#146 | Social Media Relationships | Are Content Creators Our “Mates”

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Oh my God. How? Why?

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That sounds rain.

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Yeah. Yeah, sure. Yeah, yeah.

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Yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah.

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No.

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

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It's everyone. Everyone can. My kids can.

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You can't talk about. You can't talk to anyone about Haven. You can't see.

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Are you sure it was. Or was it habanero?

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Because habanero we're talking different. We're talking different. Well, it will for it. I don't know if it's enough to make it is ring, but it's more punchy for sure.

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I've got Tabasco sauce. Right. No more original Tabasco sauce. No good to me anymore because I'm just, you know, acclimatized to it. Yeah. So. So I have Tabasco habanero. Yeah, yeah yeah, yeah, yeah. A little bit of a reducer when you were having your spag bowl. I like it.

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Nice. There we go, here we go. Yeah yeah yeah. Course. Yeah yeah yeah yeah.

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Didn't you one eight like one of the hottest chilies in the world.

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Right.

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Right. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.

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It was a, I swear it was a Carolina Reaper when it. Yeah, yeah. And. Yeah. Yeah it's, it's one of the hottest. If not it's like yeah. Or it's some kind of like genetic mutation of Carolina Reaper that is the hottest.

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I don't think I would, I don't think I would do it knowing how hot it would. You didn't know.

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I seem to remember it's rare that you were in go with a collapsed coal on top of you, and you're wearing a Mexican wrestling mask.

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Do you think that maybe was in the kitchen? And he's like, fuck, how to pay? Knows? And the guy's gone. We've we've got some of those over there, those green ones a little bit more punchy, but let's just throw them on there. Yeah, yeah.

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Yeah. Yeah. Right. Had to pay. No. Yeah. Yeah yeah yeah.

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Yeah.

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Saadiq. Yeah yeah yeah.

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I don't know what that is.

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Right. I thought that might be. Well, what what what is it? To clarify.

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How do you, How do you find these programs? Define them. Is it like. Yeah. I mean, that is that is the thing. There's a lot of people like that, that clip it up because, look at them. It's it's funny.

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

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Yeah, yeah.

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I saw a clip, and I think it's from that program where two people and they the the date and the communication is extremely awkward. Yeah. And then they're like, oh, shall we? I guess we should kiss. And then they had like a, a peck on the lips and they were walking away. But they were talking about it as like they were on walking on clouds, like they were on cloud nine.

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And.

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These white guy.

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Right.

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Yeah.

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And.

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

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Yeah. Yeah.

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Yeah. Right.

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My.

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The.

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Yeah.

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That is crazy. Like.

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Yeah, yeah.

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Yeah.

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But like zoomies, like kind of. Yeah. Yeah, yeah. It's.

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Yeah.

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Right. Yeah. You know, cooked.

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Oh, my gosh, I don't know how you survived.

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Yeah. Yeah, yeah.

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Oh, yeah. What what was the conversation about it? Right.

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Oh.

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Oh, okay.

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Okay, tell him what I've secretive. If he didn't have a.

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Dairy Ray.

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Ray.

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Yeah, yeah. Oh, it's not it's not fucking art.

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Yeah.

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Your mom has it.

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Yeah.

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Yeah. Okay.

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Yeah.

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Yeah. Right.

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Yeah. You want all your,

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Yeah. Yeah. And you.

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Hello and welcome to lads anonymous. It's episode 146. I'm Ricky, he's Flav, two best mates. One main topic. We answer your life dilemmas and confessions in our feature. Something only you know. And everything remains anonymous. Always I sit back, relax and enjoy the podcast. We are doing a different type of we're not different type of recording, but it's, on a different bit of software.

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That's the first time that we've done this, and I can hear the theme tune playing. Yeah. Hey, hey.

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Yeah, yeah yeah I know, yeah. The audio is, well, like when we've played videos before and stuff like that, and you're saying, like, I've never been able to hear it, so no no no no. That's good. Yeah. Yeah. It's a.

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Yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah.

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Yeah. For us. We might. Yeah. Lads, anon pod at gmail.com. And like, you know the follow that you send in just right. Don't listen to this.

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Yeah. Anything. Yeah yeah yeah. Sure. Yeah, yeah.

