#3 | Life in Lockdown

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Hello and welcome to episode three of Lads Anonymous, a podcast about two best mates of over 20 years. Invite you to join their safe space where all manner of subjects will be discussed. We'll focus on a specific subject matter first and then we'll answer your questions, dilemmas or thirst for advice. So sit back, relax and enjoy the next hour or so.

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Hi. How's it going? Good, mate. Good. Is there any songs that get you properly horned up? Like you listen to something you like? This is. I'm getting aroused by this song because that's quite for a man. For a woman. I think it's easy because like you said, we have a previous podcast there. Instead, the kind of all the senses where men are just into touch and sight.

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Right. What? Yeah. For sure. And the the the top of my head, I quite like, is his name. Is it Childish Gambino? Is it, is it Redbone? Is that I don't know. I know, I know, Childish Gambino is, but the little red boners. Well, yeah, that's that's a song that gets you horned up. Yeah. You know, it's not rap.

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It ain't. It's not like that. Yeah. That that was, That does get me in the mood that there's. If I could think if I had some time to think and go through my playlist, there would be some others that are definitely. It makes me want to. Yeah. Wherever my message is and just thrust that, for sure.

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The. What about you give me. She keeps bees. No idea what that is. Don't listen to it. Give me. She keeps bees. Give me, give me, give me. Give. Yeah, she keeps bees who give me. Good girl. Listen to it. Go on. This week it's bees. And. Well, you've been in Japan as well. You, Yeah.

00:01:57:04 – 00:02:12:17
Well, it was just a song. The last dinner party. I mean, I think it's all that matters. I think that's what the song is, but. Yeah, I'm quite enjoying that as well. Bit of new music. That ain't me at all. I just listen to the same songs all the time. All the time. You know, we've done on friends or I.

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We've done friends or the two episodes of friends. I was thinking about something this morning, Rick. Oh, yeah? Well, I did text you about it, so you know what's come in. But why? Yeah. Like, why don't. I was thinking I was thinking like, we were talking about us and what you're doing when I'm in bed and I. When I'm in bed.

00:02:28:01 – 00:02:49:21
And I said if I was there, I'll do a solid and give you a blowjob. And you were like, yeah, that'd be great. And then I was starting to thinking, why don't Ben, as friends give each other blowjobs? Like, why don't they do it? Because they're not sexually attracted to each other, right? You don't have to. Yeah, you don't have to be sexually attractive to each other.

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You don't have to find it a sexual act. If I gave you a blowjob. Right? Yeah. I'm just doing you a favor. Right? I've got no feelings in my mouth that make you sexually aroused. Yeah. Oh, boy. No, not at all. I'm not thinking like I'm into this. Then it's not a I'm just doing you a favor as a sexual act for you.

00:03:13:04 – 00:03:28:07
But I'm just doing you a favor. Like giving you a lift to the airport or helping you move house. Like, if if you had to move house, I'd come over and help you. I wouldn't want to do it, but I would do it for you because I'm your mate. If you need a blowjob, I should. And I should.

00:03:28:08 – 00:03:51:09
I don't understand why men don't do that for each other. That's that is a really. That's a good point. That is a good point. And is you just helping someone get the poison out? It's nothing. There's nothing at all sexual about it. It's just. Yeah. Another mate in need. Exactly. And that's all it is. By and large, like, I don't think women really enjoy doing them that much.

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Some do, but I think they think like, this is a treat for you, right? If you get one, it's a treat for you. Right. Because I'm doing this is a treat. Yeah. Right. Brilliant. Yeah. That's a treat. You're really leaving women of not having to do it? I'm just come round. Dave's for a blowjob. Is that right? I'll be back in about a half hour.

00:04:08:10 – 00:04:29:09
Yeah. It's fun. Just crack on. Yeah. The problem is if if Dave starts going. Yeah. Well it does it then that's an issue then. That's a sexual. Yeah. And they certainly are not gay. If you are guys and it's just fine. It's just, it's just, it's just a bloke. Yeah. But should men give their mates blowjob on.

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Why don't we. It's just a society. Yeah. Wrong. It's society says oh you shouldn't really give your mates blowjobs if you're not gay. Why? We should shouldn't normalize it. No normalizing. Giving you mates. Normalize giving your mates blowjobs. Yeah, I'm thinking it's nothing more than a service or even a handjob if you start small. Yeah, just. It's a favor just to rinse your body of the poison.

00:04:54:24 – 00:05:21:24
Yeah. That's it. No, I don't, I just don't understand why it's what the big to do is. Yeah. And, I don't ever I really don't. And if I was there with you now, I would, you know. But this is this is definitely. All jokes aside, we wouldn't. But the question is, why wouldn't we? I would probably a handjob with, like, an oven mitt, an oven glove, but I wouldn't want that.

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But, like, deep down, I wouldn't want you to. And I wouldn't want I would want to get a blowjob of you. I wouldn't, I wouldn't even know. I know it sounds terrible, but what I'm understanding, I think we've been programed to not want to. Right. Okay. And what it makes is release ourselves of these shackles. Yeah. We need to put just at least put the conversation on the table.

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That's that's all we can ask your your blowjob count. Could go up. Well, it could be. It was it could just compound the compound. Your amount of blowjobs you could potentially get compared to what you do get freed. Rephrase. If we just, you know, if we weren't so stuck up. Right. I want to go. I want to, look back, get back, get back to the last podcast.

00:06:13:02 – 00:06:45:20
Well, it's like the Beatles. Then, get back, get back, get back. Once belong to the last podcast. That was terrible. Actually, we're going to be doing this for the podcast. Come. But we'll have a little look back if you want to send in a voice note right of you, doing your own little ditty of looking back to the last podcast like that before it was track we just mentioned or, looking back over the last part.

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Yeah, we'll get a little sensitive, so. Yeah, send in your voice note and see if we can get engineer out to do a little mix for me. I definitely do that 100%. We do a little jingle. So so this is a bit to anyone who has a comment based on what we previously discussed. We were included in the Mashable call.

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So in this one there might be something about friends based on what we discussed in the previous podcast. That's exactly it. So yeah. So send in your, your voice. Now don't be it's, you know, this is the circle of trust. Remember, it's no judgment here. Just send any voice notes to lads and on pod at gmail if we go any this week.

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Yeah we have so the so it during the last episode, friends episode two, there was I'm paraphrasing this, but I think a question that you ask was, do women see men and make a snap judgment on whether they would have sex with them or not? Yeah. That's right. And, a lady has actually messaged in. Yes.

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What did she say? So I don't know. This is lads anonymous but come one, come full circle. Trust is fine. And this is what she said. Going back to the conversation, you guys were having, I'm wondering if when women meet a new bloke, we check them out and decide whether or not we want to have sex with them.

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I can absolutely, 100% confirm that. Yes we do. Any female that says otherwise is a liar and we are dirtbags just like men. We just hide it better. Yeah, or like that. We don't care who is. Men less say okay, I you surprise what I write. No, actually, I'm not. But seeing it written down and confirm that was a bit like G, isn't it?

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The like isn't the I mean, fundamentally what we're doing on this planet, the only thing, the only point is to procreate and have babies. Right? Yeah. And that has to happen through sexual attraction. So we are hardwired despite what society would have you believe. We're hardwired to judge each other on how we look physically. It's not an offensive thing.

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It's not something that people should get upset about. It's merely how we're hardwired to operate. Is that a person that I want to have babies with? Do I want to put my blanket inside that person, I believe, and release the poison, as you say? And the answer is yes or no, right. And that's just an instinctual thing.

