#63 | Are Fart Selfies Really A Crime?

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the night hazy like I know. Brothers playing challenge high is quite midnight. Waves surfing through Tuesday night breaks rhythm. Here's different ways. Love a music I we prayed with our tongues in cheek band is that we like to speak and yeah, times change. But no matter what, the bond remains. Promise I'm Ricky Heath Flav T best mate one main topic we answer your life dilemmas and confessions and our feature something only you know.

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And everything remains anonymous always. So sit back, relax and enjoy the podcast. How's it going? Flat fine. We started recording this over an hour ago. We should be finishing right now. Yeah, it's been stressful. Well, I know it's not been mega stressful, but it's been like it's been a spanner to the morning hasn't it? Yeah. So my, my is low now.

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No one should have run. You should have run out and got a coffee. I got one of these detox vit hits. Oh. Well, I it's all right. It's, 25 calories per bottle, so. But swimming again. Swimming again this morning, Rick. Again. And this morning. You are fucking phenomenal. I was thinking about you and I was swimming.

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Well, yeah. Yeah, yeah, I was thinking Ricky could do this because you were saying, no, I don't want to go to the gym. I don't like it. I don't feel comfortable. Right. And that's fine. Lots of people don't. I don't feel comfortable in the gym either. Yeah, but swimming is, like, just loads of old people and you and no one's judging you.

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And everyone moves slowly and after, like, this is like my fifth or sixth time. Now I'm really starting to get into it now. Like, I feel, it's sort of, I feel like a, like Aquaman.

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It's like gliding through the pool. That's amazing. That's. So there's three things about swimming that I. I really like it. Not that I dislike, but the first one is I hate being cold. Well, you know, was not you jumping to a cowboy going with a negative. Rick. The pool is that I go to. It's fucking freezing. It's notorious for being freezing.

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Number two. Fucking get in there. Number two is something happens to me psychologically. I'm not sure what it is, but when I jump into a pool, it's like nostalgia rushes to the surface of all the fun I've had in a swimming pool, and I just. My arm starts thrashing loudly because I'm having fun. I'm in a pool. I'm really swimming pool.

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It must mean this, you know, this a party or I'm on holiday. Something quality is happening cause I'm in a pool and then I'll swim one length and I'm like, I'm fucked. I can't not, I can't do anything else. I will literally do one length, and I won't even be able to pull myself out of the pool because I'll be so tired.

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So what is it, Rick? You don't want to do swimming. You don't want to do the gym. You want you keep talking about wanting to lose weight. What is it? What are you going to do then? Long walks. Long walks, I like that, I like good long walks. I did like your little video. You did it. There were new and, like, houses on the canal, on the road.

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I don't know what you said. TLC or something. Do you see? What's that? Credit Union Canal, John. Very good. See you. If you know the lingo. Lingo, I don't know. I just put it together. I love it on the canal because people. Right. There's this weird kind of weather going somewhere, and there's just this unwritten rule of Connecticut.

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You walk past dog walkers in the morning and they say morning to you. Only on the canal, only on the canal. The canal. People on their narrowboat when they're getting called out for their fires and doing this, that. And the other time. Right. Morning. How's it going, mate? Yeah, I'm all right. Even if people that don't, you know, speak to people, they'll give you a little nod.

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Yeah. But you know, you know, I just thought that's one of the big differences between living in the country and living in the city is that people say hello to each other. They nod like I've nodded to people I will never see again in my life. I'll say hello to them, especially if you're on a dog walk on a canal 100% like it changes people's moods.

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They're just much more open to each other, I think. Like when you get on a canal, even if you live near the city and you're quite close to what I mean, like the rural area, right? It's not far. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Oh, yeah, for sure, for sure. Yeah. You get to the canal, you let. Yeah. Let's be nice to each other side instead of like, was like he was looking at me.

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Didn't you, didn't you meet crossbow on the canal? I did meet crossbow in the canal. Yeah. Yeah, yeah. He what's his name? A clerk at voice Anonymous in a line. Yeah. But, Yeah, I did meet him on the canal and one day. So we've we've kind of. It's quite funny. We've now got this relationship where we where he sends me DM's of where he is, and he's just traveling around Britain and his canal, and he's kind of a mad aqueduct.

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He's just living the life of Riley. That's that, that that is attractive to me. So what what does he do for money? He just switches your cash on hip. I don't know what he does for a living, but I know it's just him and his dog on this narrowboat exploring Britain, his dream rocking up to wherever you were.

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And I'm like, that is what a fucking life. Come on. What do you. William. Crossbow.

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Because when he invited me down to meet him on his canal boat that was in Milton Keynes. No idea. I've never met him before. Maybe. You know, I've just been having a chat, and there was a person in my head that I'm going to meet him and the canal, because you're going to swing open places will be standing, never crossed by.

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And it's just going to now be straight in the chest. Man, you never know. These situations like the goodness at your heart to to meet people and you just want to seem the best out of people. Why would you want a crossbow? You're in the chest. So I don't know. Everyone wants 15 minutes of fame today. Does it matter how they get it?

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They get one on ITV news. Yeah, central. Now it'll be the one. And so you know the BBC like local news, like the South Face. The one that's not age. Yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah. Exactly. I won't go to Newcastle. Nobody. Why or BBC Wales would know about it. Just the local news. Bedfordshire is it. But yeah. Yeah yeah.

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That pussy here in Bedfordshire is all I get banned crossbow on the crime Union canal.

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Leaves behind a wife and two kids. How high up the these drinking that story would go if you get in crossbow, right? No, I mean crossbow against my cock, but it's pretty certain it. That's that fucking you. Okay, let's let's let me give you so you. So in terms of what news this would make, you've gone for a walk, you've tripped over, you've fallen in the canal and you've drowned.

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Right? I have this ongoing fear. I have awaited, awaited jacket. Not a jacket awaited, waistcoat. Well, you can put sandbags in so it goes from five kilograms and it can go all the way up to nine kilograms. That's to help with the walking and the calories and stuff. Exactly. So when I, when I wear it, I go for my hour walk.

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When I come back, my clothes are soaking wet and I mean soaking wet from obviously all the sweat. But it's I wear it and I do. I have a little freak out. Like what would happen if I tripped and fell into the river rage next to me? What would happen if I went to say to because the canal paths are narrow?

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And I say to the this person, yeah, walk by by with the dog. And I take one step back and I fall into the canal with this weighted waistcoat. That's it. That's the end of me. I ain't getting out of that. Yeah, yeah. How much weight you got in there? 15. Ten. Well, I don't know how far it will be.

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Five kilograms. You know, weight surely can swim with an additional five kilograms weight. Trust me, I'm going to when I say, you know, it's I'm going to bring it down to. Yeah. And you'll put it on nearly a lot. That's a bit fucking no. And I've got like little hiking boots on. They say you can't swim it. I can be through.