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Try and sing the tune that you want to play. Sing it. Yeah, yeah. Yeah. Oh!

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Yeah, yeah. We love voice notes.

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Think. I'd love that. I mean, I was just about to say, how are you? But I know how you're doing. But what are you drinking? Some kind of. I'm all right, actually. I'm. I'm good. Yeah, I, I just wanted to, like, some just quick bit of housekeeping. The comments from the last pod where we had the guest call from, like, the about pod.

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And the wrestling pod have have been amazing. Thank you very much for all the emails and all the comments on the pod and all the engagement on social and stuff like that. It's been, it's been really widely received, that pod, which is great. Yeah, the rescue man.

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Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah.

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

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I remember that print out a bit because I, I was laughing, you know, when you have that deep belly where it, where it's really down below it comes like guttural. I remember feeling like that afterwards. And then it was some, it just connected so quickly my mind of, you know, Stone Cold Austin. He grabs the mic.

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And that's the bottom line, because Stone cold says so and everyone's like, yeah, 60,000 rest. You know, fans getting mad that you grab the mic like, okay, but yeah. Fucking, very good, very good. I do what I, you know, I just want to go into into something, you know, it just is a bit sad, but I want to read it out.

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I want to I went right, okay. Yeah, yeah. Go go go go.

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Right. Yeah yeah yeah. It it was 13 minutes of full in chat.

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Like, it's go. Just imagine your mum like she. That's the scene that she walks into, and, she think that's what you are, that, her lasting memory of you is like, God, my son is into, like, strangulation. Prone in that, Yeah. Oh, good. Good, good. Yeah. Into the sad bit. I won't say it.

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Well, what? You would love to know how much I appreciate both of you. I've been sitting with my grandfather with a few hours of breaks to go to sleep since Friday, the 17th of April. We were told on Thursday by the hospice nurse that he has transitioned towards the end of his 96 years. Today, Sunday the 19th, as I'm writing this, he could go today.

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He could be stubborn and wait another day or two. But we're close since the person is right there and unfortunately he's passed away. I had to drive to Virginia at 2 a.m. to meet my parents half way from North Carolina to bring my mother here to be with him. I hear a certain two British voices over the air.

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As much as I hear a lot of other voices in front of me. Long drive on Friday and you two were there. I got some things I need to do at home, so I have another long drive today and soon another long drive here. You two will be there again. Ricky and Flav, you guys, are here, and I have no idea what you've done and continue to do for me.

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I've rambled enough. That was just a really long, drawn out way to say thank you. Both of you. It is lovely. And, you know, my condolences to your family and 96 years, man. Like, I know it's you. I know it's you. You know, your grandpa, passing away. What? You know what a fantastic innings, man? 96 years.

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Yeah. At the time. Yeah.

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Ruined. Yeah, I just grabbed that.

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Okay. It's not. It's still happening in eight days. Yeah. As you get it, just having a little peek to see what size they are. Can I have them?

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Yeah. Fuck.

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Yeah. Yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah.

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Yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah I do not watch 25 years after fucking ill.

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Yes.

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Yeah.

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Yeah. Oh bless. Fucking God. Jesus. I just wanted to read that out by it, basically. I know, it's like, obviously thinking, Flav and I, but the person who wrote that in has been a huge supporter of lads from day one. I know, believe you me, I fucking I, I, I know and during when I was sitting up patron it was the first one in and I and you know helped me you know I and I oh the technical bits and pieces and all that that so I just wanted to read it out and, you know, thank you for listening and supporting the show all the time.

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It is, you know, you don't know how much it's appreciate. It's. Yeah, yeah. Legend. Do you have any idea what topic we're speaking about today I'm gonna hazard. Guess you have nothing.

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No, no, someone just sent that to me. Not. Someone that's that's for that. That's completely off topic. That was, you know, the, I'm part of the Tottenham ticketing group. Some of the the admin who who is the owner of that group. I just got a DM on WhatsApp that that was it. That was it. The and I was just like, oh, okay.

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It's come out of nowhere. That one.

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Yeah.

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No, no, I listen to all of it. Yeah.

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How the fuck did I not remember that? Yeah, I will, I will go back and listen. I will that's. Yeah, it's. Yeah, we're not, we're not. But it's about, privacy, social media, oversharing stuff like, the, the whole reason I wanted to do this bit right was because someone sent in an email and said, can you cover this topic?