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And you make your mind up often within seconds. I think men make up in seconds. Maybe things can develop with women. I'm not sure. But yeah, with I think you make yourself you make up very, very quickly. So I'm not surprised by that. Interesting. What else is there? No, no. There was also, a question that was asked, do women get off on male, gay, poor and a poor man?

00:09:45:15 – 00:10:12:02
Oh, man, I exactly. And someone, a woman as messaged in to say, yeah, that she has experimented to thought herself off to with two men going at it. It was a short message saying it was a bit weird and they won't do it again. Oh, but she did. She she got involved. I think she got involved.

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I think they all do it right. But it's like voting conserve is no one in the midst of it. Isn't it? They just boot up the prop up, man or man? Fucking bomb. Yeah, pop. Bosh, Bosh. It's not like in the big, big men with beards. Yeah, exactly. So. Yeah. So I mean, that was surprising.

00:10:34:07 – 00:10:58:09
Yeah. It's interesting. Like. Yeah, it's very good to know. It's good to know. And then the last one that came in was, at the end of episode two, flat messaged someone with the same name, and it reminded me of. So I think you message someone who had the same name and asked them for a fight just to decide who would have, you know, who would have the name lover Gareth.

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It's like Highlander. If you ever seen that film, Highlander can be only one. Yeah, yeah, that that was Gareth Flavell. There was another one, but Percy hasn't responded. Yeah, I did say that. If he hasn't responded them enough, then it's mine, isn't it? Yeah. Oh for sure. Yeah. This person wrote in and it said remind him of of this lady on his wife's Facebook years ago.

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She added my wife as a friend simply because they share the same name. Now, years later, she's always one of the first people to comment when she posts something they've never met, and I imagine never will. I guess my question is, do you think people share a special bond simply because they have the same name as if they understand everything they've gone through?

00:11:44:07 – 00:12:05:15
No, I don't know. I mean, I've never met anyone with my with my name and with my surname. It's quite unique. Where is very unique. So I'm probably related to most of the people that, add me, but there are some strange people that do have the same surname that try and add me on Facebook because they know it's like, hey, we've got a really unique surname.

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We don't really know each other, but let's add each other on Facebook. And immediately I'm like, now I know I'm not buying into the game of we've got the same name, and you're looking at pictures of my kids and I don't know. Yeah, this is not I, I've just this is not a charity. I've just googled you, Rick.

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Oh, for fuck's sake. What's come up? You don't even have your surname when you linked in. No, it should be on my LinkedIn. My name is. I'm looking at it, so. Yeah. Right. Okay. Just the first letter. That's it. That's good. So can we, can we just quickly go back to the the old days when we met on the internet very quickly.

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Yeah. Go, go. So do you remember, do you remember when the, the message board that we met on got hacked by Islamic terrorists? I do remember that. Yeah. Scary. Scary times. What happened? There's like pictures of loads of sort of Arabic and like, guns and knives and shit. That was. Yeah, the swords and skull and crossbones. Yeah, yeah.

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And you got scared, didn't you? So you changed your. What was previously your name, your full name, and you changed it to something random. Cuz you're scared that the Islamic terrorists are going to come and get you through my computer. Yeah. Totally. Like you, you were the only one on the entire message board that did that.

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Yeah, I know, I know, I'm I'm still quite, protective over my details. I mean, especially, I don't know, like, I, I think it lends itself a bit to a bit of, cancel culture before that of just, you know, people scouring out tweets or Facebook posts or Instagram and I, I don't think I have anything there. And if I did, I don't care, but I just that's what my, like my name's brand of it put with it.

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She will dive into today's topic column. What is it? Let's go for it. So today's topic is life in lockdown. Loved it. Life in lockdown. So the Oxford Dictionary lockdown a state of isolation, containment or restricted access, usually instituted for security purposes or as a public health measure. So, I want to kind of, preface the topic that I know that Covid and lockdown, millions of death vaccines, people couldn't see loved ones.

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I couldn't see my nan. Well, I did manage to see my nan, but there was a whole fuckery with everything else. We're not going to be talking about TB, about we're going to be talking about the main fun stuff of of how when lockdown happened and what you were doing during lockdown, any hobbies, all of that shit, we'll get into it.

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But where were you when you found out, oh, this shit was going on? Like there was news bubbling under about lockdown just quickly. My nan died during lockdown and I think Covid got a and I'd still take it back. I'd still go back to lockdown. Which you. She was out. She was out. She wanted to go. She wanted to go.

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She'd stare at me. Go. I don't want to be here anymore. No. What to do about, What do you do about that? Why won't they just let me die? That's what she'd say. Sometimes they tell me in the face. Go. Why do I like that, darling? I'm like, who are they? I don't know, Yeah. So she was definitely ready.

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Yeah. Where was I? So I was, yeah, but Nanny Joyce, but I was, I was work, and you know what? Actually, weirdly, I was working for Johns. I was, I had a gig working for John Bass's wife's TV company. They were producing a TV show with Jamie Redknapp and Harry Redknapp. It was a going to be a talk show.

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It was back when Harry Redknapp, not long after we got out of the jungle. His popularity was pretty big then. Obviously Jamie Redknapp, he's what he is and so I was working, I was producing for them for a bit. And that's a pretty cool gig. It was cool, like, yeah, it was cool. It was interesting. Jamie Redknapp we met Jamie Redknapp and you know, when you meet someone and you look at him from the screen and on TV and you know, he's a handsome bloke.

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Yeah, in real life he is fucking gorgeous. He's a, I bet he, I bet he smells fucking delightful as well. He did smell sensational. Yeah. No. Really tall. Anyway, so I it was kind of brewin then, like we were that I was working for that and that it was brewing and it was, it was starting to spread and there was we would go on.

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It was like news updates constantly about more cases, more cases, more cases. And I'd read a book called I can't remember what the book was called now, but it was about an epidemic spreading. And I remember thinking at the time, what happens in this book is that everything goes into lockdown in order to contain the virus. And there was suddenly talk about lockdowns.

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And I was like, I think this is going to happen. And I thought, this is I'm going to just get on a train and I'm going to go to where I now live, and I'm going to, a plot there basically for however long this was going to last. And that was kind of the first week or so, and I thought, oh, lockdown would be over in a couple of weeks.

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It will be done. But obviously, as we know it wasn't, it was months and months. Yeah. Where were you? Was your friend? I was, I well yeah. I mean to be honest I wasn't I at the time. First of all I was in my of by the office where I was. It's kind of it's isolated off from the main open, open plan office.

00:18:09:08 – 00:18:30:06
There's like 15 of us working there or whatever. And at the time, I was working for, a a body that's an arm's length of the government. And there was chat that, you know, Covid, that we may go into lockdown, we might have to start working from home. And then my ears perked up. I start working from home, boy.

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Let's fucking go. Yeah, there was no one upset about that at all. No. And then, and it was like, we may have to do this at the end of the week. And I think it was like a Tuesday or Wednesday. But by Friday we probably will be all working from home just to see what's happening. And by 2:00 that day, it was like, shut your laptops, get home and get home.

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Now it's kind of like, we knew that this was the Tuesday, the same day. Yeah. From the morning of looking a few days away that it's probably going to go into lockdown. We're probably gonna have to work, for a couple of weeks, just till this all blows over. And then by the afternoon is like, get get all your belongings, get out, get home.

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And we'll we'll we'll think of something then and then at the time, I'll be honest. I'm going to get to go home, be in my house and and work from work from home for a couple of weeks. That to me, that's brilliant. That's fun. Like I'm no longer going to have to get up and be a, a kind of, a slave to a train timetable of I have to be at the station for 845 or 830 or whatever.