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It's true. There is certainly in the canal. You can stand up though, honey. Yeah, I think I probably could get away with it, but I still don't panic in my head. Then a canal is like about 20ft deep. Is it not? No it's not. No, no. How do you even see? You've got two shelves. Two like small shelves that maybe it's like three feet if you stepped off into the canal.

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And then the middle bit is the deepest. So that's where the hull of a narrowboat would. That's where it go through. And that I don't know, I guess I'll probably say 9 or 10 for Oh. I don't think it's that deep. So, so just just go back to the game. So you're walking on the canal, you've tripped over a rock and fallen in on your weight, a jacket, and you drown.

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Yeah, yeah. What? How what level of news does that bridge? I think that's got to be pretty. The thing is as well. Right? Local paper. What I'm saying at most local paper. Because you know what there is. Is it, Milton Keynes, isn't it? Isn't so yeah. I think it goes bigger than that. And here are my reasons, right?

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Because if I'm wearing a white jacket and I'm under the water. Thrashing it's going to be a, it's going to be a while until anyone finds me I would be like hey what's that lady's name. He just went missing. She abandoned. She was found in the river. Oh about a year ago. And there's a big sort of.

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Yeah, yeah. Conspiracy about what happened to her. Yeah, well, she was out of work because she. She was on a work call, and she was still logged into the work call when she was by a bench. And then all of a sudden, she's missing. Yeah. What? My wife loves getting involved. Low key involved in that. So it's not involved, but she likes keeping abreast of what's going on, really?

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Does she? Right. Okay. Just like listening. She likes like she likes. Listen to it like. Oh okay. Like she loves it. She enjoys the. She doesn't like seeing everything on the face value. She she'll try and see beyond. Right. She doesn't like listening to the just the if. What are the BBC saying. All right. Now what are we really talking about is that that's that's what she enjoys.

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Do you think she's got like a little notepad where she's she's listening out for all the details and it's like, oh, I know they didn't write. It is not an internet sleuth. Oh, okay. Those guys get on my nerves fucking to investigate. Yeah, right. We should talk a bit about sleuth. Internet sleuth? But what? So what are you saying?

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And so, you know, your body's not found. For what? Like for you. Which can be it? Well, I don't think it'd be weeks. I think if you really say you, you're adding stuff every year. I can add that if I want. Right. I almost need to answer the question. If you're missing for weeks, that's national news. That's man with no previous.

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I'm trying days. I'm trying days out my series. Like a man who has a traditional family. Yeah. Who doesn't have any, drug addiction and alcohol addiction. Yeah, but isn't in any trouble. Okay. Oh, and people might like it. And then he's gone. Yeah. That. Yeah. That's that's. Yeah, it is. That's the news. Right. And then everyone's gone.

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Well what's happened to him. Is it sort of racially motivated attack. Yeah yeah yeah yeah. And then they find out he's tripped and he's got a weighted jacket on. You know how angry everyone would be. Yeah. Yeah. That's, that's, that's the that's the truth. This is the thing with all these things and it's loose and stuff is the truth is much more boring than the, the then the ideas of what might have happened.

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The truth is, generally the most easiest way to explain it. At least the most boring. He's fallen in the country and he's got away. It could be him. That's what he said. But that was gone. Well. Oh, no reason to be in the canal. What's he doing? The cow didn't mean it. You had the boy ejaculate. Why? They had the white jacket on.

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You wanted to lose weight. Well, did he? Did he want to lose weight? Not sure. But today you've got. Oh. Like, I don't know where he is. And then you flick over to the British Muslim man wearing a jacket that looks like a terrorist jacket. Training. For me, practicing swimming in Canal Street to blow up the merchant, the navy.

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All right, so imagine all that say stuff wasn't true. You just tripped in the canal. They found your body six hours later. Dead local news that you're talking about. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. The Herald. The local Herald. Yeah, yeah. Okay. Right. You've been it. The evidence suggests that you've been pushed into the canal late at night. Oh, you did Bedfordshire local news because that's something.

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Yeah, yeah. That is. Yeah. Yeah, I think it goes it might go a bit. I think it might go Buckinghamshire, Bedfordshire, Northamptonshire, the three counties that I'm in. I think that's where that goes. Yeah. And right you've, you've gone to meet your friend and you've been crossbow to death. Right. You found face the the Grand Union Canal with a crossbow sticking out through your chest.

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And then with the cross by, there's a note on the end of that. Warwick. Yeah. Hahaha. You know that there was a there was a serial killer in Australia who would just just target old ladies. Oh, that's a bit of fuck. Yeah. Yeah, it's dark and the calling card was no more grannies. What the fuck? He would graffiti on the walls.

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No more grannies. After. After murdering them. It could be as well. Fuck you now this. That is. Did they find him? No, no, no. Imagine that you're your biggest bugbear in this world. You'd be angry at anything. And it's grannies that really grind your gears. Jesus, man, that goes in emergency Granny's and every bit of spray paint gets just right.

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It's no more grannies.

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Before I forget, right? Do you remember last week we put out a call out for, anyone that's connected with the O2? Tate McRae? Oh, yeah. Yeah. I didn't get a connection, but I did get this email. Okay, just want to preface this email with the facts that I am a straight male. However, I would love to go and watch Tate McRae concert.

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I really recommend you watch a few of her latest music videos or clips from her performing, and I think he would change your tune about going along. I went along with my Mrs. not too long ago, and to her discuss from the minute Tate McRae came on stage, my jaw hit the floor. I needed a bucket and mop to clean up my saliva as this half naked goddess danced and sang all night.

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If you do managed to get any spare tickets, let me know and I will happily go. Although I think I will go on my own this time.

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That is. What's a scene from raunchy on stage? Is she? I don't know, I don't know, I mean, this guy is like fully I don't I said I said as a 43 year old man, I thought, I'm not judging this guy. He might be in his 20s. It's not a bit I don't really want to watch the 21 year old girl writhing around.

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No. I the the connections and the. Because I've got obviously my, my young two who's 13 and to someone that's 20 years old is not that far away. Do you know what I mean? It's it's quite close. Yeah. It's two like ten years ago she was like 11. Yeah. I remember ten years ago, like it was yesterday.

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There's something not. Right. So I'm, you know, I just. Do you know what I mean. No. Yeah. It like, I like, kind of see Tate McRae. I mean.

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It's up to you. It wouldn't be my thing. I mean, it's just shit, isn't it? It's just. Yes. And, like, what is it that I don't want to, like shit on everyone's parade and, you know, just I don't if you like. You like what you like, all right? But it's just shit. It's shit. Music is shit. It's not even music.

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It's just marketing shit. Built a massive. It's like KSI, right? You listen to his music, he's shit. Oh, that is, that is fucking right. It hurts more records than almost every musician that's ever come out of the UK, barring a few. Right? In terms of like success, he's probably in the top 1%, 0.1% of the record sold of every musician that's ever come out.