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And they wrote out a little story for me. Can I find the email? Can I fuck? I don't know where it is. So I'm going to be paraphrasing on behalf of this person. And my apologies. Right. He was in the pub with his mates or something like that, and they were having a discussion and someone mentioned Milton Keynes and he said, oh, my mates from Milton Keynes, and the and they were like, oh, who?

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And then at that moment he was like, This is Ricky from lads and on site and cock. He's not really can I call him my mate? I've never met him like and he suddenly found himself in this parasocial like fuck I, I feel like we are mates. We are, we're mates. But but he was like as he wrote this in to say he mentioned me as his mate because I'm from Milton Keynes and he knows a lot about me.

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But then he was like, you have no idea who I am or I exist.

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Yes. Yeah, yeah. So it's it's parasocial. It's about, privacy, obviously. All of that stuff. So, I mean, like, have you ever felt like, as in, let's all start with, do you have any, parasocial relationships from your side, like this morning, right? Yeah. Yeah, yeah. So this morning. Right. They said, I've got a few. Right.

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So just to get the ball rolling, this morning, I found myself right. Matt Helders, drummer for Arctic Monkeys. He posted something and I did an emoji, like a laughing emoji on the story of, like what? Like, why would I even I, I've done that a few times. Like like he's going to look at his phone and be like, oh, that done the laughing emoji.

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Maybe we should be mate. So maybe you know my name or what? Like what? Like I don't get it. Like, why have I done that a lot? But Mike Skinner before he's done the stuff and I've written oh the go or something like that. Like, not what do I think is going to happen? What do I think he's going to remember my name and or I don't know I don't know why I do these things.

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Yeah. Yeah.

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

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Yeah yeah.

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

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Yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah. Yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah.

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Yeah yeah.

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Well.

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

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Right. What did you just say? We base nice. I did, we just become this mates.

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Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, yeah yeah yeah.

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I did like, and and again, this maybe this isn't, parasocial. I wouldn't put it in that ballpark, but it is in that same ballpark as, a relationship that the other person doesn't know that's happening. And I'm happy to be like, you know, this is what I, what I have done at the moment. Scrubs has a revival, and it's on, one of the streaming platforms, but I won't watch it.

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Yeah. Yeah, they've done a new series. No, not because it's it's got great reviews. So I'm having a a rewatch of the original scrubs. Try to get my kids involved that don't give a fuck. So, yeah. So I'm rewatching it. And I love Zach Braff. Right. So I downloaded a few podcasts that he was on about 3 or 4, and they were like two hour podcast.

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So I really know him intimately from listening to these things. And I hear him saying, oh, yeah, I grew up in, a place called, it South Orange near new Jersey, near Newark. Within seconds. I'm, I'm on Google Maps. Where is this place? Like what? Like. And I'm just searching out where he's. He lives in Los Angeles now, and I'm like, oh, right in this bit here.

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Why is it that we do that thing? Like, do you ever find yourself doing it or am I just this weirdo that it's like people say locations it? I think it's maybe because it's America. I, I have this weird fascination with America and Americans and American culture that I just want to find out as much as possible. Or maybe it's that celebrity thing, I don't know.

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I don't know what it is, why I do that. Do you ever do that? Right? Okay, good. I am forever trying to find out where people are from, and it's so strange.

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Right. Okay. All right. Fine, fine, fine.

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Wow. Really? Okay.

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You listen to. The rest is rest is politics.

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I'm,

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Right, okay, I get. Yeah.

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

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Yeah yeah, yeah.

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Yeah. That. Did you find yourself on Google saying where does Alastair Campbell live? And then look around where he, he lives? If you sure you're a favorite influencer in Tesco, would you approach them? Would you make any kind of engagement as to say, I know who you are? I watch your content, not say it, but, you know, I mean, how's it going?

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And say their name? You're right. James TV. Oh.

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Well, James's. What are they all going to his birthday? Right. Okay. Right.

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Yes.

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I.

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Yeah. Yeah.

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Right. Okay.

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Oh, wow.

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Yeah. Yeah.

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Right. Yeah. Yeah I know. Yeah yeah yeah yeah.