00:19:44:24 – 00:20:10:09
And now I have to make, small talk with people when I just want to be on my own and listen to my own music. It can be my own world because I'm not a morning person. I haven't been back to the office since. Of you. Not really. I've been. I've been in fits and starts. Yeah. So not not really been back into a full lifestyle of being in an office and stuff like that, which is, which is amazing.

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But yeah. And then afterwards where it kind of transpired that it wasn't going to be a week, and then the week turned into a month, which turned into six months, which more than like, I think was it like two years? We were like just sitting at home. I like it was fucking mad. Yeah. That at that time. To go back to your question over how scared it, it got, it did get to a point where, like, we were being advised that if we do go shopping, when we bring the shopping home, we have to get a disinfectant wipe to, to to wipe over your fucking cereal and your rice and everything, everything that came from

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the outside world into the inside that had to be disinfected. And then we could only go for we could, we were only allowed to go for a walk once a day. Absolutely. You know, like that was that was one moment during lockdown where I, we, me and my wife and two kids, we drove to a forest, right.

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2 to 2 separate occasions, months. Just have a picnic in the forest. We wasn't supposed to. And it was always like we felt like we were doing something really bad. There was no one around. Yeah, but we went to the forest and had a picnic in it because we just wanted to get out of the house. Another place we went.

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We weren't allowed in the woods because there were, there was like, there was like, signs, police signs and do not enter these woods because of Covid. Shit. What do you think about it? It was an absolutely fucking crazy time and and no sense really. Do you remember as well that they were there were like, red zones and amber zones, like, I live in Buckinghamshire and I wasn't allowed to go to Northampton.

00:21:48:12 – 00:22:07:05
Yeah, because they had more Covid cases for kids. So we're like, what on earth was going on, man? It made you it made you actually hate people as well, right? I remember like there was footage of these kids going back to university for the first time and they were in the universe, and you're supposed to be having a great time at uni, right?

00:22:07:05 – 00:22:29:19
Part like massive part of his party and and getting off of each other and these and, and there was this video of these guys. We know the guy actually, he was in a in this tiny little room, and it was crammed full of these horny students, and they're just this body sweat and they're listening to music, and it's just going off in this room, as you'd expect, like a little house, right?

00:22:29:20 – 00:22:49:01
Yeah. And you're like, they've all got Covid. They're that is a little sort of cluster bomb of Covid going on in that room. Yeah. And then, yeah. And then you start to hate other people because of it. You it's I think why? What the fuck are you doing? Why you behave in that way? I was right, it was, it was crazy time, but it was good time as well.

00:22:49:01 – 00:23:11:11
Like we found out, we figured out how to get. Oh, I did, I figured out how to get, like, drugs off the internet, which was like a revelation. Yeah, I, I mean, that was one, one thing that I wanted to speak to you about, like, during that time. So we were in lockdown and then obviously you're working from home, but you are restricted to one walk a day.

00:23:11:13 – 00:23:38:14
You're not allowed to see inmates. You're not allowed to see your family. There is occasion where you'd kind of be in your car and drive past someone's house and give them a wave and then retreat back to your house, but you were just locked in your house for like 23 hours a day. And then you made that discovery, and a lot of the other lads that we that, that we knock about with as well had had also made that discovery, amazing.

00:23:38:16 – 00:24:03:07
You're like, what's through the post? Well, at least things are going to be delivered. And I'm like, I need to find out about Bitcoin. That's a bit of a fact figured out within a ten minutes. Started doing a bit of crypto trading. In my head I was like, I'm gonna just get I'm going to put £500 in Bitcoin and I'm going to I'm going to use it to just get through lockdown.

00:24:03:07 – 00:24:20:02
Right. And I'm going to use it to buy whatever I want to buy. And and then just sort of started getting quite interested in all the old, Bitcoin and started sort of chucking money about and going, all right, let's go here. And it was it obviously the part of the bull run wasn't it. To remember. Yeah yeah yeah.

00:24:20:04 – 00:24:42:21
Yeah I into crypto this I say Covid is fucking mad mad mad mad shit. Yeah I know yeah. But yeah, it was weird. So you'd go on, you'd go on to, you'd, you'd like think groups like telegram. Telegram like WhatsApp for reprobates, basically. It's like highly encrypted. You don't get core. All kinds of weird stuff happens on telegram.

00:24:42:21 – 00:25:09:16
It isn't. I mean, some people do just use it for normal situations and, you know, use it as a communication device. And they, for whatever reason, don't like Facebook or Zuckerberg. So they might use telegram instead. So because it's sort of like not that, but you can also buy drugs on and anything really on, on telegram if you find the right person selling this like the dark web for messaging.

00:25:09:18 – 00:25:27:24
Yeah. So it was like, oh, well, what do you want? And it was like you'd go on and you'd click start on it on this inside this chat, and it would come up with a little menu and it said, would you want cannabis or do you want ecstasy, your magic mushrooms or whatever you want? Literally whatever you want.

00:25:28:01 – 00:25:53:03
You y'all have better bet a bit of that literally within a week and less than that two days, it's at your door and it's like incredible quality. So I mean, everyone, not everyone, but a lot of us got into that. It was like stash. It was like, you know, some people they did like openings. When I get a new pair of trainers, they'll do unboxing.

00:25:53:05 – 00:26:16:10
That was like us, but with drugs. Drugs, box. Look, I got, yes, nine grams of mushrooms. Check this out. This is good. This is good because you can eat on it. Remember? That was a conversation. A lot of. If you get a slave on this. But. The cocaine was like, yeah, this is all right this one.

00:26:16:10 – 00:26:30:07
Because you can sleep on this and you can eat it. Eat on it. Yeah. I swear to God, I can eat on it. And you know what? I can work, I feel I can productive at work. You might. Well, you know, you can, I can't. It's I don't know what. I can't sleep on it. I'm up all night.

00:26:30:09 – 00:26:49:06
Oh, you're talking about. There was a lot of denial going on. But yeah, it was it was great because the there were no rules. There was no no one knew what was going to happen. No one knew when it was going to end. And you felt for the first time I was on, we were on our own and the government really didn't know what they were doing.

00:26:49:08 – 00:27:09:11
No. And yet, yeah, go on and say, well, just that really just the government didn't even feel like the government knew what they were doing and, the rules of it. And then staying at home and, and, and, and and not going out and not going to work, which is like music to a lot of people's is that's the only thing you had to follow.

00:27:09:13 – 00:27:29:16
And how do we entertain ourselves? And do you know what? It was incredible for me, and I was really lucky because there's lots of people out there where this isn't the case. And, you know, if you imagine if you're living in a high rise block and you've got access out, the access to outdoor space, beer garden, whatever, then I imagine lockdown would have been much more difficult.

00:27:29:16 – 00:27:47:00
And if you're in a relationship, you're not happy. And I've got a mate of mine whose marriage fell apart during lockdown, literally they they went into lockdown and by the end of it they were divorced. So it wasn't easy for everyone, but for me, for me, I just had to chill out with my beautiful wife and our kids.

00:27:47:02 – 00:28:08:20
Drink wine? Yeah. What's telly? What's the Tiger King? Remember Tiger King during lockdown, it's. Oh, fucking hell. Yeah. Yeah. And with learned nothing today and it was the first. For the first time there was no pressure on us. It was like the pressure of it. And then just sort of hoping we don't get Covid and die. But the there was zero pressure on anybody.