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More less than that probably. And it's just shit. It's like these people and I know I'm sounding old now, but I'd rather be old and bitter than listen to that shit. I really I'd rather be the way I am and slightly angry than just go, this is good. Or accept what this is. It's crap. Right? And yeah, and the reason why I'm saying this is she's got this career because she had, I'm presuming like huge like KSI, he had a YouTube channel.

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The audience is already there because what they're doing now, I wonder what we'll do. I've always wanted to sing. You only should be allowed to sing if you can, but we've moved past that now. It's so Agnes at this take McRae. Well, she and x YouTubers and the fact that that. I mean, I'm hoping after, I'm hoping, you know, I get your point.

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Now. I get your point. I mean, yeah, it's just. Who is this? Girls? What have you seen in the news? That's a woman used for selfies to to to torment her fella's ex-girlfriend. But I. I did see that. So she has like so her fella, his ex, she was sending messages like bombarding her of just her video in a selfie and farting and then sending it to her.

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What is the background? I that is that's as much as I know about it. So I mean, like, that's crazy in it. The mindset of doing that, like if you were going to get the things you've got the you've got the partner, you've got the boyfriend, like why are you then going for the X? And then if you're gunning for the X, why are you tormenting them by putting that far in?

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I mean, I would love that, to be fair. If so, like a lot of people do send me long thoughts that they do as as voice notes and I enjoy them. I bloody do enjoy it. I don't, I, I don't get it. I think it's like I, like you said before like that lads sort of, you know, going away on all night together and someone's got a shit in a bath and then they know that.

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The last. Yeah. That's it. Well that's bad that, that like. Yeah. I mean when I was in my teens, younger 20s lads holiday that mode, I would have been like, that's well funny. But as a 42 year old man, I am like, that's not why did we do that? This is anyone do that? This is the article.

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As per 30th of January 2025, a woman who sent us videos of herself passing wind in a series of harassing messages to her boyfriend's ex-partner, has been given a community order. Shop worker Rebecca Evans, 25, of Mountain Street. Why, sir? Why did I have to say exactly where she lives? Like this is embarrassing and I know it's out of order.

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And this is on bbc.co.uk. This ain't like the local herald. This ain't the local herald. This is national news. But shop worker Rhiannon Evans, 25, of Mountain Street, and kind of Gwen did it or some birth place, pleaded guilty to to pursuing a course of conduct amounting to harassment, prosecutors told magistrates in the town hall. In Evans first inappropriate video, she proceeds to pass gas by placing the camera on her bottom and then passing the gas.

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She sent three more fart selfies to Deborah Pritchett via WhatsApp on the 22nd of December, the court heard, and for more the following day, showing Miss Evans passing wind, her face smiling at the camera. What did she think she was winning here? I don't know, that's what I the actual I don't understand. What is it? What was the motive to all of this?

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She says Evans was arrested at her home. Admitted to sending. How? Also, how is this illegal? Like, you're watching this and going, it's disgusting. Why is she sending that? And then you forget about it, don't you? Easy, easy. Part of you guys, I'm gonna call the police. Yeah. The thing is, is what is it like counting back?

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How many did she said? Maybe six or 7 or 8? Seven. Eight. Seven. Seven. Eight. To me, that's not a bombardment. That's not like you're waking up and you've got 35 missed calls every day or whatever. It's not. I mean, listen to this rate, she said. She suggested she wanted to send videos because she felt a partner was being treated unfairly.

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But actually Goti like, I think he's been treated unfairly. Right. She's going to get far. Video today. That's, It was pretty malicious. She was smirking throughout, found the alias, but the victim didn't.

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Mrs. prefetch said in a statement, I would like to feel safe in my own home.

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That's ridiculous. Like she's not sending it right. Our take. She sending it via WhatsApp. WhatsApp? And that's like, how much does that cost out? Like that's taxpayers. That's my tax going on that. Yeah. That is that seems it's petty. Like don't call the police. If someone said in default videos no don't let it go to trial. Police should surely deal with this.

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And John stop fucking doing this. What, are we going to arrest you? You know something? You know, like Judge Dredd. You know, Judge Dredd. He would be there. Yeah, yeah, he would catch the criminals. Then he would judge them on the street. And then the judge crack on. Yeah, I think we need, I don't know, people like people like this, but I think sometimes maybe in some instances the police should have more power.

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So in this you got the video, you got you got the video. She's farting in it. This other person don't like it. Deal with it there. Don't send it for the courts. So well you have farted in front of it. She doesn't like that ass hundred pound fine community order. That's the rules. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Then you have the buffer.

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The buffer. The court said. Oh, this should be like an, an intermediary, like, not not quite police level, but, you. Officer. Yeah, yeah yeah yeah, yeah. Plastic pigtails. That would deal with, Oh, you have, like, judges that walk around the street dealing with a little minor crimes. Yeah. Yeah. Like that. Yeah. Like in the olden days, there's, like a witch trial.

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Like every Saturday morning at the local church, everyone brings their local beef and then their judge. That'd be good. Yeah, I'd like that if, not to like speaking back to you just said about. It's a bit much in it that that's gone to trial. That's a waste of taxpayer's money. Waste of everything. All of it. Yeah. With with that in mind and a lot of people with that, there seems to be this outcry of the police not policing, because they're busy arresting people that have said mean things online.

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Do you think that as is, as a society, especially within the UK, that things have gone too far in that, in that sense that if people say mean stuff on the internet, then that shouldn't really go to the police, that shouldn't go to trial, that that shouldn't, you know, I mean, this is a bit but, the 40 thing, even though I don't really think it was that malicious, but they were sending videos, you know what I mean?

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So you can kind of see that. Rick, what can you think of someone you've had sort of beef with in the past? Think of that person. Right. And he sent you 4 or 5 videos when Im laughing. Smirking. Yeah. Any part of you goes to the police? Absolutely. No, no, no, no like that, that anybody who would go to the police.

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No, I wouldn't even think to call the police. It wouldn't even be on my I just before doing it to my, my mates in the WhatsApp group. And Bella, don't you think this is weird. Yeah. Like that's your that's your, that's the that's how you come back. You just share it with people can look at this and everyone can.

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That's fucking well weird. What are you doing. Quickly turns 000. You get your own back. Just start posting them on Facebook. Oh start posting them. Yeah, right. I'm out. Yeah. If you want, if you have this largest call and the had. Yeah I don't know if she's doing something illegal by that but I guess yeah. No, it's, it's not something I would imagine should be shared through the courts.

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So now imagine you were, in like, so she lives on Mount Street now, so, you know. Yeah. So, you know where she lives? I can probably find out. At least go don't Google and find out what it looks like. The, if there would be a Facebook group, there's a Facebook group of where I live. Just imagine you start dropping six videos in there half hour and saying, hey, by the way, if you get that mountain straight, we got a little around here.

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Yeah, yeah, it's a weird one for me. Yeah, I think, yeah, I like it if people are being, like, racist and stuff like that. I think there's a, there's a cause for like if people are a bit like hate speech and stuff like that online, I think there's a they can be warned. There's something like going to prison and stuff like that.

