38:39:08 – 00:39:03:00
Because I want to say something. And I said, oh, fuck. So she's she's learning that. Yeah. Just back off. I want to explain. Yeah. Instead of me fucking going in ten times, think about, you know, like thinking you think about. You think you often think that the worst. Yeah. You don't fully understand it. The. And I've tried to stop myself.

00:39:03:00 – 00:39:25:16
I find myself, but I'm angry at something that I'll jump on the Mazda speaking to talk as minute they say something I don't like, I'll then interrupt them and start telling them what I think. Yeah, that's not healthy. That's it. That's exactly it. That's exactly it. So it's it's hard because, you know, a lot of the time I want to fucking go in there and be like, I am your dad.

00:39:25:17 – 00:39:40:04
Yeah, this is how it fucking goes. I mean, I'm your parent. Fundamentally, that is it. That is the bottom line. The is the way this is your house and this is the that is the way it goes. But getting to that point doesn't have to be so confrontational. Not exactly. Do you know just quickly what I remember? Yeah.

00:39:40:05 – 00:40:02:18
I mean, talking about, there was this break, not breakthrough, but when I was talking about responsibility. Right. And of a certain age and will one of the. So it's not a problem anymore but it used to be a big problem where he'd be playing the game online. Dinner's ready. Hello, I know everybody anybody who's a parent knows what I'm about to say.

00:40:02:20 – 00:40:25:01
Will they fucking come down and get it? And he gets to a point where this is actually getting a little bit disrespectful now. Like I've made dinner for everybody. Yeah. And they're not coming down because they would they're not. It's not that they would rather play computer games, but they're in a game. It can't be paused. They want to get to the end of it and then come and get their dinner in their brain.

00:40:25:03 – 00:40:45:20
Finish my level, go finish. But they're playing like I know Fortnite or Call of Duty. And it doesn't end right. It's not. It's you can't pause the game. It's online. So in there it's a logical thing for them to go, well, I'm just gonna finish the game and I'll get the dinner. I don't understand what the problem is, but then once will come down and it was like I didn't call him and the food was practically cold.

00:40:45:21 – 00:41:08:00
I purposely didn't call him. And he came down in the food with cold. And I said, well, that is one of the most disrespectful things you've ever done. So I've called you 20 minutes ago, I've made you food, I've spent half an hour doing it, and you haven't come and got it, and you've let it go cold. I said that in a bit more of an aggressive, not aggressive, but forceful way than than that.

00:41:08:02 – 00:41:25:00
And I said it's it's really disrespectful. You care more about that game than what someone's trying to do for you. And usually it'll be all about the but this and this is the reason why I shouldn't be in trouble with you. No, but that's no, you don't understand in this business. And and he looked at me and he said, I'm sorry.

00:41:25:02 – 00:41:43:01
I'm really sorry. That's nice. And he walked away. I didn't say anything, and he walked away. I was at fault because I I've gone off because I'm angry at him, because he hasn't come down, and instead he's understood. And listen to what I said and said, I'm sorry, which is so disarming because I'm like, I'm not angry anymore.

00:41:43:03 – 00:42:00:16
He's just done exactly what you should do when you make a mistake. And we all make them all, all the time is recognize it and apologize. And it's incredible feeling because he didn't make excuses. He owned it. So then fuck you now. Now I've got to go up there and say, I appreciate your apology because that means I'm.

00:42:00:18 – 00:42:24:15
What is that? You've got to positively reinforce a positive action. Yeah. And I've got now I'm it's like me having to apologize. And no one likes apologizing. It's horrible. So I'm having I'm walking upstairs gingerly going, because I'm gonna have to look at him go, request. Sorry, I'm reading your name right in front of me. Will, I really appreciate the fact that you apologize.

00:42:24:15 – 00:42:48:20
That's, you know, that means a lot. Even saying that's a bit. It was a bit like, you know, it's a no, it's like I, I would have gone for a different rate, so I would have grabbed his head, pushed his face into the plate. Like when a dog, a puppy does away and you push their nose into it as to say no and then grab my daughter's face, pushed in a dinner and said, I mean, don't ever do that.

