#65 | Money | Do You Openly Discuss Your Salary Like This?

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How many spies have you had in your life? Right? I would say I've lost count. Absolutely. You know, I've said this before, but stai kind of going on your spies in your eyes. Like in America, they get pinkeye. I've never seen anyone with pinkeye in the UK ever. No, I know what pinkeye is, but it's only from the movies.

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You only know it from the movies that no one ever got it here. Is it like when people fart on your pillow or something like that? I've heard it's to do with that. Yeah, like poop particles in your eye or something. Oh, I don't know what it is because no one in the UK gets it. I thought it's a made up thing, but only people in the US.

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It's like rabies in Europe. We don't have it in the UK. No we don't. Well, there was there was a mass scare like growing up that if a dog bites you in the 80s, I hate rabies. Terrified of rabies in the 80s. Yeah, exactly. But I think yeah, I think here of people having rabies. I, I got bit on the ass by a dog in Spain, and when I was about 8 or 9, my God, that must have been, I thought, well, I was convinced I had rabies.

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Obviously, you go to Spain, you get bit by the. You got rabies. Oh, I'm the rest. Do you know the last part of rabies before you die? You get something called water phobia where you can't swallow, can't drink, you can't. It's got. There's a name for it. I can't remember what it was. Oh, my God, that sounds horrendous.

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This is me being educated by Tick tock again. Like, to be fair. But, yeah, there's, like, this thing where you try and you can't swallow water. They obviously die of thirst or something like that. ID like that saying that. That's just reminded me of another fear unlocked for myself. Because obviously you say I'm a STI guy and I do have regular stars.

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I've got one now. I had my eye. My right eye is bloodshot, too. Fuck. And it was, oh, when I woke up, it was just crushed it up. Couldn't see happen directly because I keep getting coming. But yeah. Yeah that that there's that and it's my own company as well, which is even more embarrassing. I always you right.

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I know it's so weird. Right. Swap them a bit. Yeah. It's nice. Get my dick points that way. That's that's. Yeah. Naturally it goes in that, but I have this fear, and we've spoken about this before, and I have a mental fear of dying and or just maybe just getting something where there's no way out. And sometimes when I eat food or have a drink and I just the slightest bit choke or like, cough, I think it's that my throat muscles giving up on me.

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Yeah. If I got motor neuron disease, that's that's the first thing that comes into my head that you've got a leg, you've gotta let go. I know, I know, I can't, I but there's nothing you can do about any of this stuff. Now I know, I know the same thing about being on airplane. There's nothing I can do by exploiting this guy.

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But I made the choice to get on the airplane. In this instance, it's not very little thing you can do. But you've given up smoking. You've given you barely drink at once a once a weekend, something like that. Yeah. If you get in your moto, then, then there's nothing. It's not on you. It's just happened. No. If.

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Yeah, if you are getting it's. Well, I don't want that. That's the worst. That that one is, is the top tier is. Yeah. You ever seen. Yeah. What. Moto. Yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah. My body is 100%, My it's terrible. I feel so bad for people to have that. Yeah. Like. And the other one, the locked in syndrome.

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That's a scary one. See that? Yeah. Yeah yeah yeah. It's. No no, no, it's, high profile as it doesn't get the M&A. Does not does not get the column inches. No no it doesn't. But mate that would be that be nice if you seen The Bell and the butterfly that film. No, I actually yeah. Diving Bell in the butterfly is about you'll read in the book of a man who gets locked in syndrome, and they made a film out of that.

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And it's sort of an autobiography, and it's about a nurse who works with a guy with locked in syndrome, who he had a massive stroke and, and he was left and he was left, left locked in. And nobody could do was blink. And this woman, his assistant, wrote a book based on him blinking the letters out of the book.

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And that's the that's the film you're watching. Oh, fuck. Right. Yeah. It's a lot to take on, to be honest. It's not like, she's not like some of the afternoon watch. No, not like, grab a pinch mushrooms and have a little, you know, from watch. Absolutely. No, no, I can do that. Fuck. You know, by saying that, what you just said earlier about, you said something about drinking earlier.

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Right now, you barely drink, and we can. I have, a bit of a predicament I just thought about. I thought, you know what we're about to record? I'm going to speak to flap about this. What is it? So, as you know, I've been doing dry January. Yay me. Like I've done it. A 10th of a, nine for Feb, so I'm trying to drink if you're drunk in the event.

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No, no no, no. So you got to be on. Really? Yeah. Beyonce. Beyonce. So you must be a day 38 nine. I'm like that fucking I don't know, I don't really care. I feel like if I when you do dry January and slow like me. Yeah. Yeah I've got a mate on Mondays is Charlotte I really. Yeah a day off.

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They just done dry January I know that that they've, they've given they've proclaimed that they've given up alcohol. But I don't have a problem with alcohol. But they can take or leave alcohol. But they've said, I'm sober. Right. Okay. Right. So that's so basically, like, me too, as you struggle with alcohol. Yeah. Yeah. That's no, you know, like stolen.

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You know what they say in America, stolen valor when you, when you basically dress up in military uniforms, get discount on like, donuts and stuff. And do people do that? Yeah. Yeah, yeah. Like so. But it's like it's terrible. Like people obviously in armed forces look, have a very dim view on these people because they've actually, you know, they've risked their lives naturally, haven't they?

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Right. They've gone to war. They're like, that's a big, big courage. Yeah. Do it. Not raising your mates and stuff like that. And we've all got like family members, if not if granddad served or great granddad served in the Second World War. So we it's touched all of our lives. But for someone to just go, you know, I want to get discount when I go into a store and someone to dress up with the badges in that, or they just want accolades for something they haven't done yet that's stolen.

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Valerie. It's not, it's not. It's looked on. It's not looked on. Well, right. If you get found out, it's not good for you. I'm a bit like that. Who say people? I'm like, you know, it's odd for me to do George Henry. I find it very difficult. Therefore, I don't know people celebrating it when they don't really think about alcohol much.

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So stolen valor. I do feel a bit like that at the moment. Like because that's I'm that put that put that perfectly puts it because I'm not a big drinker. Like when I'm at home, I won't have a beer to chill out or glass. And right, I may do on a Friday night, but I can take it or leave it.

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Really. And the only time I do drink is when I got my mates, which is getting less and less and less, and it's binge drinking. So I think Dry January, it's been pretty easy. I've been to the football a couple of times. I had some nonalcoholic beers at the foot, which is not drink the football. Yeah. No beers.

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Yeah. So it's fine. Here comes the, it comes the, the quandary. Okay. The kicker now, I don't like to speak. We don't like to speak about football on here. Fucking eight football. Yeah. That one. I don't ever want to think about it ever again. I hate football so much, but I am going to an away game today.

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And the culture of going to an away day is when you get a train or take a journey to the game. Drink alcohol. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And I'm getting a train to said football ground with my old man and a mutual friend of ours party. And I normally would be like, get a four pack on the train sitting, have them get to the ground or get to the pub, have a bit more beer.

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I don't I don't really whatever you do have a bit. I have a little go. I don't want a drink. But you get yourself a beer on that train. You drink. All right. What else? Can you open you down and you don't stop until it's coming out of your nose. I don't want you being sick when you get home, I think.

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Great. God, no. I mean, look, if you don't want to drink, don't fucking drink. What do you. It's not like you're with the rowdy. A bunch of people at 40, is it? Body that are not going to make you drink it? I don't even drink so lightly. You don't have to. Do. Don't want to, but is watch it.