00:28:08:20 – 00:28:27:22
We could just sit for a second and relax and wait and read and do whatever you want to do, play computer games or go for a walk. There was no one saying at 9:00 I had to be in an office and I had to be there until five, when I going to leave and go back to my life again.

00:28:27:24 – 00:28:54:08
That was just life. It was just living. And you know what? I thought I would, you know, if it was going to happen right. Well, I thought that people were going to come closer together because of it. I had this sort of naive, utopian view of how the how the, how how as a people or our population, we're going to become much more community focused and much more creative, and we're going to love each other much more because we've been starved of each other's company.

00:28:54:10 – 00:29:16:11
That didn't happen. Was it because people at 8:00 were banging on saucepans outside their house? How? How? I mean, I did it right. I was like, yeah, maybe you can love this. I, I the kids outside, I miss it. We're all out of wooden spoon hacking away. Yeah. And then suddenly, suddenly, like, turned into. Oh, you're a tosser if you do it.

00:29:16:11 – 00:29:35:06
It was almost like. Yeah, yeah, it turned into, like, what's that going to do? It was almost the NHS was, is that I remember we interviewed someone. I interviewed someone at the time he was a frontline worker on the NHS and he's like, yeah, this is called banging the drum banging thing. But we need x, y, z. We need to lobby government.

00:29:35:06 – 00:29:55:16
You need to do all these things. And I don't really want to do that. I just want to bang, bang, bang. Materials burn for five minutes and and fuck off. Back inside. I want to lobby my MP, for fuck's sake. I remember, like me and my mean, the last I hang around with back home. The new lot, new lot.

00:29:55:16 – 00:30:19:18
And I would like. Yeah, we would, every Friday night, we would play poker online, but we would. So. So where do we sign into this, poker app with all of our laptops? So I would have mine down in the kitchen. I'll then have my phone. So it's face. I mean, so we kind of had this set up where we'd all be FaceTiming and we'd all be playing poker.

00:30:19:20 – 00:30:44:06
We'd start at like eight in the evening, and we would just get belted. And I remember being so drunk that I was in my back garden. And you know, when, you know, when you go to bed and you've had too much drink and the room starts spin. And I was just standing in my back garden smoking, spitting. And, I just could not completely couldn't stand up.

00:30:44:06 – 00:31:05:15
Why would you say, like, I dunno, I was just just drunk. Just do it sick. Yeah. Yeah. The water. Yeah. One of them was the water and and it was like half ten in the evening and I'm at home and I'm belted in my kitchen. And we used to do that every single Friday. And it was so much fun.

00:31:05:15 – 00:31:23:22
Yeah. Like we and we created a, a kind of a Spotify playlist and we'd all add our own songs and we'd all be listening to to the tunes, and then all of a sudden Madonna would come on. I think for me, who the fuck is put Madonna on this playlist? Everyone figured each other out, and now it was.

00:31:23:22 – 00:31:42:24
It was, it was great. Actually. We had we had another question that was similar to this, and I honestly, I'm just going to read it out. Let me just find it. I thought this was one of I thought I genuinely thought it was one of my mates emailing to lads, and I thought they were just pulling my plonker.

00:31:43:01 – 00:32:06:00
You know, I just, I thought they were just trying to hit me up. But it turns out this gentleman is from Edinburgh and he, he was not. And I listen to this enjoying the podcast. During lockdown I was playing poker online with the boys, and we haven't been as close as a group since. Every Saturday evening we'd all get together, get beers in and be online chatting, playing poker for hours and it was great.

00:32:06:00 – 00:32:28:17
I felt like the group of friends had been revived in tough times, and we made plans to do things once the world went back to normal. Since lockdown lifted, we've gone back to seeing each other once in a blue moon and they're quite distant friends now. I'd like to host an in-person game at some point, but without lockdown keeping everyone in it will be a logistical nightmare to organize.

00:32:28:17 – 00:32:54:10
So very similar to what we did. And I think a some people, when you did have that, you you really did have a community of people that were around you and because everyone was was locked in, everyone was messaging on WhatsApp and doing whatever else. What was. So you were you weren't always. Yeah, yeah. People. Yeah, exactly. Everyone's easy.

00:32:54:12 – 00:33:33:01
Oh yeah yeah yeah yeah. Well it's not good. There's no one needs anymore. The problem is the problem is, is life gets in the way of living. Sometimes it's like. Exactly. And then there, then it sounds like a bit trite and something you might see on some shitty postcard somewhere, but you, you don't. What lockdown gave us was the option to just sit back and and be with each other, whereas the reason why you don't see those mates every, every Friday, or whatever it might be, is because their time, which they can spend with their family, needs to be rationed and appropriated.

00:33:33:03 – 00:33:50:00
Well, allocated rather sorry. Accordingly. So like, you got your wife, you got your kids, you got work, you've got everything that needs to be fit into a finite amount of hours. Whether it's lockdown you just like. It doesn't matter if I'm two hours on a computer because I've been with my wife all day. I've done all that bit.

00:33:50:02 – 00:34:09:00
Yeah. Yeah. So that's. Yeah, that was it was, I cannot it's a shame, isn't it? You do look back. Yeah, totally. Me and my mates. We've always said that. Yeah. Let's get another poker night going. It ain't like, oh, days, like, look, we never do it. We will all live in our own lives. And it's a shame that it doesn't happen.

00:34:09:00 – 00:34:28:04
Right? Ricky arranged for Friday. Someone said Friday. Would you do it? Yeah. So we I mean, we spoke about it, but the main thing is no one organizes it. There isn't a main place where we're all going to meet to do it, and it might be something off the cuff. Oh, can you do it on Wednesday? Well, it's Monday today.

00:34:28:04 – 00:34:48:10
Like it's two days. No it's no I can't so I think what this what this lad who who emailed in is if you pick a date a month away. So everyone no one's got any excuses. You can all plan in and shift the days around to suit each other. Then you have to find the, like someone's house that they're happy to do it.

00:34:48:12 – 00:35:06:03
Maybe if, their missus or while they live even their own, or it's it's going to be a house where you can chill out and have a good time and then make sure when it's leading up to it, it's just a message to people individually. So now you still come around, still come around. Joe knows for you do it because I don't want fucking people around my housemate.

00:35:06:03 – 00:35:29:15
Exactly. That's what they do online. Them. Well, yeah I might. They're on. I'm never going to do. Yes. It's silly. What? What was your most favorite things to come out of lockdown? The best things. So I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll give you, a couple of mine queuing. I still see on the floor, you know, the green dots.

00:35:29:18 – 00:35:49:04
Everyone had to stand back a certain distance. People just not up in my grill. You like that when I'm in the post office? No, I hate it. No, you like you over my shoulder, I like. Yeah, I like the green dots. Yeah, the separation stamp. My business, man. Don't look at what I'm posting. Go away. Sir, I, I like that I like the separation.

00:35:49:04 – 00:36:09:20
I like, working from home. That's brilliant. Although businesses are trying to, let's say, to their staff to get them back into the office. What do you think of that? The toothpaste is already out the tube. I ain't going back in now. You can do it. Yeah. Hybrid two days a week work, but I don't. I work, I work a lot better from home.

00:36:09:20 – 00:36:31:16
You're lying. And that is. No, no, no, I swear to you, that's because I don't have people coming over to my desk saying, oh, Ricky, you know, blah, blah, blah, or does anyone know how much of that? Like, basically what they're saying is I want you to do it. So you stop what you're doing and you do what they want to, and then people walk past the desk and say, oh, I'm working on this project.