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It just seems like I'd much prefer the police out there to be trying to. Yeah, murderers or whatever, or their resources pulled into something different. Yeah, of course I think. But essentially you should it shouldn't be public funding that deals with this. It should. There should be, you know, Twitter or X should have a pool of money that deals with the paying for these things, like in terms of football, football matches, we're talking about when Tottenham play, we have to pay for the policing on that day.

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Any football club has to pay for the police in that day. That's yeah, that is so if the if football clubs have to pay for the policing then Twitter, if it happens on that platform should pay for the legal proceedings. Yeah. Yeah totally. That's why did you, did you see as well, there's a German man who set the world record for living 120 days underwater.

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No, I didn't see that. Which is. Can you imagine? I like I saw the photos of it. And to be fair, there's lying on the water. What what what? Wait, where was he? Or was it in a capsule with these? Just literally underwater? He's in a capsule, but he's in the capsule. I if you check WhatsApp has a link diver.

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Yeah. But he's in this capsule, right? But the capsule has stairs going to above sea level so people could walk down and see him. They could serve him food, but yet he was in a capsule under the sea. And although I kept it 120 days underwater, that's, you know, who cares in this little capsule but like it built.

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So that's the story. The fact you're living in the capsule, which is underwater, not is is not interesting. I think this is where people are coming down to the capsule and say it him and he's getting food served. I so that's not a fucking feat. You got to make it work. In the capsule. Yeah. So someone's bringing you food.

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You're just living, all right? You've managed to build this capsule that can exist on the wall. That's quite impressive. I'll give you that. What's his name? Is it Rudy? Her coach? Yeah. Rudy. Rudy, I'll give you that. Right. You've built his career as he even built the capsule. Or did someone give him the capsule? I don't know, I don't know any better.

00:29:59:10 – 00:30:18:04
A built a capsule. Otherwise, I'm not interesting. Because the fact that he's built this capsule that keeps out the water and he's got oxygen down there and that. That's good. That's good. I get that. I'd like to look at someone live in that for a bit like five minutes or something, or if there's a like a segment on the news that lasts two minutes, 30.

00:30:18:09 – 00:30:36:23
And it's about him living in that capsule, I'm interested. Right. Yeah. What I'm not interested is it is is what he's actually doing is he's living in his capsule. But every now and then he's going to the surface, and people just hand him food. Yeah, but you have to have something in the capsule that makes the food sustains you for 120 days.

00:30:37:01 – 00:31:01:10
You can live there forever. In that instance. Yeah, he puts 120. Why not do ten? Because all you looking up some stairs and living downstairs in the capsule. Yeah. It's ridiculous. I bet Marvin the entertainment down there, you better live an Xbox or something like that. Oh, he does, he does. He has everything into that. He has a lockdown that I think we should write into Guinness World Record that one time, or the amount of times I've spent in this office.

00:31:01:10 – 00:31:11:14
Ricky, it is the same. Like I spent eight days, eight hours in your office, did not go in for a bit of food and asleep. But then I come back to the office. That's what he's doing.

00:31:11:16 – 00:31:33:23
That's rubbish. It is rubbish that I've always had a, That normally it's every every, it's always in my resolutions. I didn't put it in this year, but I've always wanted to have my name in the Guinness World Records. What? You don't see, I don't know. I don't know what I'm going to tell you. There isn't something that this one in there.

00:31:34:01 – 00:32:05:23
Well, I over the years, I've been because I follow the Instagram account and I've been saving all the world records. I think I could beat that. I if I trained for six, I could do that. Well, I genuinely believe I could do. Have you got a list ready or do this next week or something? I haven't got a list ready, but there was one guy who he holds the world record for for cutting like, eight tomatoes in one minute.

00:32:06:04 – 00:32:28:17
So he had to cut the tomatoes into quarters, and he holds the world record for it. Now, when he was doing it, he didn't have the tomatoes all lined up. So he was like trying to pick at them. What do you say cut them? We talking about like cutting them in dice them. No no no. Just just into into quarters.

00:32:28:18 – 00:32:50:17
Right. So I in one minute, surely I could be there. It was exactly. This is what I'm saying, that I could be the I could be the fastest tomato car on the planet. I don't actually, I so I know that I know the, the Olympic was it called Guinness Book Records? I know the Guinness Book of Records is it's still sponsored by Guinness.

00:32:50:19 – 00:33:09:07
No, it must be gotta be shorter name. People don't know like our age, people of our age. The Guinness Book of Records was like top tier entertainment in the 80s. Yeah, like show if you went round your mates housing. Oh, your Guinness Book of Records. We could listen to that. And you sit there, look at this massive kind of what would you call it like catalog.

00:33:09:07 – 00:33:27:22
It was that really thick. Yeah. Yeah. Front. You'd have all the pictures of different records that have been broken that year and it's wicked. And it was all illustrated really nice. And it just went it just people's love for it just waned over the years. There's even a TV show. You had a TV show? Yeah. See who?

00:33:28:00 – 00:33:58:10
Oh, God. Oh, God. Yeah yeah yeah yeah. And he did a boo. Yeah. So the other, you know, TV. Chris. Chris Christie, Chris Akabusi and Sally Gunnell. Yeah. And it was just we had a lot of Sally back in the day. But the naive Ricky. Yeah, there's something about that is nothing. I mean, I'm sure she's lovely and but no one looked at Sally Gunnell ever went yeah at me that.

00:33:58:12 – 00:34:20:04
Oh we don't really know. Sally Gunnell won a silver medal. Silver medal in 1992 Olympics. How the fuck do you know that? She was big news back then. It was like it was. She did 100, the 110 meter hurdles. I think she won a silver. That's that is, that's good knowledge if you've got that right. Let me.

00:34:20:04 – 00:34:48:06
I've got a check. Yeah. Anyway, so this guy, when he was cutting the tomato, he didn't have the tomatoes all lined up when he was cutting them, before he'd cut the tomatoes, he would remove the vine. So he was losing time. And then. So not only did he lose time of not lining the tomatoes up to do it, not only did he lose time of not removing the vines beforehand, and he went to cut one and he knocked it with his fingers and it rolled across the table.

00:34:48:12 – 00:35:06:15
So we had to lean, grab the tomato, put it back on the cutting board, pick the knife back up and go again. I think I could beat him, I genuinely think I could beat him and he's got another. He's got quite a few cut records really, and I think, yeah, yeah, I think that's what he does. He just goes into the does he climb records?

00:35:06:19 – 00:35:25:10
I just think people won't challenge him because he has you know Chris Smith has 14 cut records. Oh fucking no is the fastest car in the West. No I could beat him. I'd like to see it Rick I think I would I would love to, and we could build this up as a podcast. We could do it live on the podcast.

00:35:25:12 – 00:35:44:00
But I think there could be a section on the podcast where you attempt at Guinness World Records every week. Yeah, yeah yeah, yeah. No, no, that would do it live on the pod. If you do it, then if you don't do it, you have to, you have to pick another one like me. What. How many men must be one?