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Do you need it? Given the fact you're about to watch bars get slapped for nil? Yeah, there is that, there is that. But it opened that white. So I thought about what you just said then and with body and with that low key. Right. Then it opens it up to the next thing of socializing with my mates at the pub or whatever it might be.

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And I think I can get away with the nonalcoholic beers and sit there and socialize. Are you drinking nonalcoholic beers because you don't want to make fun of, or you just as something to do? Because I went away to see my little brother see his new baby, which is lovely. I spent the last couple of days doing that, and we were in the pub for about 4 or 5 hours on, just didn't turn it off.

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It's freezing cold, so we need some of the pubs. The, I got to say, the pubs in Saint David's, which is a little silly little list. The smallest city in the UK. Oh, fuck. Really? Yeah. Tiny is. I mean, it's a bit of a bit outrageous to call it a city, but technically it is. You need to have certain things like a cathedral, and it's got one of them.

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It needs to have a dining. You need to have a hospital. Oh, I don't know what it needs to have, but it has one of the things to make it a city anyway, the pubs there would have some of the best collection of pubs if you if you like, offered beer and you like to go to Salt Coast and this is like the Busch Peninsula, right.

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It's a peninsula and well, so it's proper exposed then. These pubs are amazing. Anyway, we sat there and I had two Guinness zeros and after the second one I was doing it because I like the taste of this. But yeah, when you're drunk, it's weird, right? You get a compulsion to drink more alcohol when you're not drinking alcohol.

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That compulsion leaves you like how many pints of Rhiwbina can you drink in five hours of sitting in the pub, you're maxing out at two pints, and it's the same for not a nonalcoholic beer for me, but unless I'm doing it to to to avoid the grief, then there's only so much nonalcoholic beer you can drink. So if you do go out, your mates.

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Yeah, you're saying, well, you want to give up alcohol. So what you're saying, right? I'm not saying I'm going to give it up. I'm just saying if I, if I wanted to go down that route, it. I'm just trying to find the best path to take. If, like, you were just saying, if I was to meet my mates and have a few nonalcoholic beers, then I'm not getting drunk.

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And I'm kind of like, I've socialized with them for two hours. They're getting drunk, and it kind of feels like I need something else. And when we came in with, yeah, we'd be fucking gone in six outside the gaff. And that's what would take me away or a vape and I'm not doing that anymore. And then should we get a ticket?

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You get a ticket. Not doing and not doing that anymore. So you know, getting a ticket and going home with the ticket because there will be a ticket left. That's the good shit. And that's the best bit of a night. When you get home, everyone's gone and you still got cocaine left, oh, but then you boot up the PC and you sit there for hours.

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So. Right. You're saying so you're in a predicament or a weird one, whereas you're not like, I really want to drink, but I shouldn't. You're like, I'm not sure I want a drink, so I'm probably not going to. That's fucking weird. That to me is that that's a good thing, right? That's a really good. Yeah. Yeah. So and that's, that's the thing at the moment.

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So I don't really know where I am with it at the moment because I want to be raised. I yeah I know you're stressed you out. It's not a good thing. Just a positive thing. Yeah I think I think I'll take that. Do that. The night hazy like I know brothers playing challenge. Highs quiet. Midnight waves surfing through to daylight breaks rhythm.

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Here are different ways. Love of music are. We prayed with our tongues in cheek manners that we like to speak. And yeah, times change. But no matter what happens remains promise. Hello and welcome to large. Anonymous is episode 65. I'm Ricky, he's flab two best mates. One main topic we answer your life dilemmas and confessions in our feature.

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Something only you know and everything remains anonymous. Okay, so sit back, relax and enjoy the podcast. How's it going? Flat. Good, mate. Good. Oh, good. Oh, good. Yeah, I should I've. I totally forgot to tell you. Rob on the quickie with Ricky. There was a little soft launch of the impending patron one. So I can plan. Well, I I'm going to go into that now.

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One that I actually, as you might, say. So we get emails and DM's from people asking very various questions. Can I watch this part? No you can't, not at the moment. It's like, can I can I listen somewhere with no adverts? I get that you guys need to get adverts in, but I can't fucking stand them at the moment.

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You come, people with dilemmas that they want to answer back to as well, that there's quite a few people that they've got their own experience of that specific dilemma or something only, you know, but they've got nowhere to, answer people now with this patron that we will be launching soon, you'll be able to watch every single large, anonymous episode that's going forward.

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And previously what we've recorded. So we've got the entire back catalog. You'll be able to watch every single episode that we've done, answering your advert questions as well. You'll be able to listen to every pod going forward and previous pods, and there will be no advert strike selling through the podcast. No adverts. Typically we record on a Friday and you hear the podcast on a Monday.

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If you're a patron, we'll record on a Friday. You get it on a Friday straight out of the fucking oven. You'll be burning your fingertips, the podcast will be so hot and you'll be able to listen to it straight away. The quickie with Ricky I'm not quite sure what to do with this one yet, and I said this on the, quickie of Ricky Pod.

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I don't know whether to put this behind patron or I don't know whether to continue doing it. There's a there's a couple of bits and pieces up in the air at the moment with that. I mean, if you want my advice, but I always want my advice would be that you. Yeah. You should. Yeah. Yeah, you should like Ricky with Ricky should probably live behind a paywall just because.

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What what this is about Rick, I don't know if you want to say this. I think I should say that the massive part of this and the massive part, the reason why, we. I started the fighting cock patron. This is like, how do I make this something that I can build? How do I how do you, Rick, how do you take this podcast to a position where it becomes your lifeblood, right.

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And it helps satisfy everything. You, you want to do it, you want to achieve. And and a way to do that is people will will pay him because they want, you know, to hear the content, but they also want to support what you're trying to do, Rick, as well. So I think a second podcast behind the paywall is a good thing to do.

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And if people want to support Ricky in his venture, then, then then definitely do that for so many reasons why people will. Rick. Yeah, that's a massive part of it, right? People will want to support you because they enjoy the podcast. What? I want to get more from it, but also want to support you because when I say you do good stuff, thank you very much.

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So I, I'm I'm glad I welcome that opinion because if you were going to say no, I think you being it's why then that wouldn't have gone down. Well so thank you. Also again to answer people's questions about that, they want to speak to people about the dilemmas that they've sent in or something that, you know, or something that what you said, we are going to create a discord chat room.

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So whatever. Just think of it. Basically forget the word discord safe space. But yeah, just like a WhatsApp chat, basically a group chat where everyone can go in dark as a WhatsApp chat. Can it go dark? Yeah, it could go dark, could go dark I hope. And there is a bit of dark. And this is one of the that's one of the selling points.

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But one of the key selling points is becoming a Patreon. Well, one of the the litmus tests for whether or not you should not become a patron of the fine cult. When we with something different, probably much more pure and true to the spirit of the fighting cult. But was that if you you became a patron and happened to join the telegram chat, that someone in there would serve you up with a the drill video, the infamous drill video?

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What was the joke? That, it was basically a penis? I think it was an erect penis. And, there is a drill. Someone drilling through it, through the door, down. Not through the penis. Just down. Not down. Right. Oh, yeah. Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, I think so. What's the right? Yeah, yeah, that is, that was the right passage.