00:42:48:20 – 00:43:07:21
And you're lucky that didn't scold your face because you let your dinner go. Now let that be the lesson. But he does. He's never done it before. And and if there have been times he'll make an effort to go, honestly, this is going to take five minutes. I've just got to do it and I will come down. That's enough because that's not just them not come in or ignoring what you said.

00:43:07:21 – 00:43:30:00
They've acknowledged it and said, I need to do this. That's fine. That's cool. Come down in five minutes. That is. Yeah, that is that, that's like that's so long to get there though. So nice years. Do you, do you ever, like, sit down with them and bestow your wisdom and knowledge and experience and try weird, weird little like?

00:43:30:00 – 00:43:55:11
Because obviously when when you're a dad and you do and the kind of sex education. Oh, yeah. Oh, yeah. Oh, stuff like that. So who's doing that? Is it you doing. Oh mum I think no, I think my Mrs. has done a little bit but she's. Oh she's also bought some books, some more kind of like animated books I know even targeted towards those younger.

00:43:55:13 – 00:44:16:12
She's just left them there and like, you could pick it up and stuff. They'll pick stuff up like that in school. The schools, schools are pretty good, by the way. Now, you said they be bad in our school, in our. All we have to do is but condom on a banana night. Oh my God, I, I can't believe I, I totally forgot about this.

00:44:16:12 – 00:44:42:10
This is fucking mental. What my missus told me the other day. Oh, hold on, this isn't about boys, is it? No no no no no, I'm not happy. She's got a boyfriend, doesn't she. Oh they split up yesterday. Yes, yes. Mug city support Chelsea or something. Yeah I did, yeah. Mug. What was his name? Don't say. So basically they were in the car and we're quite an open family.

00:44:42:10 – 00:45:05:12
Like we can say whatever we want as long as he's wearing and the girls, they're young and they know what words are, and they try and push their luck. Yeah. And I think they saw something when they were driving past and the word dick was on the shop or something like that. So they're like, oh, dick, blah blah, blah, blah, blah.

00:45:05:13 – 00:45:33:18
And then my youngest two, I said, cock! It's also called a cock. And they were all giggling and laughing. And then she said, mummy, dad's had his cock in you. Oh my lord, she's ten. That's fine, it is fine, it is fine. And I laughed but it's I was like also horrified. Yeah. And I was like, because it's the sexual, it's true, it's happening.

00:45:33:18 – 00:45:52:16
And they are words that you've put together and it is true. They know what they know and but they like it was the mum and dad. Yeah. That's had his cock in you and and that's true and that's how you were created. But all the time. Let's never talk about that all the time. Yeah, yeah. But is it, is this.

00:45:52:18 – 00:46:13:03
I was like, this is meant to see what the fuck is happening. This isn't a conversation you want to be having. No, but it never is awkward in it. Yeah, I've not done that stuff. It's more for the mum. I think. It's not appropriate for me. I don't want to do. Yeah. And I just just the nature that I am.

00:46:13:05 – 00:46:38:01
The innuendos in our house, the years, the kids don't know what I'm fucking talking about. They've got no idea there other age. Now, but they're picking up on it and they know exactly what I'm saying, and I can't do that anymore. They know if if my message is in the kitchen and I, you know, go behind, and I'm messing around and stuff like that, and I'll just say, oh, dad, I look at my kids and I'm like, oh, for fuck's sake, man.

00:46:38:01 – 00:46:58:01
Yeah, I would like watching you do that either. Yeah, it is it, it's a, it's a for how to get off a Sydney site about right before we go on to the next bit, I put a question out there for everyone as to say the, the dads, the heroes, the stuff that you do that no one ever talks about.

00:46:58:03 – 00:47:18:24
They just you just get on with it. And when I've done stuff before, it's like, I don't know. Mrs.. Not even saying, do you want a medal for it? And just a bit of acknowledgment, but there are other jobs that, things that we do that no one really talks about. And we just want to say we see you, we see you, man.