00:35:44:00 – 00:36:05:20
Like how many Maltesers you could put in your mouth, for example? Yeah, that. I mean, I haven't got a large mouth. There was one I always used to say where a man had X amount of snails on his face, and I thought I could like those. It's not something I see. This is the thing, Ricky. So I don't agree that I don't think there should be records for absolutely anything I get out is interesting when I was a kid, but now I'm like, it has to be something useful.

00:36:05:20 – 00:36:27:00
Like how many bricks can you lay on them in a minute? That's. Yeah. No, I know, I agree with that. I agree with that. You remember the guy that did the roly part, please? He did roly poly, right? He did like record for the most amount a roly poly in a 24 hour period. And he did loads. He did like a marathon's worth of roly poly, pretty much.

00:36:27:02 – 00:36:46:12
No, mate, that would fuck you up, man. Yeah. So after I do like third row to priority, I am so disorientated. I don't know what's going on. I don't know what's up. A mustache wraps everywhere. So you had a suit of specially designed so you wouldn't get injured. But not so. Not. I mean, you'd still. There's still a risk.

00:36:46:15 – 00:37:08:22
We've actually contorting your body in that way consistently. But in terms of abrasion from the ground, you had a suit on that protected him from like crazy someone. All right. Anyway, so he to celebrate his achievement, he roly poly into the studio the Guinness Book of Records and everyone's cheering and he was like, yeah, well done. You've done all the rally parties.

00:37:09:04 – 00:37:30:04
You're now the Guinness World Record of rally parties in 24 hours, 40,000. Brilliant. Well done. These were heavy segments. Over the next segment comes on and they're talking about the hottest chili in the world, which chili held the record for the most Scoville chilies. All right. And there's an in the office and there's like this is the I don't know what it was.

00:37:30:04 – 00:37:49:02
Maybe it could be the Carolina Reaper or I don't know what the hottest chili is, but one of them. Yeah. And out of nowhere, this bloke who done all the right, you probably just went Oli it as you like. Oh, hold on a second. Roly poly man. You've done your bit with me gone, you know, you, you're not supposed to say anything.

00:37:49:02 – 00:38:10:23
Just sit there. It's the second the drunk, he's drunk. It is records. He's fucking power hungry. I he just said y'all earlier I meant and there like it was I wasn't in script I could be she's getting he can't. It's not. This segment isn't about eating the hottest chili pepper. This segment is about what is the hottest chili pepper.

00:38:11:01 – 00:38:37:13
And then we just move on with the show. And roly poly man drunk on fame is gone. Yeah, I'm going to eat this. And then like, Chris, I miss you guys. All right. And. Rocket it eats it. Guess what he says. Nothing. It's not right. It's nothing like cut away. Come back in. Another section is bright red.

00:38:37:15 – 00:38:42:23
They cut away in another section. He's in an ambulance being taken to the hospital.

00:38:43:01 – 00:39:03:07
It's the funniest thing I've ever said. Cool. I don't know why people think that they can just handle the heat, but some people can handle a hot curry and others can't. There's that. But I can't eat a vindaloo. It's too hot for me. I like to think I can because of my heritage. And then, I mean, you know, he doesn't know.

00:39:03:07 – 00:39:23:12
He fucking doesn't because I can't. Yeah, it's absolutely ridiculous what I think. I think it's because people would assume of my Indian heritage that I can have a hot curry, and then I'm like, I believe it, I believe that hype. And then I have it and I'm like, how? How do you cut? Can you comfortably go? Can you?

00:39:23:14 – 00:39:42:22
Yeah, Madras. Madras is like where I draw the line. A Madras is still hot though. Yeah, it is hot up. It still is hot enough to still be able to enjoy the food. Anything off of that is like I've eaten the Madras before and I was, I was, I was okay with it. Like I wouldn't say it was a pleasurable experience.

00:39:43:00 – 00:40:03:03
Yeah, but I was able to finish it. I went out with a mate and we had a curry, was about 3 or 4 years ago now, and he was having a vindaloo. And I was like, I want let me just try it because I got, you know, it's not one bite isn't going to be too extreme.

00:40:03:04 – 00:40:22:10
So I got some of my his was a meat one. So I didn't want to eat any other meat anyhow. Right. So I've got a garlic bread, no garlic bread, garlic lamb and dipped in the vindaloo ate it. And while it was hot, the taste of it was really good. It was like, this is really nice and do what I can handle that.

00:40:22:10 – 00:40:35:21
And I was like quite impressed myself. So I just had a bit of vindaloo and I, I didn't burst out sweat some. I wasn't really into shit like that. So the next time I goes in rich, I'll go, can I have a vindaloo? And he looks evangelize. Oh God, not in front of a white bloke asking for a vindaloo.

00:40:35:21 – 00:41:02:09
We get it. He can handle the, you know, you've got a. But it's like driving a red Ferrari. You might be able to drive on. You still, like, come in one. Ordering a vindaloo is the exact same thing in my in my experience. Just looked like a dick. Anyway. Yeah. God, I was like, I liked it, and I know this, but I'm going to order myself a vindaloo, I liked it.

00:41:02:10 – 00:41:28:15
I got water away through the bowl and it kills me. My, like, sweat running down my face, my ears, my ears was the worst thing. It was like. It was like inside my head was on fire. It were ringing. My ears were ringing. I couldn't eat it. I am I had a similar one. I went to a South African restaurant close to where I live, and I ordered something called, a Bunny chow.

00:41:28:17 – 00:41:47:12
I don't know if you've ever heard of Bunny Chow. So Bunny Chow is. It's a hollowed out piece of bread. Loaf of bread. So the soft bread bit is removed and then a curry is put inside it. So I think you eat the curry and then if you want it to, you can eat the, you know what's holding it.

00:41:47:12 – 00:42:06:23
The, the bread. And when they came over they said would you like the bunny chow? And we said, I'm sorry if my mama said, yeah. And they said, well with the curry, how hot do you want it? And my mum was like, just like medium to mild, can I have the hottest one place? And they went.

00:42:07:01 – 00:42:24:01
We have to warn you that that is that it is hot. The hot is hot and it has three chilies on. It's going to be hot. And I kind of looked at as to say, can you see this face. Is brown Indian heritage right. Yeah, exactly. Go get me the fucking bunny chow. Make it as hot as you can.

00:42:24:03 – 00:42:46:14
And I got three spoonfuls into it and my mum looks and she said, is it really that hot? I sat down, I said, right, I could like the saltiness from my snot was going back into my mouth, and I couldn't even see my mum because my eyes were just so water and I was like, I have to sit here and after a to try and save face, yeah, yeah, yeah, got through it.

00:42:46:14 – 00:43:03:06
And the woman kept coming back. The sign is it. Oh it's yeah it's tingling I can, I can feel it. It's nice but I was thinking I can't wait till I get home. This is this is horrible itself. I totally ruined my whole evening. Yeah. Because that's what you're doing. You're fucking yourself like you're not. We're not supposed to be in this stuff.