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And you'd wear that badge like that was meant to be. Right? Because I'm like, well, some people just sign up for Spurs, some other Spurs, and then they're like, what's the final page in all about? I wonder what that is. And straight drill in the cock you like. Yeah. Come on. Well we try what we doing. So I don't know if it would be as as dark as that, but, you know, maybe also you'll be first in line for any.

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So the aim is to do two live shows this year, summer and Christmas. And the capacity for these live shows. You know, we want to get it right, but we want an intimate space. We don't want to kind of pack it out. So you will be first in line to be able to get tickets to those live shows, and they're going to be hot ticket events.

00:19:48:03 – 00:20:12:06
And you can only do that for the patron. We'll also do a podcast once a month. That would be a kind of like an Ask Me Anything live pod, so you'll be able to jump on discord, you'll be able to listen in, you'll be able to. It's like a live radio show, basically. So where you can put your hand up, you can jump in on the podcast, ask, ask us a question, tell a story, do whatever you want.

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Now I've said all those things that are part of the patron, which will be obviously happening, but there's two things that I really want to speak about which really what I want to do. So with like Flavia saying, obviously money received from the patron goes to paying off bills and to continue doing lots. Anonymous. But where five he lives miles away from me and what I would love to do.

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There is nothing I would love to do more than to drive where he is and take him fishing. Oh yeah, and to record that and to have like 4 or 5 videos of Flav and I fishing down the river on the canal in lakes at night, different species. And it's just going to be Arctic, you know, shooting a ship, it's obviously fishing will be part of it.

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I think of, Bob Mortimer and Paul Whitehouse mixed with a bit of The Inbetweeners. That's kind of like, that's the, the, the show that we'll be creating. And also, I'd love to just sit down and reminisce again with Flav when we watch Peep Show and do a kind of a watch along with Peep Show. So we're watching it.

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You can see our reactions, you can watch along with us too. So that will all be part of the patron when it's available. I'm working on that now, and we will tell you when we are about to launch it. Now, shall we get on with the show today? Flav yeah, I've got a bit. What's your shameful your most shameful subreddit follow.

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I don't really go on Reddit, mate. It's got to be honest. You like what sort of stuff? I know, but I just find it quite text heavy, like, it's like a form of social media. You don't need opinions. You don't need it. We do. But there are people you don't know. It's don't matter. The worst thing about Twitter, mate, I would recommend if you have to spend time on your phone.

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Yeah, and you know, I get that some people want to move away from Twitter is fucking horrible. It makes you feel horrible. Yeah. Tick tock is a little bit as well, especially when you go in the comments. You get rattled by a comment as soon as you see it. Well, it's not like that when it's almost more, much more like old school internet where the personality of the people don't really come through on it.

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It's just people posting content randomly. Do you remember, like College Humor, that website back in the day? Yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah. Well, you just out there post viral videos essentially ahead of its time or of its time and thing. You just went under there no matter what app and YouTube came along and it just whatever. But Reddit stayed and it's great.

00:23:07:17 – 00:23:27:18
And like you can find whatever you're interested in, you can find a fucking subreddit for, I think you have, a couple of, well, I mean, I think go on Reddit. Yeah. I think the most, the most embarrassing thing that if someone looked into my Reddit and so what I was a part of in looking at maybe Transformers would be one of the.

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But I mean, that, you know, quite wholesome. Well, I mean, I'm full. I'm 42 years old now. That's funny. Me so I'm 43, I love it. I mean, to be honest, I say I love it, I'm loving one aspect of it. You're watching, like the TV series, which is. Yeah, it's not. As I would imagine, the writing isn't as good as the as the Transformers, so maybe not know.

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It's not, there's loads of things, loads of things wrong as well. But thinking this is fucking mental, like how did they not spot that error there, but still just watching it at the moment. I mean, at the moment I my kids and my missis bought me a Lego Optimus Prime for my 40th birthday and I'm only just got around to building it at the moment I'm halfway through, but whilst I'm building it, I am watching the original Transformers TV series.

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I mean, that is pretty. Yeah. That is, that's fucking sad. Yeah, that is it is sad. It is. But I'm enjoying myself. Do you know what? When I did it and I thought I, I, I was like almost smiling to myself, does that. I am having the bloody best time here. Do you know I given up bloody give up on my jaws like I give it to Valerie, my step mother.

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She got it done in one evening. She got it done. Yeah, yeah, I've got a pick up from my old man. It's cool. It's really good. I my the, I guess the subreddit up my most ashamed of. And I don't really like to admit it's fight porn. It's just people having fights. Yeah, but I follow those accounts on Instagram and, Twitter, and wherever else I think.

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Yeah, I do like a good, good for a good bro. Yeah. Seen a backyard brawl where it's just like, it looks like a kind of octagon. Yeah. That's erupted in the in the middle of nowhere like a carpark. Yeah. And some weird people just box in each other. Yeah. What's the geezer thinks? He's watched anime and thought he could fight and just goes in there.

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It's mad like you. Should you be putting that geezer in there is clearly on you know, if he isn't autistic is he has some sort of learning difficulty or they don't have know it beforehand. It was clear that he did. No I don't know. Yeah. And if you're obsessed with anime and then you wanted to go in the article and someone needs a safety check in there.

00:25:47:04 – 00:26:08:00
Yeah. Yeah. Because he's watched and the man thinks that you can fight that. And that's what fighting is. And he's doing all these mad moves and then getting bad. He's lost every fight. They keep putting him in there. It street beat street you say. Yeah yeah that's I keep it in this case where he's got the I don't know what anime he's watching, but he's got a symbol on his head of a symbol.

00:26:08:01 – 00:26:35:02
He goes in there with the symbol on his head and talks like he's. I am going to avenge my last defeat. Which is fine if you're proud of your brother. And. Yeah, but he's going into street beefs and they're fighting. If if a real. It's fucking corporate whatever the private Abe, you know, when you read it, is that it just to fight one I the one that does me in the sweaty palms of all sweaty palms.

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But that's just about. That's about people going up high places that I have been. Oh, okay. Yeah, I see a couple of it, Instagram Reels where people, you know, where they're up really high and they're jumping around and they've got no rope and all that. You get a view of how high they are. I've got a GoPro.

00:26:52:11 – 00:27:09:18
Yeah. And, I, you know, I actually feel the height that there are. It's like I can feel it and my stomach is fucking or the back of my knees sweat the back of your knee, you know, like, you just get, like, it's just like your knees go when you see something you don't like. I saw mine do a little bit.

00:27:09:18 – 00:27:31:03
Like when there's a geezer whose job it is to go up a, wind turbine. And then at the top of the wind turbine, once they get up there, there is the nose where the butt turns round. Then the wind has the propellers attached to it. Yeah, right. They're not propellers. I don't know what they are, but. And there's a little hatch at the end of the nose.

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And he has an the rail and he has to clip himself the routing, open the hatch and get into it to repair the mechanism when it's going round and not fucking dumb. And you know, there's people that talk about these like they're like massive towers in the desert in. Yeah, yeah, in, in America. And they have to change the bulbs on top of them.

00:27:48:12 – 00:28:06:24
And that's what I thought you were going to say the I seen the bulb one. Yeah. And I get paid like 200 grand a year and I'm thinking could I do it? I don't know if I could, I don't think I could climb attached to it, but it's literally climbing on the outside on sticks that are poking out of this metal pole.

00:28:06:24 – 00:28:22:23
He's climbing up it. Well, yeah. I mean, like, you can attach yourself. Well, what happens if one of the things that you stand on is, like, loose or broken, but you are the maintenance, you're the guy that goes up there and the maintenance, you have to like you. It's you. It's on you to make sure it's safe for you to climb up.