00:36:31:21 – 00:36:53:15
We should meet up and have a meeting about this. And it's like, we shouldn't meet up. You just want me to do that. Like, if I'm working from home, I just I'll just stay on track and meet my objectives. That's it. And then as well, I always used to work over my hours because I got so into something at 4:00 and I thought, I just stop now because it's 5:00.

00:36:53:15 – 00:37:20:19
Then I won't, I won't have the momentum, so I'd stay till like six online working away. So you just get those peaks and troughs of when you're productive, when you're not, and when you, you need to seize those and not be dictated to from a train timetable or your car or whatever. You're like the out of everybody I know you all you you hate returning to work more than anyone I know.

00:37:20:19 – 00:37:41:24
If you have a holiday, we'll have a conversation on the Sunday about you wanting to jump in front of a truck. Oh, yeah. Framework for us. Out into the. Yeah, into the canal. Yeah, I don't know. I just get such holiday blues and maybe it's because, I haven't found that job which I spring out of bed for, and I want to go back to.

00:37:42:04 – 00:38:06:15
I think we'll do another. I want to do another part on the theme. Yeah, yeah, yeah. But, yeah. So if you've got anything that, springs to mind. Yeah. Let me just the just, just the, the how great. I mean, it just the relationship, my relationship with my wife got even better. And that was the biggest thing for me because we were forced to spend so much time with each other, which is fantastic.

00:38:06:15 – 00:38:29:21
But it just. Yeah, cemented that even further. We weren't married at the time. We had to postpone, our wedding three times during because of Covid and lockdown. So yeah, it was, it was, it was great, I loved it. Yeah. Yeah, yeah. I mean, that was, that was the, Yeah, it was one of the fondest times of my life.

00:38:29:23 – 00:38:51:05
But where I live, I live in the middle of nowhere, like, literally no one around. So. Yeah, I don't know what happened to the postman next door. I've never told you about a policeman. I'm not sure if I'm allowed to just label them as a Polish men. I don't know if that's acceptable at PC, but they are a group of men from Poland, so I don't know what if, how, how or what what works in my work with it.

00:38:51:07 – 00:39:12:00
Oh. A man from Poland that live next door. They are Polish. Yeah, but you shouldn't categorize them somewhat. They're human beings. I don't know some of that bullshit, but, yeah, the Polish next door. That's what we called. They don't speak English either, right? Which is fine. I'm not saying anything like they're welcome here. Right. I their hard work is all that that mean they.

00:39:12:00 – 00:39:35:20
Are they based on these boys work? Fuck. You know, they they they get up at 6:30 in the morning. They get to the tractor yard because the company right next to us, part of their job that the way they make money is they find really old tractors. They refurb them so that they essentially look new. So these are tractors that would have been used on farms 34 years ago.

00:39:35:22 – 00:39:59:03
And they're all the yard next to where I live with these old, decrepit, rusted fucking old tractors. And they do they like battered these tractors as like that, like they that they that need to go to the tip and they take, they refurbished them from that, this rusty old fucking broke down tractor to to like new. It's incredible.

00:39:59:03 – 00:40:24:03
I don't know how they do it. I don't know how they don't. They might as well build it from new. These things are so fucked. But yeah, but. And then what happens is Africans turn up and it's always Africans. Yeah. They buy the old tractors because in because of the colonization in Africa, the reputation of British industry is elevated to a point where it's seen as the best.

00:40:24:05 – 00:40:45:07
So are engines, are tractors are cars or whatever it is we produce. I think is is part of the indoctrination of colonization. And you develop a, a mindset about the people that have colonized you so that you see them in a certain way. Anyway, they love our tractors in, in, in Africa. And there's a lot of farming there.

00:40:45:07 – 00:40:59:10
Right? So they buy these old tractors instead of buying like a New Holland and like you want to get here. But I've been I know this stuff is a you got like in the new Holland right. And John Deere these are types of tractors. Oh I know, oh yeah I know John Deere. Yeah yeah yeah. New John Deere.

00:40:59:12 – 00:41:25:02
Operation Deere you're talking hundreds of thousands of pounds. That's how much expensive they are. These little sort of Ferguson tractors. Yeah they they sell automation. They sell them for about five grand now. But not ten grand maybe, but they do. They, they they do the job that that's necessary. So all of a sudden you'll have there'll be like 16 Nigerian men, in, just in front of our house because they've taken the wrong turn.

00:41:25:02 – 00:41:48:04
But it's when you're in the middle of nowhere, it's like the last thing you expect to see. So, That would. That would be a surprise. Ollie, there's 60 Nigerian men in our front garden. I mean, you surprise anywhere, even in Nigeria, if it's 16 men standing in front, when you looked out and you didn't know they were going to be there, that is, you'd be like, oh, let's get on there.

00:41:48:06 – 00:42:02:10
As it turns out, they took a wrong turn and we showed them where they need to go. So they buy the tractors, take them back to Africa. And that's a part of how this company makes their money. And the Polish men are the ballocks. Like they fix all these tractors up. But I don't know what happened to him during lockdown.

00:42:02:10 – 00:42:22:15
I have no recollection of them being there. Oh, I see what you mean. You have coming full circle back to what? My point right? So what, you had no interaction with him? No, not. No nothing. I mean, we didn't see him. They got of been there. Right. But I don't remember them. And literally we live next door is one detached house.

00:42:22:17 – 00:42:39:05
You got seven Polish men and our family in on in one detached house is separate like there's no we've got our front doors up is the legends I like them. We come round with vodka.

00:42:39:07 – 00:43:05:03
930 in the morning, sometimes drink. Great. I drank a lot, I can't drink. No, no, it's not funny. In the summer they're out in the out of the back and they. Yeah, they're just they're they're cool. They're cool. My kind of guys drank. Yeah. I don't know why fans of them what I'm going to say. But next topic on do you know what the next topic is.

00:43:05:05 – 00:43:32:11
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00:43:32:16 – 00:44:00:10
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00:44:00:15 – 00:44:26:03
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00:44:26:05 – 00:44:47:01
That is, that's amazing. Thank you. And I know I'm going to say I will say this every week. But the interaction engagement and social the emails everything, it's been so positive, so heartwarming. And I thank every single person that is listening to this and being part of this community. I love you, I love you a lot. Now we're going to get into the mucky stuff.

00:44:47:07 – 00:45:08:02
Well, I know that's why you're here. I know that's why you're here. Let's get into it. Yeah, the questions and the dilemmas. Oh my. Let's go on. Yeah, yeah. Let's go. So this is this bit as well. Yeah we do. We need to. Yeah. We write a list of jingles. I'll get Alex and work on them. Lovely. All right.

00:45:08:04 – 00:45:27:13
So this is a jerk mate addiction. And this is from a gentleman in Australia all the way from Australia. Do you know when I think about people listening all the way in Australia, my mind automatically goes to hollowed out yogurt pots with strings like you're a kid. And you could talk through them. Yeah, you can hear what they're saying.

00:45:27:14 – 00:45:46:08
Like why? I don't know why, why, why would I think why did all the kids do it? Because it doesn't work. It doesn't it doesn't remember what. But every kid did it. And there's actually those. Hello hello hello hello hello hello. And then it starts to work, and I know it doesn't work. Why do we keep trying? Well, like what happened?

00:45:46:10 – 00:46:04:15
It's because we pretend this. Well. Yeah. I can hear you. Yeah, I just heard what you said, but really, they're in the other room. Of course you can fucking hear what they said for the role, you fucking cretin. During lockdown, I got stuck in another state away from the missus for six months. Things were going just fine with a little face time, sexy time.