00:47:18:24 – 00:47:45:01
We see you. Give us something right? Every year everyone expects a summer holiday. I'm the only one that saves like a dog. Everyone just expects it. I don't want a medal. Just someone to say thank you. Yeah, so that's fine. Yeah. Yeah. But yeah, that's. Yeah. I mean, I mean in my household, that's that, that's the same like you say thank you.

00:47:45:01 – 00:48:10:12
But they're very, very grateful for it obviously. But I would, you know, if I was that that person, I would be. Yeah. I'll be a bit miffed. It's what it's one of those things that if you if you were the one saving so they don't see it sometimes that's like when, when a lot of they, it's like they could see Spain did an all inclusive for the first time just for lovely.

00:48:10:12 – 00:48:23:04
It was all right. Yeah. Yeah, it was nice. We had a really good time. It wasn't like the top end of a you know, it wasn't. Doesn't need to be. No it wasn't super expensive. But the novelty of just being able to get a drink at any time, like World Cup. Yeah. Want a beer? Give me a beer.

00:48:23:06 – 00:48:38:19
Well I didn't I didn't have that energy bit in my brain. I was like, get beer, whatever I want food. This. I can get as much food as I want anyway. And there'd be times, obviously, when the kids can't be, like, ecstatic the entire time. Downtimes. And I'd look at him go, you better be having more fun than you're having right now.

00:48:38:19 – 00:48:45:02
Yeah, I was just so grateful.

00:48:45:04 – 00:49:08:23
Yeah. No, no, that's I mean, it is it's almost like. Depends, though, because I find them. Really. I find it immensely satisfying that I'm able to give them that this experience. Yeah. Still, it but,

00:49:09:00 – 00:49:27:02
I was going to say something, really, but yeah, that's what I really loved it and just went back. Yeah. I find it enough just to see them having a good time. I know it sounds like a fucking shut up, but it's immensely satisfying that you've managed to pay for something and take them somewhere and give them an experience they wouldn't necessarily have had.

00:49:27:08 – 00:49:47:07
I love that. Yeah, I did get, satisfaction from. Yeah. The, the the the, the washing machines broke. Now, what are we going to do. Which ones we want. Ten kilogram drum. Like, do we want like a conduit like you guys, man, I fucking just got to get it. Yeah. Oh, there we go. Nah, just buy me one.

00:49:47:07 – 00:50:04:17
That's right. I love you. Shit. How many times do you try and fix the washing machine before you boil it? Yeah, that that is true, guys. Right. And that's just because I'm inquisitive and I want to know how it works. And I want to get. I'm going to give you a proxy because people won't know this. Listen to this.

00:50:04:19 – 00:50:28:20
You're close friends of Bill, but Ricky is one of the most handiest men. Not born that way. Right? But fruit industry and, and YouTube and Google the will to develop his knowledge base. He has fixed so many things. I mean, to me, like you say, if my if my washing machine breaks, I'm like, that's it. It's broke forever.

00:50:28:20 – 00:50:52:10
I'm getting a new one immediately. I don't want to think about this. Whereas you've many jobs many, many times, then just do a freeway light switch once as well I did. Yeah yeah yeah, that went fucking very badly. Very badly. It's a yeah it went really now, not only did I electrocute myself, doing that because I forgot to turn the switchboard off, but I didn't take it.

00:50:52:10 – 00:51:09:03
Apparently, you're supposed to take photos before you take everything apart, so you know how it goes together. I didn't do that. I learned the hard way. So we were for, like, two days about those three lights. Better fucking done it, didn't I did, absolutely. So when you did it, is this like did did you get the gratitude that was due?

00:51:09:03 – 00:51:27:15
Did you get like a blowie or something? No. God no no no no no. Do you think that's a that's equal payment to fixing a washing machine? I mean, I would like to say yes, but probably not. No, no. I wonder what the people out there thing is that fair? You mean is that fair? Have I one wondering for the women.

00:51:27:15 – 00:51:39:03
Listen to this. Have you ever rewarded your husband or partner or boyfriend with a blowjob because they've done something good? I just want to know if that is a thing.