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Really?

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Yeah.

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Yeah. I used to see, when he lived the minute he lived on my road, like, literally a few doors down, I'd always see him, and I was always like, oh, he's in EastEnders in a, Who is it? I used to see all the time. Really fucking famous. He was in, his best mates, Nick Frost, Simon Pegg all the time.

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

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Yeah yeah yeah yeah.

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Right. Okay, here we go.

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Yeah.

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Yeah. Yeah.

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That surprises me. Right. Okay.

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I say when I go to, you know, when I go to Tottenham, obviously, yeah, I do, it's. Yeah. Yeah, I don't mind at all which woman?

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I like do I'll actually I if it's the one I'm I am you can't, you can't say. You can't say no, you can't say.

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Right. Okay. Let's just say she was, when she came and spoke to me, and saw me in person. She was that taken aback. It was with, like, she she put me on a celebrity pedestal like it was very, very high. No, the the should probably be. Listen to this. Yeah, yeah. Oh. And the fighting cock.

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Yeah. Yeah. So lovely. I like I'm always incredibly grateful that anyone ever comes to talk to me. Recognizes my voice like I was. I was queuing for, the train not to get to go into the underground after the game. And I was in the queue, and everyone's facing forwards, and I'm talking to my dad, and the guy in front of me turned round and said, I knew.

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I recognize your voice, Ricky. Love the fighting cock, blah blah, blah, blah. And I was like, that's great, amazing. And around Tottenham and stuff like that, where people, recognize me from, you know, Instagram and whatever else it might be.

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And then there comes a point which happened on Saturday or Sunday, whenever it is that we fucking played Saturday.

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I'm at the urinal. I've got my dick in my hand, and a guy comes up next to me. Ricky. Yep. Fine cock Lahtinen. Yeah mate. Love the podcast. Love it. And I'm just like, you know, you know, I periphery. You can say dicks can't. Yeah. Periphery. You can see dicks. Yeah, yeah. Well, I just look at him up and up and I'm just,

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I feel incredibly vulnerable. Right. He's looking at my dick and he's like, oh, you're Ricky Fowler. Oh, is that what you got? Is it? And I'm like, as he's talking to me, I'm just trying to think of birds, like just trying to get an extra inch out fucking come on, come on. But no, it's those times I'm not.

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I'm grateful for anyone and every interaction online, offline, whatever it might be. But the, you know, the what is the line for you like, for me? Like, if I'm going for a wee, I'm someone's like, showered, showered with me, consume my dick. I can, I can we, can I wait? And then I'll wash my hands and we go out and we do a bit.

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Right. Okay.

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

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Those nights are intense. Yeah yeah yeah.

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Yeah yeah yeah. Oh yeah yeah.

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

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No no no no no no no it's I so again like at Tottenham on Saturday and like totally missed it. I was chanting in a way banging the sides of the, you know, the side of the stadium. And as I'm there chatting, chanting away, enjoying myself, having a beer, singing up, I could see it in the corner of my eye.

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Someone was there looking up, and I'm like, well, it's thousands of people. And then I see a camera go up, and then it's like it's right in my eyeline. And I'm like, it's it's really, really hard for it not to be like, is that me or am I just panicking or am I freaking out? Or like, am I?

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Yeah. Yeah, exactly. It's mental. Right? It's mental. As it turns out, it wasn't me and they sent me the photos afterwards. Right. But what I want to say is as well. And this person is, patron and, so. But I didn't know, I didn't know, I didn't know who it was. We've never had, like, an, face to face interaction.

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And then afterwards, he's on the lower concourse and he's looking up at me, so he's pointing up at me. I don't know who it is. Is he pointing it at me? It's that camera at me. I'm fine to do this, but I don't know. Like, I don't want to be a cunt beater. I not waving like the queen down to, my loyal subject as it would.

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Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. That, I mean, at the time, it didn't feel brilliant. I was like, fucking. No, this is this is on top. This is on top where, like, just get back on, like, the kind of the parasocial of we see a lot of, content creators. By the way, are you into any do you have any content creators that you're following at the moment that you quite like their stuff or.

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Yeah, I know, I know who you're talking about. Know who you talking about? Yeah.

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Yeah.

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What ledge?