00:28:23:00 – 00:28:43:04
What if you forget something? All right, I've got to attach myself. You know what I'm like. Yeah. As long as I lose my keys, I lose my wallet three times a week, right? I'm definitely going to forget to attach myself to one pole. Unless it dead. If I do that, I'm dead. Like, I'll get out. You can't, fuck.

00:28:43:04 – 00:29:03:15
You know, Jesus Christ, my, my, I think my misses would give me more chance of shitting. I'd have a better chance to survive in the frontline in the Ukraine and Russian war than I would if I was on my own. Going up, up and down those things. Yeah, I would, I would say the same at today. I'd say the same is what I would be getting out of, of an actual war.

00:29:03:19 – 00:29:08:05
Yeah. Actual going up and down those.

00:29:08:07 – 00:29:16:17
And not because I'm good at fighting or know what what I'm doing. I'm definitely done if I got one of them.

00:29:16:19 – 00:29:48:10
The, topic for today is money. But any money can get away. Yeah, this is a bit of a it's a lot. No one really talks about money. And like, especially I don't know, when I was younger no one did. No one spoke about salary, how much you earn or anything unless you're a fucking baller. And you were you know, you're in that upper band and you'd be like, my basic is 100 K or whatever.

00:29:48:10 – 00:30:12:09
Then you'd obviously go around telling everyone because it's a lot of money, but apart from that, any other kind of money issues or chat would never or would never arise. When you grow up where your parents quiet did they enjoy spend up? What were they like for my dad with that money, but that did not allow that might affect you as well.

00:30:12:09 – 00:30:32:21
I mean, I had the best of both worlds and I genuinely say the best of both worlds because my mum didn't have a pot to piss in. Yeah, she left my dad at when, when I, when I was five. And so she went into made a decision that made lots of money from well it was very comfortable. He's a plumber essentially engineer for a long time and so was paid well.

00:30:32:21 – 00:30:55:09
Right. So we, Sorry, my dad's side of things. I had a really nice house. My dad. Some people might see them. Social media, Social media. My dad's house is really lovely. I he's got good. I spent a lot of money on stuff, whereas my mum didn't have that. So I had both things right. When Christmas at one was very different at Christmas and the other, but I didn't prefer one over the other.

00:30:55:11 – 00:31:14:13
So I had both things we did. Did that make you though, like, like for you? Because I remember you saying that your dad had one, the first kind of, Is it Discman? Yeah, definitely had a Sony Walkman. He had a Hi-Fi. That was top of the range. We always had a massive television. We always had Sky.

00:31:14:19 – 00:31:37:10
As soon as BSkyB or cable came, we had it. We had, we had good surround sound. Surround sound. Just spent money, had a nice car. Until he decided that we didn't need a car anymore. His work van was fine. So we got to go everywhere. And his fucking work van, bearing in mind at times above that could be up to five kids that he was ferrying around.

00:31:37:12 – 00:31:53:24
And so we'd have to sit in the back. We went up to Spurs by Aston Villa. Right. I think the Boxing Day and Spurs played there might not be on Boxing Day we drove up and you could fit two in the cabin and three of us were in the back of the van sitting on tolls for from London to Birmingham anyway.

00:31:54:00 – 00:32:17:15
Yeah, yeah, it's a nice car. Yeah. No, it was like a trainers, like I'd buy trainers and clothes and he bought me a high five for my room and stuff like that, but just did that. So when you so obviously dad was like that, your mum was through like my mum was I mean I grew up with my, my parents were like one of about 5 or 6.

00:32:17:17 – 00:32:53:20
My mum was working two jobs a lot at the time, so money was very scarce in the house, did her best as always, but it wasn't. It wasn't that lavish type of where you don't really think about money, spending it and putting it down on whatever. So naturally when I grew up, I have always been that way. I count every penny I look at what I'm doing with when I go shopping, how much I like.

00:32:53:20 – 00:33:14:08
If you're when I'm looking on the food shelves and I'm trying to decide what to buy with something, and you get the most for your pound in a kilo or whatever, I'm, you know, I'm looking at that to see how much. Yeah. You all you see, you put a lot. Yeah. So I am I am like that. But with you you're quite the opposite.

00:33:14:08 – 00:33:42:16
You're very much you go in and if you're looking for why I should be like that, says rice, I'm dropping it. Yeah, yeah yeah yeah, yeah. Same like if something breaks, I just can't be flat to fix it. Just buy a new one, like sort of thing. Yeah. And we've had this discussion before where if I, trying to buy a Hoover, go through every single review, I'll go through every single kind of the specifications, how much it costs, what it does and all that.

00:33:42:21 – 00:34:04:00
And again, not like what you just type in Hoover and then there's one there. So someone might miss me because I bought that the, the we bought we got one of the mines that sit on a tank. Oh yeah. Yeah I can get one now. What have you got one. I thought one I was going to say right.

00:34:04:00 – 00:34:32:15
Because if you haven't got one, that's fucking joke. Because it's about time. Everything in life is about time for me. Yeah. Is can I do I have the money to make this go quicker or can I avoid it altogether? Right. So if I. And that's what's value to me. Right okay. Yeah yeah yeah yeah I think about the, the money itself when like I've got 100 pounds or I've got 120 pounds.

00:34:32:15 – 00:34:53:05
Right. And I who was one or the other. Right. I'm not going to spend half a day to save £20 checking out this Hoover because in my opinion my time, half of my day is worth more than £20. That could be me sitting on my ass wanking for, well, all right. It's what I want to do with the time.

00:34:53:07 – 00:35:12:22
It's not my time. I'm fine. I'm in the process of buying the house, right? Which is not fucking. Just get scary, scary, expensive. Yeah. I'm like, well, you've got to bring, you've got, you know, you've got to start learning how to do DIY or learning how to wire stuff and plugs and whatever. And I'm like, no, I don't.

00:35:12:22 – 00:35:33:05
Well, I do if I can't, if there's a way, if I, if I am I going to botch something myself or get paid? Somebody knows what they're doing to do it. It's like I just I don't know, it's like it's for example, the plastering, the some plastering. He's doing part of the house and he's like, oh man, you can do it.

00:35:33:05 – 00:35:48:15
And I'm like, I don't want to fucking do that. Well you die. The last thing I want to do is me and you lose all temper with each other. Putting some plasterboard up at 100%. You'd be doing that as well. Yeah. So I'm going to find a plaster and I'm going to pay him. That's what I'm going to do because that's his job.

00:35:48:15 – 00:36:04:04
That's what he's good at. He's done it. He's really good at plaster and he's gone to school and he's learned it. I'm not I don't, I don't I don't want to waste time looking at the finer details of a Hoover rake anyway. But yeah, I don't think everyone agrees. I think my Mrs. that I bought the wrong iron.

00:36:04:06 – 00:36:23:19
I bought a Breville one which weren't as good as the Morphy Richards we had before. I don't know what's wrong with it, but apparently because she does all the ironing. Not that I don't do any homework. Housework, but she doesn't. Yeah. No, I it's interesting that you about money and time because I don't that's not one perspective.

00:36:23:19 – 00:36:41:08
I don't, that's not a perspective that I have. And I don't look at that and view it like that, but I probably should do it because I would get more time back in my life if I was just a bit more, you know, if I wanted to loosen the belt a bit more on it. I think you're built that way, though.