00:51:39:05 – 00:52:04:11
That's a bloody good question. Yeah. Good question. Someone else. I'm the only one who constantly turns the lights and electricity off. Yep. Been there, done that. Who cares about recycling when that does it? Oh yeah, I mean, I am I am a we care about it and we care about you. Well done. Yeah, yeah I do. Why do I always have to take the stinking bins out?

00:52:04:13 – 00:52:35:18
That's man's job. Yeah. Nice. Yeah, that is my wife does it. Sometimes I does. Yeah, yeah. Nasty down. And I'd never clean the literature out. She always does that. Oh my God, that I don't touch that shit. Literally. That is she always does the ironing is okay misogynistic. No no not necessarily. Yeah. There's a couple actually there's like three people that have emailed in the same thing.

00:52:35:20 – 00:52:57:05
The one thing is a really selfless act that all dads do is eat all the leftover shit nobody wants. I've been doing it since I had kids, now doing it for the grandkids. Mrs. calls me the dustbin, but there ain't no way I'm throwing away half eaten bananas, cups of cups of squash or some chewed up crisps. You've gone too far there, lad.

00:52:57:07 – 00:53:20:16
That that shit was bought and paid for me. I might be fat. I might be a fat track with diabetes like that. Okay, I feed waste, I fuck. You know what? I'm not. Be happy you got. You got stuck with the foods, man. I know what you're doing. And there's another person as well who? I do this all the time, man.

00:53:20:16 – 00:53:38:21
If there's food on the side, I don't want it to go to waste. I will fucking eat it because I've paid for the shopping and I, I call it. I can't bear to see. It goes away and I'm just getting fatter and fatter. So I'm an ounce as well. I'm the only one in this house who charges anything.

00:53:38:23 – 00:54:02:16
The amount of phones, Kindles, iPads on 1% drives me insane. The audacity audacity to complain that they switch off in the middle of whatever the fuck you do in Minecraft? Maybe you could mine it out the Thames after I'm lazy in there, which is very good. Well, this is all just people moaning about lack of recognition. I mean, this is part of it.

00:54:02:16 – 00:54:30:04
This is just that I have the money. Yeah, yeah, things that they do with stats that no one else for me is about getting recognition for doing something really good and wholesome, only doing it, moaning about their family. I've got one for you. Oh, God. Okay. My five year old boy who has autism is obsessed with plug sockets and USB cables, letting him unplug the telly when watching the football and disconnecting Alexa when listening to Spotify.

00:54:30:06 – 00:54:50:14
Can't get any more selfless. He brings a different USB cable to school every day. There is one day he wanted to bring the kettle, so I bless I have that is just because he's made his mind up. He wants to go. Yeah, yeah and he wants a k o. He wants the USB k. Massively important for for kids with autism.

00:54:50:14 – 00:55:16:10
Those patterns are crucial right to them to they sort of I guess they it grounds them. And then any kind of disruption from that. It's very difficult sometimes for them to handle. I worked with autistic kids for about, well, 12 years. Not just autistic kids, all kinds of different. Yeah. Yeah. So I understand that that is. Yeah, I can imagine there was one, one girl.

00:55:16:10 – 00:55:39:22
Sabrina, I used to work with Rick, and, she was her infatuation like that. That boy was interested in USB sticks and USB ports and stuff. Her infatuation. Listen to this. How specific this is? Was the region of Nova Scotia in Canada? Oh, yeah. That was what she was obsessed with. Just that. And see what? Why? I don't know how she got to that point.

00:55:39:24 – 00:55:55:19
Some it clicked at some point, just that she'd never been there, never been to. They have been kind of real life. She was just obsessed with Nova Scotia. She must have something at some point. Click through. And that was it. I still have, you know, you know, I was in Nova Scotia.

00:55:55:21 – 00:56:19:18
What is it? Orcas. Great whites? Yeah. Two cold night. Now they patrol that area. Nova Scotia, Nova Scotia. I wouldn't have time to tell you that. Yeah, yeah, yeah, they do. You know that ocearch chat with the shark tracking? Oh, they're all the time, mate. You see them? Not over there. Yeah, yeah, all the time. All the time.