00:50:11:15 – 00:50:23:02
Yeah. Yeah.

00:50:23:04 – 00:50:35:08
Yeah.

00:50:35:10 – 00:50:40:16
Yeah.

00:50:40:18 – 00:51:06:01
Yeah. I mean, so that just for that, there's one person that I am quite like in their content at the moment. And he's on TikTok and he's called Charlie Beck's, and he goes in and he just does, food reviews, basically. But he is this I hate this term, like, really hate this term. And I don't really want to say it, but he's like, he's incredibly white, if that makes sense.

00:51:06:03 – 00:51:44:06
He's like this. Yeah. He's this, like, incredibly awkward dress is terribly, He asked for house wool. When he's in the restaurant, he's always tripping over and, like, very clumsy. I don't know, I don't know, but he makes me laugh, and I and I watch a lot of his videos. Because I just find him, awkwardly strange and funny, but, like, if I was to see him, like, would I have that interaction?

00:51:44:06 – 00:52:10:20
Or would I be like, yeah, I know he's very young as well. Very young, baby. Almost. But if you're listening to this, he's not actually a baby. I'm not trying to be friends with baby. I'm not trying to be friends of Charlie. I. I'm just just mentioning him. Right. But I'm saying he's got maybe I can't remember 700,000 followers on TikTok around there with content.

00:52:10:20 – 00:52:26:02
Great. Should you be treating them or should they be treated in the same realm as a celebrity? A an actor?

00:52:26:04 – 00:52:39:13
Yeah.

00:52:39:15 – 00:52:53:18
Yeah.

00:52:53:20 – 00:53:02:10
Yeah.

00:53:02:12 – 00:53:22:04
Yes. Yeah. Yeah. That's true. Yeah.

00:53:22:06 – 00:53:38:06
Right. Yeah. I don't care.

00:53:38:08 – 00:53:51:00
Yeah.

00:53:51:02 – 00:54:04:14
No. Yeah.

00:54:04:16 – 00:54:11:05
Yeah.

00:54:11:07 – 00:54:28:03
He he he literally can't go anywhere in England at the moment without people knowing who he is. And. Yeah, yeah.

00:54:28:05 – 00:54:33:05
Yeah.

00:54:33:07 – 00:54:48:21
Yeah.

00:54:48:23 – 00:55:25:19
Yeah I am so I was scrolling I caught my word Tik Tok on Instagram. I can't remember which one. But there's been a few people that they've come on my screen and Oh matron not that come you know, you know what I mean. Did. Jesus. Did he just, yeah. He, And they, like, I saw, like, you know, thousands, tens of thousands of, heart emojis and comments and stuff like, I don't know who the fuck this person.

00:55:25:21 – 00:56:06:13
And I look, and they're not actors or actresses, but they are influencers, and they've got 2.1 million followers. They've got, you know, 3.8, you know, one point, whatever it might be. And then look at actors from films I'm watching or, or people that are on my TV screen every day. And, and they've got 60,000 followers or whatever, you know, I mean, the disparity of someone that's online, but maybe someone's on someone that's an influencer and they've got millions of followers or a hugely engaged audience in comparison to someone that's on your TV every day, but haven't got that following on social.

00:56:06:13 – 00:56:31:17
But then that person there, oh, don't go and talk to them revered like, oh fuck, they're an actor. They've been in, you know, whatever it might be. But then it's okay to approach an influencer and expect a certain service. Do you know what I mean? You're you're on the internet and, because I comment on you, I should get a photo and you do this video.

00:56:31:17 – 00:56:39:21
Say hello to my mum. Oh, you're an asshole. Do you didn't do that like.

00:56:39:23 – 00:56:56:21
I.

00:56:56:23 – 00:57:04:22
Yeah.

00:57:04:24 – 00:57:14:01
Right. Okay.

00:57:14:03 – 00:57:25:18
Yes.

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Yeah.

00:57:45:06 – 00:58:12:08
Right.

00:58:12:10 – 00:58:26:03
Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.

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Yeah. Yeah.

00:59:00:00 – 00:59:10:13
Yeah.

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Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.

00:59:21:18 – 00:59:45:24
Yeah.

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Yeah.

01:00:06:11 – 01:00:19:20
Oh, yeah. Yeah yeah yeah.