00:36:41:12 – 00:37:03:01
You like. There is a reward system that exists inside you that yes, fired when you fix the washing machine. I think it's more than just, you know, I. Yeah, no, I think yeah, I think you're right actually. Yeah. The satisfaction of when you, when I need something then it's broken and I fix it myself is it does make me have an erection.

00:37:03:03 – 00:37:19:12
Yeah. So so that's great. That's wholesome. That's fine. That's good. Yeah. If you're just doing it because you don't want to spend the money on a new, then eventually you have to. You're not gonna be able to fix that washing machine forever. You know, it's like.

00:37:19:14 – 00:37:45:07
I don't know, when you come to money, people go have strange like, for example, like a lot of people originally advised me not to buy this house. A lot of people go, and you ought be careful. It's a money pit. The amount of money it's going to take to do ups, you're not going to get that back in in terms of the the money, the house isn't going to go up like it's not going to the amount of money I spend, which I know I understand.

00:37:45:09 – 00:38:05:07
Where was everybody when I was dropping tens of thousands of pounds on a wedding? Where was everyone going? That's a money pit. That's a waste of money, because that was as much as I loved it. And it was incredible. Party for four days. Yeah. It was it was a wonderful, wonderful day. I know that, right? Because everyone tells me they did well, actually less that people are becoming less frequent in how often.

00:38:05:07 – 00:38:22:06
That's how they tell me no. So they so and I understand that and I appreciate it. And it was a great wedding and and I wouldn't change it for the world, but it was a lot of money for, for they buy a fortune. A fucking fortune, right. Yeah.

00:38:22:08 – 00:38:39:14
But it's because it's socially acceptable to spend that at drop an absolute. Yeah, for all intents and purposes, waste a lot of money on a big pile. Yeah, not waste it. Waste the wrong word. But in effect, in terms of the value of the money, how much are you getting for the money you spend in a wedding? There's a money pit, right?

00:38:39:15 – 00:39:00:22
You don't get anything back but the memories and a video. Yeah. Right. And and I would do it again and I loved it. I would absolutely do it again. But why is it when we're actually doing something and we're moving towards something that actually builds a secure future for you, that you look at and you go, right, this is going to be expensive, but we're investing in something that is going to make our lives better.

00:39:00:24 – 00:39:21:13
Yeah, right. You can have a kitchen in there that you want to cook in. You're going to have a house that's comfortable. You can have room to breathe. People can come around. It's a big house. It changes our life in a different way. Yeah, but people's going to stage pretty much across the board is, not sure it's going to cost you a lot of money and then not a single ticket when we get married.

00:39:21:13 – 00:39:42:18
It doesn't make any sense. It's almost like there's this pre built inbuilt thing about houses that everyone becomes a fucking expert. It doesn't mean it like we had to get asbestos removal. Suddenly everyone I talked to oh wow. Spare us. And I talked to a builder. He went in a big deal is architects on the ceiling. It's about a millimeter thick.

00:39:42:18 – 00:40:04:20
We get it out. It is expensive to remove, but it's not the end of the world. It's in every house, but pretty much of a certain age. Right. So I'll talk to him as well. He knows. Talk to someone who's never experienced that. If they're like, yeah, yeah, yeah, fucked man. Don't know anything about it. You're causing stress and you're walking away from this conversation and never thinking about it again.

00:40:04:21 – 00:40:29:12
You leave for the fuck off. Yeah, yeah, yeah. No I totally yeah, I get that, man. Fucking no, it must be, obviously there's a lot of work going into your house, and it must be loads. Yeah. Mega stressful. Like it's going to be with that money side. And again, chatting about the taboo of money that no one talks about.

00:40:29:14 – 00:40:49:02
All you open up. I'm not saying fucking discuss it. Yeah, but I like when you chat to your brothers, when you chat to your mates. That calling, are you open to say did you free. Do you say I bought it for this much? I reckon it's going to cost this much. Yeah, I've got this much of a deposit.

00:40:49:02 – 00:41:09:19
You're quite free. And I put my brothers. Yeah, yeah, yeah, like a promise. We, we usually promises a different conversation, right? Because everything's open. Like, everybody knows what everybody else is, you know, more or less not. We're not interested in each other, in each other's earnings. So one of my brothers were interested because he's got like a really good job lot, and he's works really hard and spends all the money he makes.

00:41:09:19 – 00:41:36:15
But but yeah, but it's it's very much a private thing. Right. Okay. Something that you would discuss with family but some people don't. But but in our instance we will. It's very open. And I think it helped by the fact that by and large, all of us have done okay to some degree. Growing up, we we opened like even when you were working at Archie and maybe not Woolworths a bit, a little bit further down the line.

00:41:36:15 – 00:41:56:05
Yeah, when I was working in the mid 2030s and not, not, not less. So I think it was just an unspoken I knew of skin. So they paid for my drinks kind of thing. That's that's the truth. Oh no. Yeah. I mean, to a certain degree like it. Yeah. Yeah, I but but not. Why were you asking the question?

00:41:56:07 – 00:42:19:05
What are you saying? What are you doing so. Well, like, I mean, I don't I don't think I've ever had a conversation with my sister about how much I un or un or any of that money she found in Latin. I think she she needed a driveway doing so. She said she got that done, and she also there was something else in the house that she needed doing.

00:42:19:05 – 00:42:36:18
But it was it was. Did you manage to convert it because it was old. No man's got money yet. So. So I found a tin of old brick. Mrs.. What? Sorry, sister. Found the tin of old banknotes that had gone out of date, and I was just wondering if you managed to exchange them. All right. That's right. So she moved into a house.

00:42:36:18 – 00:42:59:03
They were taken out the wardrobe. And within this wardrobe there was a little gap at the back, and there was a metal tobacco tin. And she thought, what the fuck is that? And she opened it and it was full of old 20 pound banknotes, which was a significant amount of money. Yeah. And she got it, went to the bank.

00:42:59:03 – 00:43:24:23
They changed it, deposit it in their account. Bob's your uncle. Lovely stuff. But, Yeah. And with my mum, I'm quite open with my mum. How much I own, and with my dad. Previously spoke to them, but with a mates. I'm not really. I don't think I've ever had a situation with my mates to say line in the sand.

00:43:25:00 – 00:43:57:18
This is how much I earn. I think they maybe could guess, you know, when I was working in the, you know, back out in the corporate world and stuff, they'd probably have an idea of how much I earn. But like with with your mates and stuff, I never was open. There's only a couple of my mates that were fairly open, and that's because they were earning like 100 K Big Dog, and they're flying to different countries for their business and they, you know, there are higher fliers.

00:43:57:18 – 00:44:15:16
So it's when you when you're, when you're caked, it's all right to say, yeah, this is how much I earn. I sometimes I don't. If you ever read this record, I sometimes used to look Rangan house. How does someone afford to run a car? But how did they know that I had that? That family got two cars. How do I afford it?

00:44:15:16 – 00:44:34:24
That is mad a lot. I spent a lot of my youth like that, but I still, I still I am still like that. Yeah, I like, I mean I am still I will see people on social media and I kind of know what they do for a living. And I kind of know what their Paul does and their family set up.

00:44:34:24 – 00:45:11:08
And I'm like, how are they going on so many holidays? Or how have they got a top of the range Range Rover? Or have they, you know, those types of things. And that is I like I just don't know how people do it. When you see the flip side of how you live in comparison to other people, I think that is a real dangerous part of, social media and the comparison thing, because where, you know, everything that you see is real on social, you know what I mean?