00:56:19:20 – 00:56:40:15
We've had loads of people sending their bits and pieces. And we just want to say we salute you, that we see you and keep on doing. Keep, keep on doing what you're doing. Keep on doing what you're doing. I like the idea of us having a section about where people just moan about stuff, right? Yeah, I think that could be funny.

00:56:40:20 – 00:56:56:24
Is anything you want to moan about that you just feel like you've watched? Sick of hearing it. Yeah. Like, don't don't make it about immigration or anything like that because we won't be able to read it out right. Yeah. If I had to give my dad, what do you, what do you want to moan about today? I want to moan about immigration.

00:56:57:01 – 00:57:16:00
Yeah, but know better be good. Be was sending if you get any funny ones. If we get enough of them, we have a jungle mate. I have a good old moan up. Send it into lads and pod at gmail.com. Now the topic for next week you actually pick this one and I'm going to say it and you're going to look at me like I have no idea what you're saying.

00:57:16:02 – 00:57:44:14
Inadequate quinces girl. That's another word. Inadequacies. Inadequacies. Yeah. Did I say you did? Was this don't make was this is what you me every day? Yeah. Yeah. Along this. Remember what makes you feel inadequate? Your job, your partner, a specific mate, intimate acts. What keeps you up at night staring at the ceiling. Send us in your stories.

00:57:44:16 – 00:58:07:23
The lads are pod at gmail.com. Now we are going to be going over to something only you know, because we've had no dilemmas this week. So it looks like everyone's problems are solved. Does it? Yeah. We sorted. We know you've got them. Send them in. Well we'll solve it. We'll solve it. So we've got two. But I'm going to save one for next week.

00:58:07:23 – 00:58:26:01
So we're just going to do, we're just going to go into one record. And just because you sent this over to me just before we started recording, I think I'm going to play that, that TikTok you sent me because it just fits right. Okay, guys, you know what I'm talking about. I do, I do, I. Right. Where are you?

00:58:26:03 – 00:58:40:24
I enjoying both parties. We're here with my my mates, but they're somewhere else. Jo. Jo. Very. Jo. Oh, listen, I want you to name one thing that you've done that no one knows about.

00:58:41:01 – 00:59:08:04
I do, I used to sniff my mom's knickers when I was like, ten, because I was curious. I. Tell us, why is it that way? So I'm just curious. I wanted to know what it smells like. It. Was you curious about? Does it smell like fish on? Not. It's just curious, Rick. Just curious. Curious? Yeah. So, like, this is a video that's been gone viral.

00:59:08:04 – 00:59:30:11
This is on Twitter alone. It's been on TikTok. The Twitter alone, it's been seen 1.1 million times. I reckon you in 10 million views for that. He is built it is just off his head. There's no way he he didn't know what he was saying. He did know what you be saying, but he didn't know it was going to get this much traction.

00:59:30:11 – 00:59:47:16
It's a smash on the boat and I beaver or whatever. Yeah, yeah, just trying to enjoy his life. And now his mum. Those. And he's not a sniffer. Yeah. Oh, God. And his dad is a promise. Everyone, every time they look at him, they're going to see that. I think they know this is people in the gaff.

00:59:47:16 – 01:00:09:00
Shut up. They've got a responsibility here. Yeah, the people that are making this video, they have a responsibility to the people they're talking to. Oh, that's a horrendous thing to put out. If someone if I was doing those profiles, you maybe when you were young these guys the interviews about 21 you would've put it out. Yeah. Yeah. And to be fair I like listening to that.

01:00:09:00 – 01:00:32:24
It's it's a bit harmless, but. And I probably would have put it out, then thought about, oh, fuck, maybe I shouldn't have done that. But there are some things that I see on the internet where they do vox pops and I'm like, mate, that that is just the worst one. Rick. On TikTok they there's this bloke like he's a scumbag in my opinion.