01:00:19:22 – 01:00:32:03
Yeah.

01:00:32:05 – 01:01:10:22
That's insane. Yeah. That is. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah. That is amazing, man. I didn't I mean, I listen to that podcast. I've got something I know in my brain, in my brain, it's like one bit of information goes in and one slides out again. It's like Jenga. Just like just just the building blocks.

01:01:10:24 – 01:01:49:09
Which. Yeah. Which is a wonderful thing. Human connection. And the world where we are losing a lot of human connection that you still have that part where you could feel like that you're reaching out or you're part of something, you're part of a circle, part of a friendship group. When you're listening to, the fighting cock or lights or whatever podcast is that you feel safe, that you're happy that's going to make you laugh, or you're going to kind of be able to, submerge yourself within, this hour that takes you away from whatever it is that you're feeling or going through is a beautiful thing.

01:01:49:11 – 01:02:11:09
And, yeah, like it like you said that the the kind of connotations of parasocial that is a negative thing, when people come up to me and chat to me and everything I like every single time, hugely grateful for anyone that ever comes and speaks to me because I do like, yeah, I'm like, why? Why, why do I just some fucking idiot?

01:02:11:09 – 01:02:40:08
I love microphone, but it's but it is amazing. I think I'm going to leave that there. We are going to go over to what are we going to do now. We've got, and another thing and something I need to know. The topic for next week is Unwritten Rules of Male Friendship. Bro codes. What? Acceptable to cover your mates for life.

01:02:40:13 – 01:03:02:21
If you mates having a little bunk up and you're mates with the wife is is. Yeah. Is that cool? I don't know what takes the pace on what occasion is, you know, crossing the line between mates like you think. I know we're mates, but that is not done, I mate, and once they've crossed the line, can you ever get back?

01:03:02:21 – 01:03:24:04
Can you ever. Is that relationship repairable? So we're going to be chatting about that next week. Unwritten Rules of Male Friendship. If you've got any stories or anything you'd like to share, send in to lads anon pod at gmail.com. Also, if you've got any topic ideas and this one came in from a lad as well, so I thank you very much for that.

01:03:24:04 – 01:03:35:15
If you've got any. Okay. Yes.

01:03:35:17 – 01:03:45:18
I love that idea. That's, that's called a.

01:03:45:20 – 01:04:11:16
Right. Okay. And now we are going to go into and another thing.

01:04:11:18 – 01:04:44:22
I don't have a thing right fucking I tell you what, I am sick and tired of comedians taking over every single podcast like mate, you fucking you're selling outfit is you're selling out arenas and you fucking taken over podcast to the podcast or. Yeah, yeah. No, no, I'm fucking had enough. But not everywhere I turn. Fucking famous comedians and now brought out a podcast.

01:04:44:22 – 01:05:10:12
Oh, it's fucking, I don't know, whatever podcast. And I read in tombstones out like fucking mate. It's saturated out here. Let us little guys have a bit of the pie. Yeah. You're already in for sitting out. Take your on panel fucking shows, you know? I mean.

01:05:10:14 – 01:05:22:09
Yes. You're right. Okay. Yeah. Good. Yeah.

01:05:22:11 – 01:05:38:16
Yeah. Yeah.

01:05:38:18 – 01:06:01:18
Yeah. Day one.

01:06:01:20 – 01:06:11:09
Yeah, yeah. Yeah.

01:06:11:11 – 01:06:20:11
Yeah.

01:06:20:13 – 01:06:33:07
Oh, yes. Yeah. Amen, brother.

01:06:33:09 – 01:06:49:11
I see a comedian the other day. Is that comedian is doing a live tour. It was on a panel show, and then he was like, oh, and I've got my own patron is like, fucking leave some for the rest of us, son.

01:06:49:13 – 01:06:59:23
Yes. Do you know I didn't want to bring this up, actually,

01:07:00:00 – 01:07:28:10
I look, my, I have this thing in me that like. Because I'm part of their patron. Yeah, exactly. Yeah. Yeah, yeah. No, listen, listen, listen. Right there is part of me that is kind of like, putting out the good, you know, karma and that full circle of energy. And if I'm paying for someone's patron, then someone should pay for the last patron.