00:45:11:10 – 00:45:34:09
Like, you could be seeing people and they're, you know, they're up there, they're going on a business trip and they're going to fucking, I don't know, Japan or something. I think, oh, they're higher flier whatever. They may be absolutely miserable in their job. It might be so stressful. They might be not hitting any of their performance reviews or anything like that.

00:45:34:11 – 00:45:57:01
But all we see is, oh, they, you know, mate is fucking going on. Yeah. People are very, very good at like selling the best parts of their lives on social media. I generally I don't make any. This isn't aspersion on anybody. I know. This isn't a judgment on anybody I know. But the people yeah tend to I don't I don't.

00:45:57:03 – 00:46:17:12
It's like people that post themselves as couples constantly online and doing things. It almost like I'm like, what? Yeah, who is this? Is it for you? Is it for your ego? Is it for what? Is that? Yeah, yeah. Demonstrating to people that you're happy when you're not. Is it just like, oh, let's just we're living our best life kind of thing.

00:46:17:14 – 00:46:44:16
I don't, I don't know my I am 100% with you on that because there's a few people I know and I and I try and understand it is to say, is it to kind of, solidify that they, they've got a strong relationship, or is it the fact that they, it's that kind of look where we are.

00:46:44:16 – 00:47:14:05
We're here, we're there, we're everywhere. This is our lifestyle. And I don't know, and I don't know, it's just it's just a weird thing to kind of, try and analyze, I guess. But going back to the the money chat, do you like, when you were young, were you ever in debt? You did. You got time. I mean, like, effectively I'm in debt still.

00:47:14:07 – 00:47:33:02
But is that because of, housing that or that now being fucking mountains of that then. But no, but once that side like, I'm in debt to the tune of close to half 1 million pounds, which is mental jewelry. Not, not, not in total. I mean, it was buying the house. No, no, that's not true. Right.

00:47:33:03 – 00:47:56:22
So we bought a house. The house is it's a lot of money. Right. But that's what a mortgage is. I don't know what a Mort it is. It's like a death loan. That's what it means. Mort means death and rt. It means it's like a loan or that you'll never go. That's what a mortgage. That. Right? That sounds really.

00:47:56:24 – 00:48:22:14
That sounds good. Yes. But massively. We're all sort of. So, like, scrambling a war towards getting these mountains of debts. Anyway. But no. Yeah, I would always be, like, in my overdraft and and even now, like, I have a, I've got a business account and then I've got a current account that I keep around the overdraft limit like, not my overdraft suddenly around zero and I'll have an overdraft I'll go into every now and then and then I put more money in.

00:48:22:14 – 00:48:49:02
But and then there's got a like loans, a couple of loans, that sort of thing called that. Yeah. So when I was, when I was younger I like no one really obviously people no one explained a credit card to me. Well that's crazy, I knew I didn't know, it's smart. I knew what it was, I knew I it was money that was on this card and I could spend it and I'd have to pay it back.

00:48:49:02 – 00:49:24:12
I know, I know, that's how that works. Yeah, but I didn't realize that when you get to a certain amount that you were like, this is a lot of money that I am for what I have is a salary. I can't really pay it back. It's like I can pay money back, but it's the bare minimum and it's not really getting rid of this debt on a like if I been explained, read it kind of what I should be doing and what I should be using the credit card for a may.

00:49:24:14 – 00:49:40:07
It may have been a different outcome. But again, I was young at that time, but I don't we don't we don't get any physical training. No no no none of us did. I didn't no one told me about how to manage my overdraft. No one told me what check do. And one they bounce. And no one told me about what?

00:49:40:13 – 00:49:56:22
How to manage credit card debt. You weren't told anything. You were just a certain age given a bank account and given a credit card to go with it. And no one. No one told you? No one. My parents, my parents, like, literally failed to give me the information I needed to. I just thought, fuck, you know, it's good.

00:49:56:24 – 00:50:25:14
What? I'm jokin. I can spend on a credit card. £800. Your brain. At that age, I can't go in. I'll figure it's going. I'll figure this out later. I'm gonna train this. Oh, my God, that was like. I'm like, the minute my money problem started it all. Going to university, that's where I was going to say. I was going to say like, you went to uni, so you would have had, a loan.

00:50:25:14 – 00:50:43:10
Student loan? Yes. Student loan. But that isn't an issue because that doesn't get paid back till years later. Okay. I didn't know that. Well, I mean, I need that. Yeah. You get you get a student loan when I was there, you get a student loan, and it was like three grand a year. And that pays for your salary.

00:50:43:14 – 00:50:54:15
That pays for your tuition? Well, it did for me. And then you have a certain 3,000 pounds. Yeah. Free French, five grand a year. I think it was.

00:50:54:17 – 00:51:16:23
No, no, hang on. I left about 20 grand worth of debt. So. So it was about, oh, seven grand a year. Whatever. It was 20 fucking or nothing. Now that it even university with 50, 60,000 pounds in debt now Jesus Christ. Really. Yeah. So that's like that's what you essentially your daughters are looking at when they go if they want to go to university, that's what they've taken on.

00:51:16:23 – 00:51:33:14
And I went on their degree. That really was fucking point. I didn't even finish my degree. I left. So, yeah, was a complete fucking waste of time. I had a good time, but it was a complete waste of time again. It was just you went to. You went to sixth form. They said, go. You have to go to university.

00:51:33:14 – 00:51:50:01
Everyone's going to university. I guess university did it. Did that cost me a fucking fortune. Well, not even, you know, compared to what it is now, but you'd have a certain amount of money that would pay for the tuition, right? And then you would have what's left of your loan to live on, which wasn't enough. It was something like £500 a fucking term.

00:51:50:01 – 00:52:09:20
It was mad. You might you left about two grand for three months. That's what you got to live on. Fucking. Oh, man. So you run out, everyone run out. So you go get a hardship loan, which add your loan, which is like £500 a time. You just had to show them that you had no money in your bank account, and they gave you £500.

00:52:09:22 – 00:52:29:10
And you could do that three times a year. So did that. Kush did. I think everyone did. There was a queue there. Yeah, there was a queue. And then on top of that, you're like, oh, well, I run, I'm still running out of money as an overdraft or being given an overdraft as an instant. And what that is about is a bank trapping you in that inside that account for as long as possible.

00:52:29:12 – 00:52:46:06
I was still in my overdraft. I'd created it university by the time I was 30. Still in that overdraft? Fuck. Really? Yeah. Because I didn't earn enough money to pay off the £1,800 I'd made when I was at university, I didn't. That's a month's wages. That was about a month's wages for me. So where was I paying that?

00:52:46:08 – 00:53:03:19
Where was I ever going to be able to pay that overdraft off? Yeah. They don't teach you any of this in school day. They know they and they should be. And like I like what I think when I finish on is you sit down and listen to talk about the Bible or fuck it, the stuff like when, when at 14 you could not give a shit about.

00:53:03:21 – 00:53:29:05
And the ones that did give a shit out went to Sunday school anyway. Yeah. And they like. So instead of that what would have been really useful. This is what happens when a paycheck bounces. What I think what what would be really useful. And this is what someone emailed in about, self-employment. So I obviously I'm starting my self-employment journey.