01:00:33:01 – 01:01:06:00
He goes up to couples and he challenges them to look for each other's phones, for content like that is. And they find stuff. The girls or boys find stuff they don't want to see conversation. Someone chat and they've been cheating on them, right? It might have been stuff from the past. And I'm not saying, you know it. Look, that maybe their relationship never lasted if they were doing that anyway, but for someone else's content so they can make money over your misery is something that just, that's not on, man.

01:01:06:00 – 01:01:15:10
It's not on site. Disgusting. Anyway, that's that's horrible. Which will be something only you know. Then. Yeah. Let's go.

01:01:15:12 – 01:01:23:22
With something. You know.

01:01:23:24 – 01:01:54:02
This is called. Do you really like it? Is it, is it Iqbal? Is it what? Iqbal? You'll understand. But. While at uni, on a friend and housemate, he fancied himself as a ladies man. After every night out, he would post a pic of himself on Instagram and proceed to march around the house telling everyone how many likes his post had got and how many 50s had liked it, and his warped version of reality.

01:01:54:07 – 01:02:18:13
A girl liking his pic meant that she loved him and wanted to shag him. Grandiose claims were regularly thrown around about how the 50s were going to be all over him in the next night, out, of course, they never were. Yeah, the cycle continued. Anyway, he's rambling on about Insta, about Insta likes really began to get on my tits.

01:02:18:15 – 01:02:46:08
He was only averaging around 150 per post, so I went on about and tried my about my tried and tested method of verbally abusing him, telling him that literally no one cared. The girls are like an out of habit and weren't interested. Did it work? Did it fuck? It only convinced him that I was jealous of his popularity and the attention he was getting, which again I must reiterate, was none.

01:02:46:10 – 01:03:08:23
So I had to come up with a new strategy. Oh, you like Instagram likes, do you? Well, I'll fucking give you Instagram likes, fella. I found a website and made a purchase. He went from averaging 150 likes to having over 1000 on his next post. Now I know what you're thinking. Wouldn't that have just inflated his ego even more?

01:03:09:00 – 01:03:35:17
Have no fear. I thought that through when I bought the likes, I specified that I only wanted them to come from the Middle East. Suddenly my mate went from having a few likes from 50s called Maisy and Daisy to having thousands of likes from blokes named Iqbal Hack for rude. My mesh. Other friends, knowing what he was like, quickly assumed he'd bought the likes and bombarded his comment section.

01:03:35:19 – 01:04:01:22
You bought like he absolute freak you weird, weird man. My personal favorite is for it for Mash. Someone you met on holiday. My friend desperately tried to defend himself, but no one was buying. His excuses. He deleted is his post, switched his account to private, and stopped displaying the number of likes on his pictures. And I never heard another word about his Instagram again.

01:04:01:24 – 01:04:30:00
And that is something only I know. Jeez, that G. They can be annoying when people go though. Yeah yeah yeah, fuck him. Yeah. Be humble. I mean, sit down, be humble. That was, as a good tactic. I've thought about doing that before. Not not to like, I suppose, but yeah, yeah, yeah, I like all of them.

01:04:30:00 – 01:04:58:13
All of them get get mad like B. Yeah. It's just not. How do you do a daily attack? Let's do some detox attacks on anyone out there. This this last launch detox attack on another Spurs podcast. That was then, okay. So that is all we've got for this week of something only you know, and something, you know.

01:04:58:15 – 01:05:28:03
The topic for next week is inadequacies. So send them in to lads anon pod at gmail.com. I feel like I've said that about five times. It's good. If you want to follow us on social, Instagram, Twitter, TikTok threads, Facebook, it's all the same. Lads anon pod and we will see you next week. Bye. Peace. On the night.

01:05:28:05 – 01:05:53:19
Hazy light. Band of brothers. Playing tunes. High as quiet. Midnight waves. Surfing through till daylight breaks. Rhythm hit us. Different ways. Love a music side. We prayed with our tongues in cheek. Combine desire. We like to speak. And yeah, times change. But no matter what the bond remains. Brothers.