00:43:03:06 – 00:43:26:08
The reason why chili peppers exist is so animals learn not to eat them in future. So it provides a defense mechanism for the chili. It's like why cactuses have spikes on them to prevent you from eat. So you learn if you eat, this is gonna hurt you. Eat this chili, you're going to hurt. So you haven't got this up right by being the dick that we are going can handle that.

00:43:26:14 – 00:43:53:04
Like what? I don't understand why restaurant holds that material. Why they sell a curry that high. Sorry. That hot. If it isn't just to placate people that want to be, like, swing their dicks around. I think like that. The only reason because a curry that's medium is much more flavorsome and enjoyable. The one that burns the roof of your mouth off for sure.

00:43:53:04 – 00:44:18:08
Yeah, yeah, it just is, isn't it? Yeah. It's like it's like. It's like. It's like. What would you. Why everyone likes Heinz tomato soup on a rainy day in autumn. Yeah, but crusty roll. Lovely, right? Yeah, sure. Right. What's the perfect temperature to eat that. You know, I don't know, 60 degrees, 70 degrees. So I'm like, yeah, sort of like it's nice.

00:44:18:08 – 00:44:35:18
It's warm. Just because you can see it boiling hot and it burns your mouth, but you can physically put it down your mouth. Your throat. Yeah. Doesn't mean you should. And that's the same thing with people connecting with the horse curry you want. You just want it. Just what I hate what I've found. As I get older, it is.

00:44:35:18 – 00:44:56:12
I don't like people. Performative people. Right? Yeah. Like people that when something becomes not genuine and I feel like it's not genuine, I really struggle not to cringe. I find it really cringeworthy. So if I'm if I'm going out, I don't know. This is because if someone was here career hot curry, it's up to them. So I shouldn't matter to me.

00:44:56:14 – 00:45:15:20
But I, I find it like you're doing that to sort of show off or to. Yeah yeah, yeah. But you can eat the hottest curry but you can't possibly not. Ian, you were going out for a meal. You're purposely not eating something that you're going to really enjoy to make a point that you can eat hot curry.

00:45:15:22 – 00:45:33:05
And we were enough. Always. Like, you should have stopped doing that when you're in your late teens. Yeah, yeah, yeah, just just get the thing that you want. Just get the thing that, you know is going to be nice. You don't have to prove. I would say though, the the. I'm not talking about my mate. You ordered that vindaloo there.

00:45:33:07 – 00:45:54:16
I'm not talking about him. I'm talking about where I've experienced that before because he likes that and eats it every time. It's not like I've been for about ten curries and he always gets vindaloo, so he likes it in that instance. But I think generally it raises my well, because if I say his name, you're going to get all defensive and you know that's not necessary, right?

00:45:54:16 – 00:46:11:12
Okay. And you bet you ten curries and you're not been for one curry of me. I've made you curry. You've eaten curry in my home. I didn't make it. Yeah, that is true. Yeah. Give it back. Yeah it does. It does make me feel a little bit bad. Well, we can go for curry if you want. Right? I want to go for a curry now.

00:46:11:12 – 00:46:31:17
We've spoken about this. I went for a curry last night. It was a DJ. Yeah, it wasn't very good. Oh nine. Where did you go? What? Local places. Like packed. It's packed it, to be honest. Other people's car. Is that better than mine? My curry. Just wait for something that is a vegetarian like India is 98% vegetarian. It's only the cities where you eat meat.

00:46:31:19 – 00:46:59:08
Yeah. So for that, for for us to somehow bastardized someone else's food. Yeah. And make the vegetarian version is the shortest form of it. When the purest form, the curry is vegetarian just shows you everything about England. Yeah, I like, I mean to that. What's your favorite? Well, my mum has just got back from traveling India for, two and a half months.

00:46:59:11 – 00:47:42:20
What did she say the food was that she likes curry. By the end, she she she was. It's like breakfast, lunch and dinner all day, every day. And she said that the. A lot of places in India is vegetarian and tons will do chicken. And they may do fishy as well, but generally speaking it's vegetarian. And because it's so hot over there and the produce of it growing quickly and not really space to kind of store a lot of fruit and veg in the in the hot climate, everything is basically picked that day or it's very fresh basically.

00:47:42:20 – 00:48:08:22
So all the vegetables and all the spices and everything, that she is so fresh and clean that the taste in comparison to what we have over here, that is then laden with preservatives and additives and meat and stuff like that. She was just saying, it's you. You wouldn't even call them curries. They're just that different. Yeah. Which is which is mad in it.

00:48:09:02 – 00:48:31:02
Can I just say, I said that 98% of Indians are vegetarian. Not not even remotely true. I just checked it. Then they were fact checking on my own 2,029% of vegetarian, 29% of their IT. Yeah, it depends where they are. So if you're in the west of the country, almost. What is it? Some in some regions, 75%.

00:48:31:02 – 00:48:41:16
Most people are vegetarians in the West. In the east of the country, most people aren't. So right. There you go.

00:48:41:17 – 00:49:01:14
Do you want to hear what we're going to do? We are going to go into dilemmas in something on a, you know, next on the dilemma, I, I should have it. You know, I spoke about this at the beginning of the show because this dilemma is an add on to a dilemma that was already sent in. So I'll go for it.

00:49:01:16 – 00:49:12:08
It's called Forbidden Love part two. And something only you know is who do you think you are?

00:49:12:10 – 00:49:47:03
The topic for next week and we are going to do a topic for next week. Is they the taboo subjects that no one really talks about? It's going to be about money. Money, money. Yeah. Exactly what money does to families, people waiting on inheritance from their families just to buy a house. The dark side of services for money, as in people will fly to different countries and get shit on in Dubai.

00:49:47:03 – 00:49:58:22
So you took the words right out of my mouth. What price would you get shit on? Very, I would probably.

00:49:59:00 – 00:50:21:22
Oh, it's a hard one because you want to go too low. They just say 500 pounds because I could take it, can I? 500 pounds so I can shit on your chest. Yeah, yeah, I could do that. What. What would you, what would you, what would you go. Right. I let's I'm probably I'm going to say let's start off with.

00:50:22:00 – 00:50:47:04
500,000. Right. 500,000. That's the lowest you go for someone to show. Like you know that that's a lie. I'd probably go lower than that. Okay. I'd probably go over 100 K, right? Yeah. You. It's only a pay only if you talk to the missus about you. You know I'm going away, right? How long are you going for? Well, it's probably going to take me a couple days, really, to get this boy get settled, then.

00:50:47:04 – 00:51:02:02
Got to meet this guy, this shit on me, and then ten. And then I'm going to come. I'm so pretty. Be away about 4 or 5 days. Well, what did you say? What happened in the middle of that? This case is going to shit on me in Dubai. Why are you doing this? What do you mean? Well, he's going to pay me.