00:53:29:07 – 00:54:00:01
I've got no idea what the fuck's going on, what I need to do, how I need to do it, what I need to say for tax, all that stuff. When you started out, obviously, started the the fighting cock, did you have any education on any of that stuff or was it kind of like, I'm, I'm just moving forward and I know I need to do stuff, but asking different people or if you have just get an accountant.

00:54:00:03 – 00:54:28:17
Yeah, that's rule one. Like and people go, I don't want to pay for an accountant. I want to do my own taxes. You can't. Yeah you can't. It's you cannot understand the tax system. You cannot understand the how to manage cash flow directors loans, what needs to go in and out of a directors loan when you when you put that money in what the limit is each year.

00:54:28:19 – 00:54:47:19
What when tax brackets come into force. At what point is what profit and what's revenue. You can't understand it. There's a reason why accountants are on every high street is because they're crucial to everybody. I can't anybody in the business out. If you're starting out and there isn't much going in and out, you won't pay an accountant a lot of money.

00:54:47:21 – 00:55:11:01
The minute becomes it becomes, complicated is when they start to really earn their money and their prices go up, but they will save you. Not through being tricky with the books or doing anything illegal merely by understanding the system. Save you money. You save more money than you would pay an accountant. And if you were to do stuff yourself, you might miss something.

00:55:11:01 – 00:55:31:10
You may not understand some family and you will end up. Yeah, exactly. That's exactly it. You'll end up getting a massive bill and you'll be fucked. So I get an account and it's the first thing. What would be? So I don't need an account unless you. If you become a limited company, you don't. You need an accountant. If you're just the sole trader.

00:55:31:12 – 00:55:50:18
Yeah. Then you can sort of work out what types you owe because, you know, the. It's very simple, isn't it? You know, between zero and where are we? 0 in 18 I have zero and 13,000. That's tax free. Open that 13 to 30. These aren't the correct brackets by the way. Then you start paying 18% tax and then the next bracket goes up.

00:55:50:18 – 00:56:13:07
So you can work out your tax by doing a self-assessment. Yeah. But the minute you become a limited company, which is a more tax efficient way to operate, that's when it becomes super complicated. So get accounts. Yeah. Oh yeah. All that stuff is totally over my head. What are the pros and cons of being a, being self-employed now, I hadn't realized.

00:56:13:07 – 00:56:46:10
Well, I mean, I had realized, like, away from the corporate kind of world, working for a boss, having to do things that I absolutely despise, and being involved in things that I, you know, I really don't like, and all of that stuff, obviously, that is no longer with me. And but one of the kind of things that I've found difficult of being self-employed is it's not 9 to 5, Monday to Friday, and you go to then you get better and you get your weekend.

00:56:46:10 – 00:57:11:05
It's not working a lot, really. What are the what are the things that you've that you've enjoyed about being self-employed? And one of the things that you kind of like, as you fucking tell me this. So not sure. Yeah. Yeah. Because you are just you I mean, obviously more than me, but you, working a lot online, a lot for yourself.

00:57:11:07 – 00:57:37:05
And that you're working for yourself is different than working for someone else. Exactly. Yeah, I don't I mean, here, I'm in this office every single day. A week without a shadow of a doubt. Like there isn't, especially during the season. Offseason also. But, you're in there, but it doesn't feel like work. Is it because it's. You're working for yourself, you're building something if you are in future so that freedom to not have a boss is that like anybody?

00:57:37:07 – 00:57:55:23
If you've got a good idea or something, a product to sell or a business idea, give yourself six months to see if it works. Give yourself a year if you can afford to do it. Because if you get it right, the opportunity to earn more money is there than you would do in the 9 to 5, unless you didn't have an amazing opportunity.

00:57:56:00 – 00:58:19:01
Yeah. Freedom to to to be to work on the things that you think are important rather than what an employer thinks, what's important to an employer? You know, there's a reason you got a job, right? In a job in a job, it's because you lose your job in a 9 to 5. If you cost more than you make that company, right, that's when you are made redundant.

00:58:19:01 – 00:58:46:21
For whatever reason, it might not be full. Maybe it's your fault, but you're made redundant or fired when you cost the company more than you make them. Yeah, if you're making the company more through whatever means, I freeing up time for a manager to go out and find new deals, whatever it might be, then you'll always have a job, and you'll get promoted to a point where you know that is that if that's always a fact, but you're always working towards their agenda, not your own.

00:58:46:23 – 00:59:06:15
So you're kind of stuck there, but you're free to make. That's the last one. The, is just working for the thing that I kind of like. My missus will say, oh, you've been in your office all day. And I'm like, I know, but I'm not. I'm working for myself. And it doesn't really feel like work because I'm working for myself and I enjoy what I'm doing.

00:59:06:15 – 00:59:24:08
So I want to keep doing this for as long as I possibly can, because this kind of work life balance and what I'm doing at the moment is, is great. And I don't want to, well, you're you're about to become a household that is completely working for yourself. And I think most people yeah, I think most people.

00:59:24:10 – 00:59:44:19
But a lot of people do work towards that. And then, yeah, you know, it's happening more and more that you're entrepreneurial. I know it's great, man. It's great. The I just want to say the I didn't mention this at the top end of the show, and I probably should have done the something only you know today is it.

00:59:44:21 – 01:00:09:07
It's a bit know a it goes from 0 to 60 real quickly. It's, you know, like if you if you're on a roller coaster and it says it's the, you know, you experienced G-Force five on it and you're like, yeah, it goes pretty quick. I'll sit on it. And then it got on and then it hits that G-Force and you're like, fuck, this is fast.

01:00:09:09 – 01:00:30:21
This. It shifts along like that. So you need to, hold onto your hats with that one. And with dilemma. It's called sleeping with a loaded gun. Something on you? You know, it's called the final boss of crossing. So that that leaves you or you need to know the topic for next week is who are your idols and why?

01:00:31:00 – 01:00:54:04
Who did you look up to as a kid? What about now? What type of people like film directors, writers, musicians? Anyone in your life? If you can send in an email or DM's on social about who your child was, are and why, we will discuss them. Email us at Lad's Anon pod at gmail.com and we'll read them out.

01:00:54:04 – 01:01:23:08
And we are about to go into dilemmas. So I'll just tell you got an issue for a tissue, your paycheck. And will this keep an aching in your soul along in your flat plate talks of making a flat head. Let the stress of your chest what little friends you deserve. That. Like you're safe to get lost in a war between breaking them.

01:01:23:10 – 01:01:47:16
So you come with a loaded gun. I need some advice that I wanted to share because of Ricky's open and honest chat around what he calls sexy dreams. Please keep me anonymous, but this happens to me maybe 2 or 3 times a year. And I mean my mid 30s. I'm happily married and my wife knows about it and thankfully doesn't think it's that weird.

01:01:47:18 – 01:02:12:03
I mean, it's not weird. Anyway. Annoyingly, she is very light sleeper and this seems to happen. This seems to happen to me the worst moments imaginable. It happened when we were staying at a friend's house in Chicago a couple of years ago. So when I realize I have to deal with it, I don't have the comfort of being in my usual surroundings.

01:02:12:05 – 01:02:40:20
I'm writing this email from Paris, and of course it happened again last night for the first time in months. So again, I'm up in the middle of the night trying to figure out a way to the bathroom in the dark to sort myself out without my wife knowing. Absolute nightmare. I can't even remember what the dream was about, but my subconscious always seems to do this to me in the worst possible circumstances.