00:46:04:21 – 00:46:28:04
Until one day she lost the plot and refused to take part anymore. While I was scrolling at Pornhub one night, desperately looking, okay, she just didn't want to do it anyway. Desperately looking to knock one off. I seen an advertisement for jerk Mate issue and it was a scam, but desperate to see some ass, I signed up ever since that day.

00:46:28:04 – 00:46:55:18
Good out. Pornhub doesn't hit the spot and I need some random Russian or Eastern European woman to, show me her bits. Live for 4 to $12 a minute to get the job done. Oh my, I, I have paid upwards of $75 a wank. It's financially dry. My question is, is it inappropriate behavior or have I turned into a monster?

00:46:55:20 – 00:47:18:23
What that is, is so I think it's just a live cam. I've got it. I just want to enjoy it, mate. I've had the little man on it. I'm clicking on it. Are you clicking on it? Yeah, I'm watching it now. I, it's a so it's sex cams, basically. Yeah. Sex cams. Yeah. And this gentleman has got addicted.

00:47:19:00 – 00:47:40:18
Oh, you can get everything you can get whatever you want, anything you want. I mean, so he $75 a wank. No. That's crazy, that's madness. That's crazy. Yeah, that's what I don't answer. We've got a friend of ours. He's also into this. And he spends money on this. Like, you know, you got a type of friend in your group that, you know, they're well into OnlyFans.

00:47:40:18 – 00:48:05:08
Like, too much like they've got multiple subscriptions. They know names of people. Yeah. And that's, that's that's how I, that's how I in the hierarchy of knowing porn stars names, knowing OnlyFans girls names, I don't know anyone know I just go onto a website and just type yeah that's it. That's. Yeah. But if you're invested in who they are, that's too far.

00:48:05:10 – 00:48:34:23
That. Yeah. Like if you're hoping their. Well their day to day like get doing all right then you've gone too far. Yeah. Like if you're I mean well I mean I mean spending money each time £75 an hour. It's crazy. It's even got to even the higher end of like $12 to to I bash in. The older you get as well, the more you have to concentrate to get there.

00:48:35:00 – 00:48:53:19
So I I'd, I'd be like oh my God I can't because this is costing 12. That's another $12. Yeah. The anxiety. Yeah yeah yeah. And you it shouldn't be full of anxiety when you're masturbating. You shouldn't be full of anxiety. It's just afterwards when the anxiety kicks in. What am I? Well, I'm no great. I'm just an animal.

00:48:53:19 – 00:49:17:02
Look at me. I'm a fucking. Yeah, I'm what I've done again, I just have. I don't have the self-control to fucking wait five minutes. What the hell? I'm on. So he's just into jerk my he's is needs to have live interaction not to get so that I see him fucking away. I don't know, I don't I don't know how it works.

00:49:17:04 – 00:49:43:01
That's that's a bad thing as well. Yeah. I think it's a lot of the stuff that the New age kids do in, like being on screen, where you can see each other doing stuff, which is that. That's wild. That is wild to me. What, you mean never. Yeah, I would yeah. I would never put in a position where I am naked wanking in a chair, but that's that's crazy to me.

00:49:43:01 – 00:50:04:13
Yeah, that and that's what this case is, is he's a yeah. He's a dictator. It's a it's just he he spent his time in his computer chair just masturbating. Yeah. You just need to, you need to dial it down, man. Just just stick to 11A week. Look forward to that one a week. Yeah. And make sure. Yeah, he's spending £75 now.

00:50:04:13 – 00:50:26:19
You can't. That is, you really can't. Yeah a price cap. Your price cap, you reduced it to once a week. And then eventually when you sell for onto free, live chat, I don't think there is any. You have to pay. There isn't. But there are, like, videos that simulate a live chat or something like that. There.

00:50:26:21 – 00:50:35:20
But you're not actually having that engagement. But yeah, that's unfortunate. That's what you have to do if I say something to live. Jasmine. What she say?

00:50:35:22 – 00:50:55:15
I've heard of live Jasmine. But I don't actually know what life Jasmine is. So this is a game for everyone to play out there. We mentioned this on the podcast, David James every now and then. But you need to catch your friend unawares and record their response. And you simply go live. Jasmine. Yeah, just randomly. And they're like,

00:50:55:17 – 00:51:16:04
What? It's amazing to see them fumble around, if you can send them in. Actually, if you video your mates, going up to your mates could be a dad. I don't let that doesn't work. He definitely knows, but I he's alone time. But or your brother or your mate. So is love. Jasmine are just alive I it's just an advert that pops up on.

00:51:16:06 – 00:51:38:21
Right. Or always pops up on the site, right? That's what essentially pays for the service to host all of the material, adult material. I'm going to go find life. Jasmine. I can't recall saying life. Jasmine is like, it's live, Jasmine or do you want to shy grannies in your area? Yeah, that's one of them. No, I don't know, right?

00:51:38:22 – 00:52:01:24
I mean, why why do I look like, oh, women? Why is old women. Do you want a why would in my area. Yeah. They're not in my area. Just all anyone here. There's loads of old people, but I'm pretty sure they. That one was shut me. Out the the next one. This is actually quite, quite sad, I thought I put it in, just have a little chat.

00:52:01:24 – 00:52:29:05
Bot extrovert turned into introvert since lockdown. So what advice would you give to someone that prior to Covid restrictions and lockdown that that was upbeat, positive and an extrovert? Now that feels introverted and seems to have more of a negative look on, social situations. I feel like any time a mate asked me to go for a pint or do something that I'd normally love to do is now looked on as an inconvenience.

00:52:29:05 – 00:52:50:00
I find myself being less adventurous and spend more time at home than I did prior to 2020. I sounds a bit like social social anxiety from I haven't I mean, I can't yeah, you know, well, you know what I'm doing. Like when I come to London, I, I struggle massively now, whereas I didn't either grew up in London.

00:52:50:00 – 00:53:20:18
Right. I live in London. It's my home. Yeah. But for now I really struggle with it really. And it has been since lockdown and I think lockdown, you just shielded from it all for some reason and it for whatever reason that was, it prevented you from having to go out online and go out and socialize. It's just when there's just so many people in London, it's so busy, so many people constantly like tube now is you on a tube is completely alien to me.

00:53:20:20 – 00:53:38:23
It's like feels so old skin on tubes. It's how do you feel when you're in social situations back where you live, like local pubs? Well, I mean, even there, I say if you went to a club or something like that, just like where there is on a Saturday night, you're in your local town, the beers are flowing in the local boozer.

00:53:39:00 – 00:54:07:01
Do you still have that touch of anxiety, like social anxiety? Because real people there, nah. I know there was this sort of pub before Christmas and it was rammed and I got ill from that pub. So that that little bit, but not really. It's just London, I think. Think of London. I think like I, I get what this guy's saying, and I used to get mad.

00:54:07:03 – 00:54:25:24
Exactly. Working from home that one day I've got to go into the office. I'm going into the office, man, and I just. I would hate it so much. And I just think it's because for then, it was a bit of even I'd been in the job. It is like a bit of imposter syndrome. When you go back into the office, everyone wants to be a bit alpha.

00:54:26:01 – 00:54:45:16
Everyone wants to have their ideas and creativity heard and to know that they're, you know, back on that pedestal and stuff like that. And then also in social space and down a boozer, and everyone's excitable and it does get a bit of a raucous kind of like everyone talking over each other. And it is like a bit intense.

00:54:45:18 – 00:55:04:06
So I, I love being at home. I love being in my own company and, and even with my missing kids, it I just, I love it. But I do realize I do need to push myself in these social situations that if my mate does say you fancy a pint or whatever you just got, go man. It's a bit like muscle memory.