01:07:28:10 – 01:07:40:06
Do you know what I mean? It's got it kind of moves the the. Yeah, there is that, there is that. I do one more.

01:07:40:08 – 01:07:54:24
Yeah, yeah. He's. Yeah yeah yeah.

01:07:55:01 – 01:08:22:13
Hey. I really yeah yeah yeah. Yeah. Good. You're a real. Yeah. The fuck? You should have punched him. Right. Okay. Look, I've just found the my desk as well.

01:08:22:15 – 01:08:34:15
If if. It. Yeah. Where I am, right, I yeah, yeah, yeah.

01:08:34:17 – 01:08:40:06
Not for you.

01:08:40:07 – 01:08:51:23
Yeah. When he does talk about the goon, is it. Yeah. I'm like, I might just got Skip. Yeah.

01:08:52:00 – 01:09:07:22
Yeah. Right. Okay I get that. Yeah.

01:09:07:24 – 01:09:23:05
Yeah. That is is brilliant right. Yeah. He should do, What, you going to jump over quickly to something, know you know.

01:09:23:06 – 01:09:48:03
I'm sorry. Mum. The festival in Chelmsford got to be around 2009. I was a late teen or early 20s. It was in August, like always. But the weather was awful for most of the weekend. Camping on my own in the in the little too man tent. An important part of the story is that I was camping with about 10 to 15 mates, all in the same area.

01:09:48:05 – 01:10:10:03
Another important point is that my mum was also at the festival with her friends. I got shitfaced every day and night as you do. Only booze, no drugs. But needless to say, what happened in the last night could have been anything that I put in my body. Monday morning I woke up and for the first time the sun was shining.

01:10:10:05 – 01:10:33:17
It was really hot. I was drenched in sweat. At least I thought it was sweat. But no. Turns out I pissed myself. I sit up and unzip my tent. All of my mates are gone. I don't even know what time it is because the battery on my old Nokia, or wherever it was, had gone, but the campsite was really emptied out.

01:10:33:19 – 01:11:00:16
Loads of people had left tents, but you could tell there weren't many people about. I go back into my tent and there's an awful smell and not just piss. It quickly dawns on me. I'd also shit myself. I was panicking, had mum had my mates try to wake me up and just didn't bother because I was completely mangled and stank of shit, surely one of them would have tried.

01:11:00:18 – 01:11:25:00
I gathered what belongings I could and trudged to the car park. Somehow, by some unbelievable luck, I saw people I knew packing their car up. They offered to take me home. I got home and my mum had a face like thunder. Turns out she'd come to my campsite that morning and seen the state I was in and just left me there.

01:11:25:04 – 01:12:08:24
Piss, shit. The lot. We didn't speak for days so other than Monday road mum, that is something only I. I. Made these lines. Yeah. Oh I girl up. Yeah. Yeah. You push a bit too odd. Well you just push and it's like. That doesn't feel like what that should have felt like. It's hot. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

01:12:09:01 – 01:12:20:20
Hahahahahahahaha. I yeah, yeah yeah. Nice.

01:12:20:22 – 01:12:41:11
Yeah. Yeah. It's slightly warm. Yeah. No boiling. No no no. And when you did, you know. What are you doing here? Why have you come in? My boxers. Get out of here.

01:12:41:13 – 01:13:06:02
Nah, I put it through the wash. Yeah, but that might. It's not like I've done a fucking full on, like shit in my mind. Just a bit of liquid wool. I might read it out. So I've been, What I will say with that story is, mate, he's gone camping to the festival with 10 to 15 mates. Woke up.

01:13:06:02 – 01:13:22:18
They were all gone. Next week's episode is going to be on. You know, the golden rule of male friendship. Fucking leaving your mate festival. You've all gone off and gone over there.

01:13:22:20 – 01:13:31:12
Yeah, but I yeah, yeah, I will talk about that. But I tell a lot of things right?

01:13:31:14 – 01:13:54:08
Yeah, but I didn't know what I was doing. Right. I okay so unwritten rules of male friendship, bro codes, what's acceptable to cover for your mates and all of that stuff. Send in any stories you have or any voice notes that you have. Lads. Unknown pod at gmail.com. Patrons. You're going to get this today. Friday. All you normies.

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You'll get this on Monday. Whatever you're doing, I hope you have a bloody wonderful week.