01:02:40:22 – 01:03:09:13
If you've got any advice, that would be appreciated, but I just wanted to take the time to share flag. Count yourself lucky this doesn't happen to you. What? So you just blasted off all the time during the night? Yeah, it's like he's, Is it, is it nocturnal emissions? That's what he's missing. He doesn't like it. Well, he's misses a light sleeper, so every time he has one, he has to try and, you know, get out of bed.

01:03:09:15 – 01:03:34:19
And she's just awake straight away. She knows he's he's blasted off and he can't. He can't hide. I mean, what do you think your blast of King. Yeah, I and the blast of guy. So for me, the best way to try and avoid it is to not walk around or go to bed with a loaded gun. And you can't do that every night.

01:03:34:21 – 01:03:59:19
I get it. But every time in my mind, every. If I'm a promise of a commitment, is it just can't do it well, like every 3 to 4 days, I'll have to empty the chamber because. Because I know it's it's so empty every day. I mean, I can't, but I think really, you can't really wank every day. I know, but this guy needs to eat.

01:03:59:19 – 01:04:11:21
This is just the bane of his life. But the point is, is that you. That's what you need to say. Go every single day. Yeah. So that's why is.

01:04:11:23 – 01:04:42:19
Why is if he wants to kick he. Yeah, I know, I think you just got to. Don't wait until the next time you have a roll about with the misses. You know, you've got to take try and take the accountability for yourself. Credit. Cuz every 3 to 4 days when you get to bed at night, like have a spare pair of boxes the side of your bed, I'll just say them off if you sleep naked.

01:04:42:21 – 01:04:59:06
Yeah, I mean, you should probably fight. Should know. Then. You know, I don't understand what the problem is here. Like what? You understand? Yeah, I know she will, but you can't keep saying no. I imagine, you know, you went to bed with your wife, and then she woke up and you were completely naked, forced off. And that's why.

01:04:59:10 – 01:05:18:15
Why you naked? And it's like, oh, I had a plaster. That's fine, that's fine. But then once it's like, this is happening every sixth day when you guys see you wake up and you haven't got your boxes, okay. He's asleep. He doesn't know. Right? So, I mean, if he was an epileptic and he's having a seizure, no one would go look at you.

01:05:18:15 – 01:05:33:09
You're having a seizure again. You do. You never stop. I mean, you wake me up. Stop it. Yeah. They're not going to say that. They're. You know. Jesus. What? You need some help? I want to help you. It's the same thing. You can't help it if he's doing it. So you think maybe you should ask his wife for help?

01:05:33:09 – 01:06:03:06
He needs to understand it better. Yeah. So the I would say obviously explains the misses spare pair of boxes at the side of the bed as well, just in case. And to make sure that you maintain yourself. That's why I would advise. Right. The next thing is something only you know why. Something, you know, the final boss of bros in.

01:06:03:08 – 01:06:27:02
If you love talking about prices, I knew this was the perfect opportunity. Now, this is truly something only you and I. I'm a whole manga. I love going browsing. You can't be a good pun. When I was young, I was in so high and one of my mates took me to a bathhouse. I loved it, I need the fact it was transactional.

01:06:27:04 – 01:06:55:11
Hey money, there you go. And that's it. And let's face it, you can take a bird out, pay money and not get laid. So Thailand, Vegas, the damn. I've been a few times and I've been like a kid in a sweet shop. But then I found adult work. Fuck me. What a choice. You can pick the perfect bros and whatever king takes your fancy.

01:06:55:17 – 01:07:34:02
And I'll be honest, I fucked all kinds of women. Tall bird, short birds, fat, skinny, dumb sub squares, screamers, big tits, little tits, the list goes on. I've got different hotlist set up on my account and saved prices are fucked. Prices that next squares Dom's built for comfort, not speed. Mature hairy submissive local travel. Amazonian big tits. You go through the profiles and see what they do and what they have to offer, and make your perverted choice whatever floats your boat.

01:07:34:04 – 01:07:58:21
I came up with loads of different kings, and that can usually find someone who's happy to service my depravity. I'm not in a relationship at the moment. I have been. I still do it. I don't see it as cheating. It's just me getting a little bit of mucking out and that is something only I know that's banging. That is literally I mean, what?

01:07:58:23 – 01:08:21:13
I mean, I mean, each his own. No one's getting on this subject in the street. I am I've never heard of adult welcome. Yeah. No, I mean, it's not like prostitution is something I've never considered because, I don't think I'd be able to go through with it. No, I say the same. I mean, I wouldn't that would be a bit terrifying.

01:08:21:13 – 01:08:39:06
Like going to a a room, I'm assuming is a room like Amsterdam is you're walking around and it's literally in front of everyone. You've got to go through this window, and then you have sex with a woman in another room behind it. Right? Yeah. So as I understand it, legitimately, I don't know. Right? I've never walked through one of those windows.

01:08:39:08 – 01:09:03:04
I can say that on my wife's life. Anyway. So. But that's why I've been told even that. And then you're in there about five minutes with someone. It's the idea of having sex with someone who doesn't want to have sex with you. Is something so off put into me, I couldn't. It's not only that, the it's kind of quite,

01:09:03:06 – 01:09:30:19
What's the word I am looking for? It's like a procedure. It's like you're going in there. And from what I've heard, you have to shower. The the, you know, the sex worker washes you, and then it's kind of like the journey goes on and just go at it for whatever or whatever you want to do, and then your five minutes is up or whatever, and then and then you get dressed and get out.

01:09:30:19 – 01:09:50:03
It's very I told you about the transactional my the Amsterdam story, though. I must have told you that. Yeah, I have, yeah. That phrase from it, was it something like, come back when you're a man? I come back when you're brave.

01:09:50:05 – 01:10:05:04
But just quickly, a mate of mine recites himself up over a four day period when we went on another friend stag day, and in the last day, members in this pub, it would have been like every one of the pubs anyone knows. Amsterdam is like one of the mate. I can't remember what it's called, but it's like on one side it's like the red district.

01:10:05:04 – 01:10:23:00
On either side it's both red. That red light district place, one side is a main street, another the other side we go out. It goes out into like the canal where some of the windows are. And he just sights himself up. Got to a point on the last night, as I have done. I'm done, I'm done. And, he goes in there and he can't get up, obviously.

01:10:23:00 – 01:10:41:20
And it starts with, like as soon as you guys through the window, I grabbed him by the cock and washing it vigorously in the sink, like, anyone who can go from that to hard. Yeah, is a champion in my eyes, because I just came. And then when he couldn't get it up, obviously all his worst fears about it.

01:10:41:20 – 01:11:01:02
The reason why it's waited so long for days and it turning over and over in his head, it's because something like this might happen. And then it did happen and he was going out. That's the way he speaks. Now going to said he's got a weird way. I know exactly who you're talking to. Yeah, I know that.

01:11:01:02 – 01:11:24:00
No, I think we'll leave it there. So keep your eye out for the patron coming out. That will be with you guys soon. The topic for next week is who are your idols and why? So if you've got any stories or anything you want to send in, send in to lad's Anon pod. Gmail.com and we will see you next Monday.

01:11:24:02 – 01:11:47:10
The night hazy like Band of brothers playing tunes high as quiet midnight waves. Surfing free till daylight breaks. Rhythm of different ways. Love of music I. We prayed with our tongues in cheek band. And we like to speak. And yeah, times change. But no matter what the bond remains. Promise.