00:55:04:06 – 00:55:24:23
When you go, it will be quite, it will be an assault on your senses and you might feel a bit of anxiety, but the more you do it, that muscle memory. Do you have you feel all right? You have to do it. You don't have to do it. You don't have to. But I'm saying if he wants to try and get himself back out there, back in the game, does he want to?

00:55:24:23 – 00:55:48:10
And, well, if you're happier being introverted, then just bin the mates off. Never speak to him again. You could do that as well. Just, just just communicate via WhatsApp, so I do. I love it. What do you love there? How much do you get from this relationship? Do you really need it? If not, burn it off, stay home, play computer games or whatever you want to do.

00:55:48:12 – 00:56:17:19
That's that's good answer. Do what you want to do. Whatever you want to do. There's no right or wrong way to live. If you're happy long, you're not hurting anybody. You're fun. You do you? Yeah. Right. Now, the next lad to come in, this is, one that wanted to get to during lockdown. I decided to try out a few of mine, and my wife's sex ways are knocking one out, and now I like to use her butt plug as a go to whilst having a tidy wank working from home.

00:56:17:21 – 00:56:41:08
I know I can't say this this next bit because it's a bit not, you know, PC. I don't back for the other side but fuck me a little tickle up the bum and I'm sparking like an elephant. Just curious to know am I weird or does anyone have any weird anchor kinks they've picked up from from lockdown? He shoves a butt plug up his ass every time he knocks it out.

00:56:41:08 – 00:57:06:24
Every single time I wouldn't. Yeah, it I mean, I don't know. Yeah, that's a that's a bloody good point. Does his wife know. Is he. Keep it all day I think I'm, I'm gonna go out on a limb here and say his wife doesn't know and he must clean it because she would find out, but that's mad. Literally.

00:57:06:24 – 00:57:31:10
But, yeah, I, I mean, if he if he is barfing like an elephant and he feeling, you know, I don't tell you as long as you're not hurting anyone. Yeah. No, it's fine, it's fine. It's just like. What. Yeah. Is that is that is some limbs to go to. Do not while. How would you be incapable of just sitting down like a normal human being and just knocking one out if you want to?

00:57:31:12 – 00:57:53:02
You're not capable of doing that unless you have something up your ass. Whoa. That. I mean, there's no judgment if I'm judging him. I'm saying he's. And he has an inability to do that. He can only do it if you shove something up his ass. That's not your problem, mate. That is a you've got addicted to that. And you need to, shoving things up your ass every ten minutes.

00:57:53:04 – 00:58:22:21
Scale it back. We need a friend. Friend of ours. He's obsessed with sticking things up his ass. I know I've not. I've. I was going to say. Have you. You ever know you have a double? No. No, no, no, I haven't ever. I can honestly say and I. And look, I can say this without any complete confidence that I have never, ever intentionally shoved something up my own ass, ever.

00:58:22:23 – 00:58:48:17
Right? And my friendship grew. Our friendship grew. Ricky. I'm the weird. Yeah, I'm the weird one for not for for not doing that. Like, something on your side of your own ass. We might know who's doing that. Who is sitting there and just having to talk and then gone. Right. And I'm going to stick a finger up my own ass now, I think, I think it's because you are so against it.

00:58:48:22 – 00:59:11:04
I'm not against it. I'm not, I'm against. I like you right? I mean, yes, I'm okay. I am going to put my finger on it, but you're not the you. No, I'm not against that. People doing it to themselves. It's your own body. You do what? How you want. But I'm not the weird one for not doing it.

00:59:11:04 – 00:59:38:21
I won't accept that. But back when I said you're doing it, you know, you just never tell me. No no no no no no. But crowbar knocker, back when I was a teen, there was a thing going round called a turbo wank. Yeah, I remember that. And it's. Yeah, if you stick a finger up your bum, massage your prostate gland while you take your mind off you, apparently, like this gentleman here with spank like an elephant.

00:59:38:23 – 00:59:57:04
I'm not going at all. I attempted to do it. But you need more than nothing. Yeah, to to do it. But my, My sphincter twitched. Just having it was to say, not now, mate. Things come out of this. Don't go in. And no matter how hard I tried, wouldn't go and just weren't just weren't having it just.

00:59:57:06 – 01:00:16:15
So it's a bit of. No, it's. I've never been back since, but, you know, hands up if like, if something happens with the misses and it's one of those free am nights, drunken finger slides. You know, I'd like to see what happens now, what way you might fall out. There might be poo everywhere. What happens with that happens, Ricky?

01:00:16:15 – 01:00:33:07
That's what I'll be scared of. Yeah, that that would be a nightmare, because then you'd have to go to bed for that. Then every night for the rest of your life, knowing you, it. We need to. Yeah. And I don't want that on my hands. I think we need to get. I don't know if if we talked about Alex last on the first part.

01:00:33:09 – 01:00:53:01
But we need to get him on it on the on here and get him to tell about his incident. Involve him poop. Yeah, yeah. Well, send a voice note in as well. Yeah, yeah. Well, you are you opposed to it? Having other people on the pod? No no no no, not at all. I think it's because it's good if if he's more comfortable.

01:00:53:01 – 01:01:18:22
Yeah. It's good. Let's see what he says. Yeah. No. So I mean that's that's my main fear is that it just it will open up the floodgates to a deluge of shit. And that's not something good. I don't think it's worth the risk, Ricky. I don't think it's worth. Is it worth? You got like it? Can it feel that good so that you're just completely oblivious to the risk of shit going everywhere?

01:01:18:24 – 01:01:40:23
I don't know, but it apparently it does feel that good. Can you do some bit of homework? Right. Okay. Do it. Try it out. Yeah. There it is. We do it this week. All right. While I'm working from home all the time in the world, the heels of my feet will be on my on my desk. Yeah.

01:01:41:00 – 01:02:04:02
It's, amazing. I'm going to go into the last one that someone has sent in, and it's a stack day dilemma. And basically, I'm going to be paraphrasing this long because it's a bit of belonging. Yeah. It's a longing that a guy has organized a stag day for is my thought is, soon to be wife. The date we're going abroad, she said.

01:02:04:02 – 01:02:24:14
We're doing something already on that day. You're going to have to rebook because it's nonrefundable. So they've done the flights and everything, and he's like, okay, well, annoying, but I'm going to change it anyway, right? I'm going to I'm supposed to do that. So. So they say he wants to go on a lads, stag do. Right. But yeah, they booked the flights already, booked the flights already.

01:02:24:14 – 01:02:47:13
And then he's gone to his wife and she says you're going to have to rebook those. Remove those because we've already got something booked. Yes that's correct. Right. And then as they've moved the flights, the, the guy who's getting married says, I need to add another two people to the stag do list, and the guy's gone. All right.

01:02:47:16 – 01:03:19:00
Fair enough. You add in, one of them is a lad from his soon to be wife's friendship group. Doesn't really hang about them. But the wife said he wants to come along as well. Okay, that's a bit weird. The second person is her 19 year old daughter. So we lad stay to a lads stag day. So one of her male mates and her 19 year old daughter.

01:03:19:02 – 01:03:44:22
What she wants them to go on the stag do with the stags. What are your thoughts on this. So, so the the first day that the first stag do that they had planned has to be moved because they're already doing something. So the reason for that, what what they're doing in this instance. No, doesn't say anything. So it's something that is more important than the stag.

01:03:44:24 – 01:04:08:23
Yeah. That has to be some significant okay. So yeah, my first my first response would be to start with that. If my to be wife has asked me to move the stag, which impacts lots of people. So so it was I did. So this is it. So I think it's the guy like me. I would say to your wife, I've booked slap stag.