00:51:02:02 – 00:51:30:17
How much you say underground? Yeah, yeah, he's going to pay me a hundred grand. What is your Mrs. 80? She would probably be happy that we get 100 grand, but then on the plus side, it's like. Are you sure you want to do this? For the final one? She would go going, then she would. But she would probably leave it up to me and and say, you do what you want, but I can't do what a set up.

00:51:30:17 – 00:51:35:16
I can't kind of. Yeah. That it would.

00:51:35:18 – 00:51:52:16
Like she would say, all right, go and do it for the money. Yeah. I think that's what she would say. Ricky's got a contract with three sheiks and they're all shooting 100 K. It would have been five days. You'll never have to see anything or hear anything ever again. Are you happy for Ricky to go and do this?

00:51:52:16 – 00:52:10:13
Do you think she would go? Yeah. Go on. I think she I think she probably would. I think you should probably be supporting it if I wanted to do it. Would you be supportive of her going to the buyer for 100 grand? Not alone. Is that right. So. Right. So that's like that's that. Sorry. Yeah. So there's that.

00:52:10:13 – 00:52:41:17
And then also by someone hey Rick, how much do you think someone would pay a maximum sum of a pay to share on you in Dubai? I don't know because there's any market. Oh, there is this see the underworld of influence being paid to. So they would pay for their flights from England to fly out there. Yeah. And people pay the money to shit on them and do and do other things which will go into because I'll, I'll proper research this out.

00:52:41:20 – 00:52:49:19
And I researched the price and you asked this question, what's the most that you reckon someone would pay to shit on Ricky?

00:52:49:21 – 00:53:10:04
£500, I thought. Well yeah, yeah. Mate, but this could be a set up. This could be a set up. Bearing in mind you could. You could change my mind. If someone says, I'll drop t k and I'll have a turn, I reckon I'll be like, right. Five make, make. Meet me in, meet me in Chichester. I will do this.

00:53:10:08 – 00:53:33:05
We'll have it out. Happen. Right? The thing is, is what? You got to really think about what you're saying it right is because, you know, in terms of, like, there are escorts that would charge a couple of grand the night for you can spend, you know, with an escort, and I guess you'd go, you'd put them up in a hotel and stuff like that, and it cost you a couple of grand, were high end escort.

00:53:33:05 – 00:53:56:02
You were used to dealing with, like, footballers or whatever. Yeah. Yeah. Right. She. So she's charging 200 grand for an evening of her time. You reckon someone's going to pay you a couple of grand to shit on your rake? You just really. Yeah, I know, yeah, I know, be, a power thing. It might be. It might be racist then.

00:53:56:03 – 00:54:15:18
Okay, okay. That's how they. That's how they get their kicks. And they've been waiting and waiting. Waiting to like. All right, Rick, how much are you acceptance get racist put up. That that I mean, that's just a no in it. Yeah. That is an I couldn't accept any money if I, if I realized my. Yeah, that's.

00:54:15:18 – 00:54:19:22
Yeah. 250 grand.

00:54:20:00 – 00:54:43:23
Right. We'd have a conversation. I mean, I'd meet someone in the cafe to have a conversation. What you found. What? What? Happy caf insulting. Yay! The. You want to buy a new house? Like a five bedroom house? That'd be lovely, right? And with its own land, maybe a little fishing pole. Maybe I'd do anything if you. If you've put that in, like, anything.

00:54:43:23 – 00:55:11:19
Anything you want in my mouth. So racist poo in your mouth. Racist in my mouth. To get a three quarter acre lake in my back garden. Yeah. Yes, but I think everyone's got a price. Right? So I'll choose. So the next podcast I'm going to go for a price list review as well. But someone else has emailed in, but they said that they would like us to have a little conversation about self-employment.

00:55:11:21 – 00:55:35:15
Okay. Which obviously quite separate the money side and all of that stuff. Yeah. So we'll capture all of that in next week's episode. So if you have any questions or stories or anything you'd like to share, email us at Lad Anon Pod at gmail.com and we will read it out. Now we are going to be going into dilemmas.

00:55:35:17 – 00:56:03:23
So just tired and we got an issue for a tissue. Your big fat cat will be an aching in your soul. A lovely new flat. Please talk to Vicky. Flat bed. Let that stress off your chest. But look friendly to somebody like, yes, I better get lost. More between breaking and.

00:56:04:01 – 00:56:31:04
So this is called Forbidden Love part two. The first reading of this was on episode 54 called music. So I'll give you a little refresher here. I'm a guy that works for a large firm, and I'm an associate that works under a few seniors, all married women. Three months ago, one of my senior sends me a text at 11 p.m., proceeds to ask if she can come over.

00:56:31:09 – 00:56:58:08
I was very hesitant, but obliged in the end. The affair started at my apartment that night. Do you remember this one, Flav? Yeah, so? So remind me. So. So this is so. Yeah. So he's a. Yeah. Basically having an affair with a what made him feel really bad. Like he was in and it his religious beliefs were impacted and he found that know about it and that's it.

00:56:58:10 – 00:57:37:05
Yeah. Well remember that's exactly what it was. So he's emailed us again. All right. What's he doing? Still doing it. Pig. Little pig. The, the diet, the dilemma has increased. So? So a few months ago, I sent in about an affair I was having with my senior at work. Well, this is an update, a part two. So now we're on for four months of the affair, and I've stopped and I've started to say the I love views, and all other pillow talk things you can imagine at the honeymoon stage for lovers.

00:57:37:07 – 00:58:02:01
I eventually got really mad at her that I was just a side piece and in my mind, and gave her the ultimatum, either me or him. Well, the next day, she tells her husband she wants a divorce and gives her ring back to her. Now going to sell the home and holy shit do I feel like the dog chasing the tire.

00:58:02:03 – 00:58:26:12
I have caught it and I have no fucking idea what I'm supposed to do. Literally, I have destroyed a marriage and while I'm in love with her, that is some heavy fucking shit to deal with. If people find out work, they will hate me. My team at the firm is very female dominated, and as a male, I'm going to be looked at as a homewrecker.

00:58:26:14 – 00:59:02:09
I'm really worried and that I have ruined my life. Last but not least, my uncle has floor seats to an NBA game and so I so I got us tickets for Valentine's Day. And she says she's worried that someone must put us on TV so she doesn't know if she wants to go or not. Personally, I'm thinking about turning this into a much bigger deal than it should be and taking an exit ramp off this relationship by saying we are done, since she is scared to be seen with me in public.

00:59:02:10 – 00:59:27:01
But if I go that route and she is like, fine, we can make it public. I am so fucked. Damned if I do, damned if I don't. What do y'all think? Scale of 1 to 10 how fucked I am. Let's talk about the ringside seats first, okay? Can we have them?

00:59:27:03 – 00:59:37:17
Can we go? Wait. Which team is it? Chicago Bulls. Let's hope it's a Chicago Bulls.

00:59:37:19 – 00:59:49:21
I mean, I, I guess the key thing you need to focus on is that you're in love with her. If you're in love with her, that's really all that matters. Because at the end.