01:04:09:01 – 01:04:27:00
This is where we're going. We've done all the hotels, we've done all the flights. And she turns around and says, Rick, you're going to have to move that. We're already busy. We're doing something. It's nonrefundable. So I've said, fuck, okay, I'll move it. Yeah. What though? What is that thing? And that's that's what I'd need to know if it was something significant.

01:04:27:00 – 01:04:46:09
Like a fucking funeral, then I'd get it. Because you can't move a funeral right? Yeah. Otherwise, there should be no reason why that stag has to move, in my opinion. Zero, right. So that would be alarm bells for me. But he's not the flag. Yeah, Matt. Well, not more than that. It'd be like, what are you doing here?

01:04:46:09 – 01:05:04:19
What's what's the point? Why why are you being and why hang on a minute wide. Why is it just a pre? Given that we're going to move the stag, why don't you do something about this problem? This sounds like your problem. That would be my initial reaction, right? Yeah. You'd also not want to rock the boat too much, so I'd start hating up from that minute.

01:05:05:00 – 01:05:27:07
That would be the start. I don't like this. And this is the beginning of my hatred for you, even though no one's going to know about it. But deep down, I hate you because of this, right? That's what I'd do with that. But whatever. They've decided to move it, which is very gracious. She should be eternally grateful for the fact that they've they've, they've moved it.

01:05:27:07 – 01:05:47:20
Summat tells me that she won't be, but she should be eternally grateful. So let's move on to the next bit, which is then the next bit is. So she this she wants two people added to the stack. A bloke that none of them know. What? Yep. One of her male friends groom. Right? Yeah. No, he's the groom. But it's.

01:05:47:20 – 01:06:05:05
It's a kind of like a knows him. Yeah, he's all right. I want him to go and just put that that doesn't. Then that does that sort of thing. It does happen. I'd let that pile. So that's fine. Okay. Like I'll keep up with it. And he's got an issue with a banner or he gets upset. That's on him.

01:06:05:07 – 01:06:27:10
Yeah. But I wouldn't want my my missus dictating who that. But is, is so is, is it the groom's idea or is it the Mrs. nice the missus idea. The groom is okay with it or doesn't know. Hey, he's got a beanie. He's got a baby. He does. No he does. No he doesn't I and then also, 19 year old do.

01:06:27:14 – 01:06:54:18
That's weird. That is, that's. Yeah, that's that's really weird because what's going to happen is there's a couple of issues. One, there's a fucking fly in the soup. Yeah, right. Anything they want to do, they there's going to be walking. There's they're walking on eggshells because there's this girl here who is clearly a spy. Yeah. That's that is the word I was going to use.

01:06:54:18 – 01:07:17:14
But yeah, definitely. But also we've taken out getting hammered and and drugged up and they're all getting involved. And she's going, well, she's going to get rattled by one of them. A few maybe. Well not whatever. Well I don't know what that's what this fact is about. Exactly. So what I'm saying is you, by putting your daughter in that situation, not that she might be well up for it.

01:07:17:14 – 01:07:40:22
And it sounds like a lot of fun, as you would be at 19, but you're creating a scenario where you could have she could be doing things that you're not happy with because that is, by their nature, all kind of silly. And they are. Everyone does things to excess. Yeah. And it isn't to my experience. It isn't getting the groom to shake up a policy or anything like that.

01:07:40:22 – 01:08:01:21
I've never, ever seen a groom cheat on that would be of all the stag does have been, that's never happened and no man has ever made someone do that, in my experience. Yeah, I don't think I've ever been on a stag party where that has happened either where I haven't said they've or anything like that just doesn't happen.

01:08:01:24 – 01:08:18:10
Me yeah. No, no, no, I mean we've been to strip gaffs and and shit like that, but it's not to the point where, oh, it's my last day of freedom or whatever, I'm going to go and get a bar scene or I'm going to do this. So we've, we've put, we've put under pound, you know, over the bar.

01:08:18:11 – 01:08:35:10
You've got to go get with that bird there. Yes. None of that's really happened. I don't think you're very you're a very good friend. If if you're doing that in my opinion, it's not my it's not my thing. It's like many shit in the bath and a hotel and think it's funny. It's like, that's not really my thing either.

01:08:35:12 – 01:08:58:20
But the people that were in the bar for a laugh riot and leave it there are the same people that would encourage you to sleep with a prostitute, because it's the last day of your freedom up. Yeah, those up as the kind of scumbags that I wouldn't want to associate with. Yeah, that's that's fair. But in this instance, she's planting the tree that's meant all that.

01:08:58:20 – 01:09:13:09
She wants her daughter to go on it. It's along with flags everywhere. There's some trust. Yeah, there's some trust issues with the sort of stag is nothing to do with you. Just keep your nose out. It has nothing to do with you. It's to do with a friend and that. And you can. You can ask questions. Where you going?

01:09:13:14 – 01:09:41:01
What are you doing? Yeah. Please don't strip him naked. Put ecstasy up his ass, that kind of thing. But on that, just leave him alone. And then the dots shouldn't be there. Because nothing to do with a friendship group. That's all organized in the. Yeah. Just, Just. Yeah. Charlie. Great. Yeah. So, lads, I mean, there is there's some trust issues there, and I would be, I don't know what I would do.

01:09:41:01 – 01:10:00:03
Actually, I don't know what you can't really just say. Don't turn up to the stag would stop organizing it. Whatever. It's something you can. But I know there's nothing. You just have to go along with it. You just have to go along with it and kind of say, all right, fine. And be amicable throughout all of it. But then afterwards, like I've said earlier, I have a deep internal hatred for her.

01:10:00:03 – 01:10:32:03
Yeah. And harbor it for years. Yeah, yeah. And any chance you get tripped them over. She's a. Yeah. Just and and plant a I mean it's. How dare she ruin your stag day I dare she. That is outrageous. That is outrageous. That is. Yeah. I mean, I'm glad the questions come up because it is interesting. A scenario, but my gut feeling, knowing nothing about her and on the groom and and you and your friendship, that is a controlling slash abusive.

01:10:32:05 – 01:11:05:13
That is signs of of emotional abuse. Yeah. Totally like that. That is I grew up fiercely defensive about controlling relationships like, like and being in a situation where I felt like I was being manipulated. I was like, acutely aware of it all the time. And, and you saw you saw your mates some, some of your mates and, and some, some women as well, in situations where the one side of it controls everything and you're like, this is sick.

01:11:05:13 – 01:11:40:12
This is this is the law. This isn't the place. This isn't a healthy relationship. Like, it's like it's not like people are don't let their husbands go down the pub or or the woman's not allowed to see her friends because the male is controlling usually. Yeah, yeah. In the male side of things, it's much more aggressive, sinister, obviously with a mouse dominant and has, you know, he's the abusive partner is generally much more scary because men are capable typically of doing much more.

01:11:40:14 – 01:12:00:00
I'm talking very broadly here. Right. Yeah. There's women. It seems to be much more emotional or mental control in my experience of what I see. Anyway. So there's lots of red flags there, but it doesn't mean it's not going to go and have a great relationship and a good marriage. It's just that. That I can imagine why you're fucking furious or would be quietly see?

01:12:00:00 – 01:12:25:20
Yeah, yeah, I'd be absolutely seething. I'm going to leave it there for, episode three of Lads anonymous. As we said at the top of chat and throughout, please continue to like, man it like it it cost you nothing. It means everything to us. It takes you seconds to just go on Spotify, click on the little three dots where we are and rate the show five stars.

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