00:59:49:23 – 01:00:11:20
It's not all that matters. There's a lot that matters here. There's a lot riding on that. Right? But in the end, when you are on your deathbed and you're looking back at your life, the only thing that I imagine that you're really going to be concerned about is who you loved, how much you loved them, and how did you treat them.

01:00:11:22 – 01:00:38:06
And jobs really pale into insignificance. People that you work with pale into insignificance. What they think of you pales into insignificance. None of it matters. And I know this because you love work colleagues who you think are your friends. And the minute you stop working there, you never speak to them again. They don't care about you. They might have opinions about you and say things home wrecker or whatever it is.

01:00:38:07 – 01:01:02:08
But for 99% of their day, they're thinking about what's going on in their life. Yeah. So you're going to not develop what could be if you genuinely in love with this woman, could be the greatest relationship you ever have in your short time on this planet, or you're going to not pursue it because of what people think of you.

01:01:02:10 – 01:01:18:02
I don't think I don't think it's a choice. I think you just got to pursue it and make sure and don't don't play games. Don't do that at all. If you're not afraid to see me in public, then if you want out, just say, I'm really sorry for ruining your career and you're sort of ruining your marriage. But I don't want this.

01:01:18:04 – 01:01:36:08
You've put yourself in that situation, but you do want you. You're in love with her. So don't then play games and do it. That's what my advice would be anyway. Yeah, if you are, if you like it, like you say you're in love with, then I would. I would pursue it like like fluff says. But things as well.

01:01:36:08 – 01:02:03:13
Like if to me if she is continued with this affair and she's gone down this route, she was obviously unhappy in her marriage. So if it wasn't going to be you, it may have been someone else, or she would have just left with that person anyway. But obviously if you if you are in love with her, then this is a relationship that, you know, it could be for the end of your life.

01:02:03:13 – 01:02:25:08
You could be there for the end of your life with this person. So I would continue pursuing it. But it's it is a hard one. And what I, what I would do is if you do decide to stick with this person and you want to see you, would you want to see how, how far it goes and and all of that?

01:02:25:09 – 01:02:54:02
I'd be looking to probably do something about your work situation, find another job. Because like you're saying, if it does, if it does, get around the office. Homewrecker. I know that lot. It's going to be tough for you working there. People's opinions are going to change of you and all of that stuff. But also, do you really want to be working at a place where your partner is working?

01:02:54:02 – 01:03:27:01
And I think her saying is, she's a senior at work, like, you're going to be working for your missus. And I just I just think it's a recipe for disaster. Working with your partner. If your partner is managing you, all of that stuff. So if you are going to stay together and, you know, see this relationship out, I probably start thinking about the work situation too and just go go a different route and not have that as an extra added complication within your lives, and just have the relationship based around your love for one another.

01:03:27:02 – 01:03:51:18
But yeah, like perhaps the that bit about the MBA tickets and you know, saying about, oh, if you're going to go if you don't want to go public, then we'll split up and stuff. Just be honest at that time. Yeah, don't do that. That's, that's a much critical like what happens if you're in love with each other and you build a life to govern, you're happy.

01:03:51:18 – 01:04:14:15
You got to give that a shot. Yeah, exactly. Yeah, exactly. You're not supposed to know what to do it. You don't have to know what to do. But the key thing is, is that your relationship. That could be amazing. Yeah. The problem is you just turn out to be sex, and that's all it is. And lust in that honeymoon period that's also attractive when, if for some people.

01:04:14:15 – 01:04:38:05
What? Imagine when they're in like, I don't know why. I don't really understand why people cheat. Right. But it happens a lot. So it must be there must be something going on. But if someone is in a loving relationship for one that they don't feel fulfilled in, or they there is a problem with that relationship, that the attraction of the unknown is sometimes very desirable or something new.

01:04:38:07 – 01:05:01:03
But there's also, you know, if you're in a long term relationship and I don't want to put that on, this woman exploits mine or but, you know, you imagine if you've been in a relationship for a long time and you're like, oh, this is fun, this is exciting. And then you leave your, you know, what is security in relationship in your marriage.

01:05:01:05 – 01:05:25:19
And at some point you go, oh God, I'm glad. I was like convinced by that sexy, attractive thing. But then people leave relationships and marriages all, like, all of the time, right down all the time. So just yeah, don't overthink it. Work thing will sort itself out. Don't care as much as you can about what people think of you, and find the thing that makes you happy.

01:05:25:19 – 01:05:52:05
And that's what you found to make you happy. So don't worry about what other people think. In fact, them. Yes, good, good, good place to leave that right. We're going to go on to something only you know why? Something, you know, who do you think you are? My parents recently did a DNA test, and the result came back that my dad had some West Asian heritage.

01:05:52:07 – 01:06:18:07
This came as a somewhat of a surprise to this white Caucasian male and raised a lot of questions. Where could my ancestors come from? Am I now Turkish? Afghani? Yemeni? How do I feel about the wild now I'm. What can I do about the situation in Gaza? I decided to do my family tree and to find out more about my ancestors.

01:06:18:09 – 01:06:46:18
So I get into and into ancestry and start plugging in my family's details and scanning through old census records looking for answers. 1850 my great granddad on my dad's side was slumming it in the East End of London, whilst on my mum's side they were hardworking bakers in Northamptonshire. This is great fun. I so screenshot in my work to my family as I uncover our family history.

01:06:46:20 – 01:07:09:02
I'm up to my nuts in this now. It's taken up most of my evening and I've even reunited my grandmother with a long lost cousin. I love this, I think it's my calling. Maybe they'll get me to present. Who do you think you are? It's now 1750. I hate the name Hayman. And we go from East end London to Dill in Kent.

01:07:09:04 – 01:07:36:12
I started researching the name Hayman, thinking this may have been anglicized immigrant name. I dug deeper and guess what? It wasn't. However, I went down the Hayman rabbit hole and found I had all these distant cousins in Kent. I thought wow, isn't this cool? I dug even deeper and found the name Sir Peter Telford Hayman. I thought, shit, I'm related to a sir.

01:07:36:17 – 01:08:10:13
I'm part of the elite. I could probably join the Freemasons now. I googled Sir Peter Telford Hayman and this was the first line of this Wikipedia page. Sir Peter Telford Hayman, M.B.E. was a British diplomat, intelligence operative and member of the Pedophile Information Exchange, a pro pedophile activist group. He was knighted as a Knight, a Knight Commander. Order of service.

01:08:10:15 – 01:08:40:08
In 1981, he was named in the House of Commons as a pedophile by Geoffrey Dickens MP. Yep, my distant cousin is a nonce. Not just a nonce, but he was the nonce. Final boss, full on public bacon. I deleted the Family Tree app after I moved all links from my family to the name Hayman, and when my mum asked how I was getting on with the family tree, I just said I got bored and it hasn't come up since.

01:08:40:10 – 01:08:46:12
And that is something only I know. I protect the family name.

01:08:46:14 – 01:09:18:20
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